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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Jun 30
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Bengali (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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OK, Cupid, I am back after a much needed hiatus, and now I'm ready to bring joy into someone's life (and if I can't do that, or if I'm bringing misery, then I won't waste your time or mine!)

I have a broad range of interests, including music, science, philosophy, and language, but I also can be very focused. I have found it essential to maintain a sense of (appropriate!) humor whenever possible. I am a naturally friendly person, but I always try to give other people space and not impose myself on them.

I am thoughtful, creative, and passionate.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am helping to preserve and maintain an ancient musical tradition from northern India. I also practice, teach and perform other kinds of music, from Henryk Wieniawski to Hank Williams. I try to spend time making other people happy, and being in a relationship is one way of doing that (it certainly shouldn't be about making someone unhappy).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music, especially playing the violin or viola and singing, although I am also a competent guitarist, mandolinist, uke player and keyboardist. At its best, music brings people together and elevates consciousness. I believe anyone can learn music and should not be intimidated by elitism and egos.

I love studying languages, having become fluent in German (I spent my junior undergrad year at Ruprecht Karls Universitaet Heidelberg), taken a few years of Japanese (that's mostly gone, sadly) and now struggling with Hindi (I have hundreds of classical bandishes memorized, but I can't hold a real conversation) and Bengali.

I am continually getting better at finding humor in the absurdity of sentience. So, I started a fake religion on Facebook.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am usually carrying an instrument of some sort, and I'm pretty tall, so it's hard for me to hide. I tend to smile a lot and be on the move.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As a cautionary tale for teachers, nothing beats Peter Abelard's "Historia Calamitatus" (ouch!).
Grew up reading Heinlein and Tolkien then Mishima [!], lately Murakami's "Wind Up Bird Chronicles" and other Asian fiction; Goethe is great, T.C. Boyle is badass, Isaac Bashevis Singer takes me to my inner shtetl, and I'll read almost anything about history (currently Marc Bloch's "The Royal Touch") or mythology...
I love classical music (European, Persian, Arabic, Turkish, Hindustani [duh], Georgian), Jazz, the Blues, Bluegrass, Western Swing (Bob Wills is King!), Reggae, (Jamaican and a little two-tone) Ska, Old School Rap, early Punk, etc. (Not a big rocker, but I get in the mood sometimes)
I seem to prefer movies that are in black and white (anyone who loves movies should watch "Tetro", then go back and watch "Rumblefish") or have subtitles (or both), but I'll take some Jim Jarmusch, Monika Treut or Woody Allen in a pinch. Just bought "Dil Se" and find it deeply disturbing but interesting.
I love food from India, the "Middle East", Ethiopia, and anywhere else if it's fresh and not too meaty.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
air, water, food, shelter, music and love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How did we get here (as life forms, as a "civilization," etc)? What can I do to make my short stay here meaningful and not too unpleasant for myself and others? Is it time for lunch?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing music (gigging, practicing etc), or seeing someone else perform.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was a teenager, I would compulsively flair my nostrils because I thought it would make me more handsome (really!).
You should message me if
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You're looking for someone out of the ordinary (in good ways!)