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37 / M / Straight / Seeing someone
San Diego, California
His journal posts
Mar 8, 2011
The reason I'm writing this journal entry is because I've found myself in an uncomfortable spot in life that I'd like to avoid in the future. I just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship, and I have no social life. Before the breakup, I would spend 3+ days a week with my girlfriend and her daughter. Now I have a large amount of free time that I dont know what to do with, and I'm finding myself to be quite lonely. I know I'm a funny and interesting guy with a lot to offer, but how do I convey that to strangers ? I'm not looking to get into a relationship right now, or even start dating. I'm just looking for friends. The problem is I can't seem to find any site on the internet that can help me to make new friends. The process of becoming friends with someone is a long one, consisting of regular and frequent communication, especially at the start of a relationship when it is just getting established. I've tried meetup groups, and they seem to work ok, but they're not that great for building or maintaining the relationship; just for initiating it. Which brings me to my only hypothesis: I think Facebook is the way to make new friends. It seems odd to me at first, because Facebook is supposed to be for people you are already friends with. The reason I think Facebook is useful for making new friends is because it allows you a glimpse into whats going on in the other persons life, without being obtrusive about it. You can comment on what other people are doing, find things that you have in common with, and build the relationship thru a slow series of online interactions. I think Facebook takes the burden out of building a relationship by allowing you to build and maintain one online, and then you can further cement the relationship by meeting in person.
This leaves me with one final question - How do you find someone you might want to be friends with, and get them to add you as a friend on facebook, before you're really even friends ?
I'd love anyones comments on this. For someone who is naturally introverted, making friends is hard. I'd love help on this.