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42 Sunnyvale, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:35am
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Christianity but it’s not important
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A friend once described me this way: "[weasels...] is one of the most wonderfully complex people I have ever met." I think that's a beautiful compliment.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I'm working really hard at a startup, writing software. It makes a real difference in your outlook when you're able to do something you love and be appreciated for it. It finally feels like I'm doing something I'm supposed to be doing again.

Letting work eat my life was something I needed to do for a while, but now I want to bring some balance back. Remember some stuff I liked to do, once upon a time, and actually do it. Make some new friends, have some new experiences, plan to do something that scares me. (Want to help?)

I feel like I should also say, "okay, this time for real." Social inertia is insidious.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
taking the wrong turn, making coffee, mixing drinks, cooking with a recipe, and making computers do what I want. I'm moderately good at crossword puzzles, cooking without a recipe, and voiding warranties on things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My dry sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read, but I'm woefully behind on my reading list. Some authors who persist in my brainspace, no matter what I'm currently reading include Douglas Coupland, Ian Banks, William Gibson, Guy Gavriel Kay, George R.R. Martin, Douglas Hofstadter, and Charles Sheffield.

More recently, short stories by Kelly Link, new-to-me sci-fi by Sharon Lee and Steve Miller, and the Darkside novels by Simon Green. (It's mental popcorn, but very readable.)

I tend to collect TV shows on my TiVo and think I'll watch them later. Sometimes I even do. I used to keep up with House, and even today I'd happily watch a re-run. I'm completely charmed by Grimm, as cheesy as it is. I recently broke down and subscribed to cable, after years without it. Now I have a minor-league obsession with Chopped. It's not exactly instructional TV, but it reminds me that I can just improvise in the kitchen and it will probably be okay. It's how I recently inspired myself to make a late-night dinner for myself with the random stuff I had in the kitchen. "Okay, must use chicken thighs, Korean chili powder, black vinegar, fish sauce... ready, go!" (It was okay.)

Don't ask me what happened on this week's episode of anything though. Odds are it's on a hard drive somewhere, waiting for me to watch it... eventually. :)

The music I like tends towards synthpop and electronica. But also, if it's on KSCU, there's a higher than average probability that it's something I like. Currently listening to Autechre, Boards of Canada, and Pandora streams seeded from blurry electronic pop. Happy to have discovered Slow Magic by accident somehow, and Neon Indian, Washed Out, and a bunch of other stuff while looking for more Slow Magic.

As far as food goes, I am omnivoracious. Is it good? I'm probably down for it. Korean is a consistent favorite, because everything at Omogari used to be delicious. (The quality has plummeted since the previous owners sold the business.) Do you know the best cheeseburger in the Bay Area? Let me know. Absinthe has a perfect one, but one can't go there all the time. Or somewhere that deserves to be my new regular Korean place? I miss having somewhere to go every week where the Soondubu Jigae will be perfect... And Sunny's kimchi... Man, I miss Omogari...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
desserts in the custard family,
pickled vegetables,
long sunny days,
and my family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the things that I like that I'm not doing enough of.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably still at work. Life at a startup... See also Monday night, Tuesday night...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Not a chance. The internet is forever, friends. :-) But go ahead and ask me something.

Hmm. Well, okay. It's not a big secret, but I'm not on Facebook. Is that even allowed anymore? I guess this makes me a totally un-hip relic from the Dark Times.

If you're observant, there is actually a sorta-secret in my profile.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
it sounds like we'd get along, if you'd like to meet a nice guy. If you'd like to try making awkward smalltalk over coffee. If you're at least 20% cooler