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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Wants kids

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My self-summary
OK, well, it won't be comprehensive, but here's a little still frame, a still life, a glimpse into a process. My friends would say that I'm a gentle soul trapped inside of a burly body, generous, animated, out of sympathy with most prevailing currents of society, yet always smiling and seeing the best in people and situations.

I'm seeking to take heart of life because love brings ecstasy and friends are the greatest thing ever.

I am here, on OKcupid, and so are you! The odds are like tossing a penny into the air and having it land square on an ant!
What I’m doing with my life
-Getting a Ph.D in Neuroscience at Vanderbilt

The National Eye Institute and the National Institute of Mental Health pay me to study higher mental abilities like attention, memory, and how we control our thoughts and actions.

-Laughing uncontrollably and whirling like a dervish

My mom says I was an extremely happy baby so I've been whirling for a while.

-Loving every minute and thanking my lucky stars for every privilege

-Breathing large airs and great spaces

-Escaping the skin (i.e. theory/model-building)

-Escaping the confines of the doctrinal system though still navigating on the grid

-Being open, vulnerable, and generous to fully experience things

-Making music that sinks to depths below your plumb-line (mostly piano)

-Dancing with limbs akimbo and feet kicking up dust

-Singing like the weak pipings and shrill quaverings of some seaport hag with a gin-cracked throat, ill-nourished and untrained

-Drunken in new and deep ways, fired with love and with a glimpse of higher and eternal life; with books, that have set a myriad maggots of desire gnawing on my brain!
I’m really good at
Putting myself in other people's shoes, escaping the skin and trying to understand. I love it. I thrive on the feeling. I want to constantly be unhoused, shaking up my world.

Making complex things simple and understandable. This is a life-long pursuit. I've always admired people like mathematicians who can use simple language to explain nontrivial things.

Being spontaneous. I'm up for virtually anything, always and forever.

Seeing humor in "unhumorous" situations.

Gossiping about people's virtues, not their vices.

Cooking. I'll have you salivating like a prattling infant.

Skateboarding. My K-grinds and backside flips will have you sick to your stomach.

Classical piano.

Throwing things. I was a college baseball pitcher.

Letting others be as free as possible to discover things for themselves

Not judging others for poor grammar or speaking badly. Secretly, this is easy if you have some background in theoretical linguistics.

Decoding contemporary new-speak/ the terminology of political discourse
The first things people usually notice about me
That I smile a lot. I'm nearly always happy. I think I'm missing a gene.

From my experience, the cultural stereotypes that I'm typically reduced to based on my appearance are squashed once people get to know me. The experience keeps me from judging others by externals.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
MUSIC: Anything that turns my flesh to spirit. Anything that makes my feet no longer clay! You can read a person sometimes by the music they listen to. I'm into substantive meaningful acoustic stuffs like Ani Difranco, Counting Crows, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Paul Simon, Tori Amos, Cat Stevens, Mumford and Sons, Ryan Adams, Andrew Bird. Anything with soul and passion and truth, a full-mouthed scream from the back of the throat like of a dead-march of a gnat amid the trumpeting of elephants and the roaring of lions, insatiable with microscopic desire!

Fun and dance stuffs are also irresistible, like Del Shannon, Arcade Fire, Bell and Sebastian, Magnetic Fields, Coldplay, Radiohead, iron and wine, postal service, yeah yeah yeahs, the mountain goats, band of horses, the clash, jeff lewis, tears for fears, the spinto band, neutral milk hotel, matt and kim, death cab, phoenix, okkervil river, the shins, regina speckor, joy division, clap your hands say yeah, talking heads, frightened rabbit, the temper trap, pulp, the comeback of st. thomas, jens lekman...

And of course my roots in metal and punk, like overcast, dissolve, crass, nofx, rage..and classical music like Chopin, Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Satie, Liszt...

AUTHORS: I choose my roll models ala carte, meaning I try to take the most admirable qualities from a range of great thinkers. The list is long but includes names like Noam Chomsky, Howard Zinn, Isaac Newton, Rene Descartes, Bell Hooks, Langston Hughes, Michael Albert, Bertrand Russell, Neil Degrasse Tyson, Picasso.

