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Working on Post grad
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OK, well, it won't be comprehensive, but here's a little still frame, a still life, a glimpse into a process. My friends would say that I'm a gentle soul trapped inside of a burly body, generous, animated, out of sympathy with most prevailing currents of society, yet always smiling and seeing the best in people and situations.

I'm seeking to take heart of life because love brings ecstasy and friends are the greatest thing ever.

I am here, on OKcupid, and so are you! The odds are like tossing a penny into the air and having it land square on an ant!
What I’m doing with my life
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-Formally, I'm getting a Ph.D in Psychology/Neuroscience at Vanderbilt University (it's my fifth year)

The National Eye Institute and the National Institute of Mental Health pay me to study higher mental abilities like attention and memory in healthy individuals, and how these cognitive processes break down in neuropsychiatric illnesses, like schizophrenia.

However, I don't think professions (i.e., "what you do"), define who people are. We are so much more, at least we can be!

-Laughing uncontrollably and whirling like a dervish

My mom says I was an extremely happy baby so I've been whirling for a while.

-Loving every minute and thanking my lucky stars for every privilege

-Breathing large airs and great spaces

-Escaping the confines of the doctrinal system though still navigating on the grid

-Being open, vulnerable, and generous to fully experience things

-Making music that sinks to depths below your plumb-line (mostly piano)

-Dancing with limbs akimbo and feet kicking up dust

-Singing like the weak pipings and shrill quaverings of some seaport hag with a gin-cracked throat, ill-nourished and untrained

-Drunken in new and deep ways, fired with love and with a glimpse of higher and eternal life; with books, that have set a myriad maggots of desire gnawing on my brain!
I’m really good at
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Here's what I try to be good at:

-Putting myself in other people's shoes, escaping the skin and trying to understand. I love it. I thrive on the feeling. I want to constantly be unhoused, shaking up my world.

-Making complex things simple and understandable. Outside poetry, literature, and the arts, if an idea can be stated with mono-syllables and high-frequency words then it should be (I think), and if it can't, well, then that's OK and possibly interesting.

-Being spontaneous. I'm up for virtually anything, always and forever.

-Seeing humor in "unhumorous" situations.

-Gossiping about people's virtues, not their vices.

-Cooking. I'll have you salivating like a prattling infant.

-Skateboarding. My K-grinds and backside flips will have you sick to your stomach.

-Classical piano. I taught for a decade and have played since I was 8 yrs old.

-Throwing things. I was a college baseball pitcher. I threw a no-hitter.

-Letting others be as free as possible to discover things for themselves

-Not judging others for poor grammar or speaking badly. Secretly, this is easy if you have some background in theoretical linguistics.

-Decoding contemporary new-speak/ the terminology of political discourse

-doing some math and computer programming. My latest feat was modeling the path of current flow through the brain, essentially using a fancy 3D version of Ohm's Law.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I smile a lot. I'm nearly always happy. I think I'm missing a gene.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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MUSIC: Anything that turns my flesh to spirit. Anything that makes my feet no longer clay! I'm into substantive meaningful acoustic stuffs like Ani Difranco, Counting Crows, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Paul Simon, Tori Amos, Neil Young, Woody Guthrie, Cat Stevens, Mumford and Sons, Ryan Adams, Pearl Jam, Andrew Bird. I also love music about peace and social justice. Anything with soul and passion and truth, a full-mouthed scream from the back of the throat like of a dead-march of a gnat amid the trumpeting of elephants and the roaring of lions, insatiable with microscopic desire!

Fun and dance stuffs are also irresistible, like Del Shannon, Arcade Fire, Bell and Sebastian, Magnetic Fields, Coldplay, Radiohead, iron and wine, postal service, yeah yeah yeahs, the mountain goats, band of horses, the clash, muse, new order, jeff lewis, tears for fears, the spinto band, neutral milk hotel, matt and kim, death cab, phoenix, okkervil river, the shins, regina speckor, joy division, clap your hands say yeah, talking heads, frightened rabbit, the temper trap, pulp, the comeback of st. thomas, jens lekman...(I'm less plugged into new music as I was during high school).

