So I decided mid last week to start tooling around with my OKC details to see how much I can affect the different aspects of my online experience.

My first move was to seek help on the forum to answer a question I'd had for a while. This was basically "What's it mean when you get loads of stalkers, but none contact you, nor do they respond to woos or messages? Is there something in my profile that's clearly turning them off?"

And people were very helpful.

Something that is striking to me is just how way-of-base my expectations were. I figured that all humor was god, that all forms of honesty would be seen positively. But how naive was I?!

So now its time to try and take the advice, so kindly offered by the forum posters.

First off: Casual encounters = Bad to most

I thought this would simply be an indication of what I'm open to. Not and indictment against me for having low moral values. Reading elsewhere though, its excluding me from achieving my "higher goal" of finding love. So. I'll simply not "seek" that sort of thing here. It kind of disturbs me though, as I'm well enough read, and have enough real life experience to know that, given the right combination of factors, almost everyone is open to a casual encounter.

So, is it being disingenuous? I think not. Its just an aspect of self that potential matches will have to find out about through engaging me in conversation. And its something I'm more than happy to not actively seek, if it helps with those more important types of connection.

Next: Mentioning thinking about sex seems to creep out most people.

It was meant as a pun about the male condition. So ... I'll be making that entry more serious, and less potentially offensive.

And finally, for this weekend,

more photos

This is surprisingly hard as I have so few of me. This is largely because I'm usually the one in the group taking the pictures. But there have to be more of me some place. And if not, how hard could it be to get a friend to take a few?