Born and raised in NJ. Schooled and worked in NYC. 35+ years in Chicago and now, Los Angeles. 35 years in publishing in NYC and Chicago.
Have a daughter and son -- 16-year old twins -- who live with their mom and sometimes me. They teach me love, humility, pride, patience and, mostly, worry!!
Like to hike, read, work out, dine out, see movies/plays/comedy, do museums, etc.; but, please note that cooking is not included in the "etc." Also, these are things I like but doesn't mean I do them all all the time. Do love to laugh and see others laugh as well. You know, like having fun. Don't play golf or watch TV; nope, not even Orange is the New Black. Also like photography - taking/editing/viewing photos; but don't do it as much as I'd like. Consider myself honest, caring, generous, curious, smart, funny, sensual, blah, blah, blah, although I'm biased here. But I do try hard at these qualities and manage to achieve one or two of them every once in a while sometimes. The only way to really know, I guess, is by getting to know me.
In good shape (the result of many mindless hours in the gym) and fortunate to look and act younger than my age. Not religious at all, but used to meditate, and believe in karma and the power of love. Among the many simple pleasures I enjoy are chocolate-dipped ice cream cones at Dairy Queen and the NY Times crosswords on Sunday mornings, with a cup of coffee in one hand and a pencil in the other. On the top of list of the more sophisticated pleasures I enjoy is ... hmm, think I better save that one for later.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to grow intellectually and spiritually, but not corporeally. Big NPR, NYT, New Yorker fan. Also, try to improve my world -- the people, places, things in it -- or, at least, not make them worse. Being a good dad. Staying healthy, like working out a lot and eating kale. I’ve accomplished some things. I’ve also experienced enough to understand the things that are truly important in this life -- MONEY, POWER and SEX (jk!!). For me now in my life, it's about people, principles and simple pleasures. I think I've done some good, albeit, not on a global scale, but good nonetheless. Although I’m content to go it alone, I know life could be richer with another person, the right person. And, searching for that person is another thing I’m doing.
I’m really good at
I don't know. Listening, I think. Being a dad. Being there for people. Business. Punctuation. Crosswords. Photography.
The first things people usually notice about me
People usually don't notice me. Kidding. It seems to be my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Generally, movies, books and music that are positive. Books -- as a former publisher, I love books, all books, but lately am into short stories and novels. Movies -- all-time favorite is South Pacific. Don't know why, maybe it's the great songs like "I'm Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair" or "I'm as Corny as Kansas in August." I have no idea. A close second is Bridge on the River Kwai. Hmm ... both are WWII movies. Don't know what that's about. Also like small indie/foreign films (was a Truffaut aficionado in the 60's-70's in NY during my pseudo-intellectual, auteur-worshipping period). Also enjoy an intelligent romantic comedy. Don't like horror or violence. Music -- am partial to female vocalists -- Lisa Stanfield, Sia, Adele, Sheryl Crow, Amy Grant, etc. I like classic rock (60's, 70's and 80's). Also love the old standards. Linda Ronstadt's "'Round Midnight" is a favorite album, but I have to be in a good place to listen to it. Food -- like all kinds and eat just about everything, but tend to be healthy on a daily basis.
The six things I could never do without
Excepting all the obvious ones like air, water, food, health, love, my kids, friends, etc., it would be laughter, exercise, books, camera, computer and NPR.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Human behavior, global and local. People continually amaze me in both good and bad ways. Also, think of my kids a lot, like what they'll be saying to their therapists about me when they're adults and hoping they'll be kinder than I was about mine.
On a typical Friday night I am
Keeping busy at home, reading, editing photos, just hanging out, doing something with the kids or out with a friend(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It's probably in those okcupid questions I answered!!
You should message me if
you can relate to the above.