What are "admirable qualities" in my opinion? Here's an example of someone who gets it.

November 5, 2006

Dear Xavier High School, and Ms. Lockwood, and Messrs Perin, McFeely, Batten, Maurer and Congiusta:

I thank you for your friendly letters. You sure know how to cheer up a really old geezer (84) in his sunset years. I don't make public appearances any more because I now resemble nothing so much as an iguana.

What I had to say to you, moreover, would not take long, to wit: Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what's inside you, to make your soul grow.

Seriously! I mean starting right now, do art and do it for the rest of your lives. Draw a funny or nice picture of Ms. Lockwood, and give it to her. Dance home after school, and sing in the shower and on and on. Make a face in your mashed potatoes. Pretend you're Count Dracula.

Here's an assignment for tonight, and I hope Ms. Lockwood will flunk you if you don't do it: Write a six line poem, about anything, but rhymed. No fair tennis without a net. Make it as good as you possibly can. But don't tell anybody what you're doing. Don't show it or recite it to anybody, not even your girlfriend or parents or whatever, or Ms. Lockwood. OK?

Tear it up into teeny-weeny pieces, and discard them into widely separated trash recepticals. You will find that you have already been gloriously rewarded for your poem. You have experienced becoming, learned a lot more about what's inside you, and you have made your soul grow.

God bless you all!

Kurt Vonnegut

MOVIES: I think Bill Murphy and Philip Seymour Hoffman are comedic geniuses. Vince Vaughn in the movie Made was hilarious. I like Woody Allen films too because they are character driven focused on real, meaningful human interactions. Good escapism, good documentaries, whatever the genre, I just prefer that it's of a high quality.

FOOD: I'm pretty frugal in consuming things in general, but when it comes to food I ball out of control. I cook a lot, and strive for the freshest, healthiest foods.
The six things I could never do without
Free spirits, free lovers, free thinkers, and the most desiccated of cleverly apt expressions and keen perceptions of sympathetic souls who marvel and are so curious by question as to jade consciousness by study, deep underground, ceaselessly active, head and hand, devoted to furnishing that intelligence as all the broad and spacious corridors of the mind open to a great orgy of imagination!


My friends from home, 3 guys, who I've known since the beginning. We're unusual. Our way of being and comedy is hard to describe. It's situational. It's sometimes profound and layered and paradigmatic. It's often dry, sarcastic, off-beat, mostly about timing, delivery, and intonation. I pride myself on these guys. They're beautiful, high principled, dynamic and real. They help make me who I am. I feel so lucky to have met them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to save the world, help people, understand nature's secrets, and love.

In general, I like big ideas and many of them at the same time, that push at the edges of my capacity to grasp and hold onto them.

If there's say a 1% chance of our species surviving, I think that it's rational to throw ourselves behind that 1%. I believe in people. I believe they have the capacities to understand most everything that we can grasp, and that all us ordinary folks have the opportunity to be extraordinary.

And of course stuff like this:
On a typical Friday night I am
Sunsets, star gazing, meeting new people, walking, bicycle riding, dancing demented stone sober, meandering the streets, writing, listening to lectures, poetry or live music, skateboarding, cooking, and seeing humor in ordinary situations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think that love is wise and hatred is foolish.

Or a more long-winded, detailed response:

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.


By Oriah
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–34
  • Near me
You should message me if
you made it this far and your eyes did not glaze over in boredom.

you want to make fun of me.

You enjoy thinking, like playing with ideas without necessarily accepting them.

You are not submerged in the superficial things in life, like fashionable consumption.

You consider yourself radicalized to some degree.

you want to dance like you totally own it without a care in the world.

you want to go pick apples with me or snap photos at an abandoned amusement park.

you want to make dinner and kick it low key.

you want to run through a sprinkler.

you want to crash trash night at a dive bar

you have something to exclaim.

"To fear love is to fear life. And those who fear life are already three parts dead". You should message me if you are not already three parts dead. That is, if your blood can turn into wine and sing through your veins. ...Or if you just feel like it. Meeting new people is cool.