And of course my roots in metal and punk, like overcast, dissolve, crass, nofx, rage..and classical music like Chopin, Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Satie, Liszt...

AUTHORS: I choose my roll models a la carte, meaning I try to take the most admirable qualities from a range of great thinkers. The list is long but includes names like Noam Chomsky, Howard Zinn, Isaac Newton, Rosa Luxenburg, Rene Descartes, Bell Hooks, Langston Hughes, Aaron Swartz, Michael Albert, Dalton Trumbo, Emma Goldman, Bertrand Russell, Neil Degrasse Tyson, Picasso, Mark Twain, John Dewey...

What are "admirable qualities" in my opinion? Here's an example of someone who gets it.

November 5, 2006

Dear Xavier High School, and Ms. Lockwood, and Messrs Perin, McFeely, Batten, Maurer and Congiusta:

I thank you for your friendly letters. You sure know how to cheer up a really old geezer (84) in his sunset years. I don't make public appearances any more because I now resemble nothing so much as an iguana.

What I had to say to you, moreover, would not take long, to wit: Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what's inside you, to make your soul grow.

Seriously! I mean starting right now, do art and do it for the rest of your lives. Draw a funny or nice picture of Ms. Lockwood, and give it to her. Dance home after school, and sing in the shower and on and on. Make a face in your mashed potatoes. Pretend you're Count Dracula.

Here's an assignment for tonight, and I hope Ms. Lockwood will flunk you if you don't do it: Write a six line poem, about anything, but rhymed. No fair tennis without a net. Make it as good as you possibly can. But don't tell anybody what you're doing. Don't show it or recite it to anybody, not even your girlfriend or parents or whatever, or Ms. Lockwood. OK?

Tear it up into teeny-weeny pieces, and discard them into widely separated trash recepticals. You will find that you have already been gloriously rewarded for your poem. You have experienced becoming, learned a lot more about what's inside you, and you have made your soul grow.

God bless you all!

Kurt Vonnegut

MOVIES: my favorite movie is Harold and Maude, my favorite cartoons are Robin Hood and The Sword in the Stone, my favorite documentary is Creating Freedom: The Lottery of Birth. I think Bill Murray is a comedic genius. Philip Seymour Hoffman in Polly, and Vince Vaughn in Made were hilarious. I like Woody Allen as a director because his films are usually character driven focused on real, meaningful human interactions. Generally, good escapism, good documentaries, whatever the genre, I just prefer that it's of a high quality.

FOOD: When it comes to food I ball out of control. I cook a lot, and strive for the freshest, healthiest foods. When I'm not talking about nature or the way the human social world works, I'm talking about a new recipe.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

My friends from home, 3 guys, who I've known since the beginning. We're unusual. Our way of being and comedy is hard to describe. It's situational. It's sometimes profound and layered and paradigmatic. It's often dry, sarcastic, off-beat, mostly about timing, delivery, and intonation. I pride myself on these guys. They're beautiful, high principled, dynamic and real. They help make me who I am. I feel so lucky to have met them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to save the world, help people, understand nature's secrets, and love.

If there's say a 1% chance of our species surviving, I think that it's rational to throw ourselves behind that 1%. I believe in people. I believe they have the capacities to understand most everything that we can grasp, and that all us ordinary folks have the opportunity to be extraordinary.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Outdoors, viewing the sunset, star gazing, meeting new people, walking, bicycle riding, dancing demented stone sober, meandering the streets, writing, listening to lectures, poetry or live music, skateboarding, cooking, and seeing humor in ordinary situations.

For me, it's all about the company you keep, and much less about the activities you're involved in.
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I try to put aside the superficial aspects of life, like measuring people against some hierarchy of coolness, age, race, class, aesthetics, whatever. This approach has led me to wonderful people. I'll give anyone a shot, but I especially love those with compassion, humility, and inquisitiveness.

If you've read this far, and let's say we never meet, well then, I have a little gift for you that you can take with you. A word of encouragement, a battle cry.

You are beautiful, you are intelligent, and you are not alone in the way you feel. Stay energized, stay participating, and stay thinking for yourself.

P.S. Bernie Sanders 2016. Please vote in the primary. Join the love train!