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55 M Byron Bay, Australia

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Last Online
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6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Dutch (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Indonesian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
If you've been following my status I use to say 'It's complicated' because I always found that FaceBook status option perfectly described me, but all of that has changed and Life is Great. For a long time I tried that thing where you live in the same house as your ex and it sucks, but I really liked seeing my kids everyday. Well, that has changed. I now have my own place and live on my own (with the dog). I'm still getting settled as I convert an industrial space into a great place to live. I am really excited about the changes and think everything is looking pretty darn good.

When I was 26, I took a standby flight to London and never returned. I had a lot of adventure and went to over 60 countries, learned some languages and had a great time. I sort of define myself as a traveller, but really I've been in Byron Bay so long now I'm not sure that is valid.

I started my own business thinking it would lead to travel, but it's done the opposite - I became tied to my computer and phone. When my business was really successful I let it consume me. Then, I had a break where I lost interest. I went away for 6 months and it ticked along. I came back and worked it some with much less passion. Now, we're both sustaining each other sort of.

I like books and movies. I like to play at sports. Currently re-discovering surfing and was running 3 times a week and seem to have gone off that. Would like to dance more and in the perfect world I would do something like walk from Varanasi to Rishikesh or perhaps 'that' trail going from France to Spain. I recently did some hardcore wilderness walks and that was good, but I walked alone and think it would be better to have more people contact and worry less about carrying a lot of water. I'm also considering a taking 6 months and doing a ski season in Colorado (not sure my knees will agree).

I would like to meet someone and have a causal relationship that may or may not go anywhere long term. In fact, I need to rediscover my sexuality in a happy, healthy and fun way. I would like to kiss someone passionately in the park and have the world around me disappear... to feel the tingle of excitement and touch of a woman... to get lost in the scent and passion. To learn something about tantra and feel how life can be elevated in those rare moments of discovery.

I'm coming out of a 20 year relationship. We have a fairly good ongoing relstionship and with 2 teenagers we still talk a bit. The kids both live with her while I get my living space sorted. My oldest one plans to travel for a year soon when she finishes high school. Lucky girl has Dutch and US passports and Australian Residence. My kids are very important to me.

Yeah... life is complicated. There is what you have and what you want, fixing what is broken, finding new and working with the cards life has dealt you.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, I seem to be doing my best to avoid work (in fact I should be sending out invoices now). At the moment I seem to be working about 4 hours a week, but I am always on call should someone really need me, which makes it feel like I work more than I do.

If the surf is up, I’m in the water. I’ve just ordered a new surfboard which should be finished any day now – perhaps this will be my next love affair. ;)

I enjoy playing at various things and my ultimate goal is to stay fit and strong. I just had a birthday at the end of November.

I’m enjoying doing workshops and courses based on understanding myself and others as well as learning to be a better lover. A recent class on called The Art and Science of Female Arousal blew me away because it gave me so much new information on a subject I had thought I knew... just goes to show you that you can teach an old dog new tricks. But as they say, practice, practice, practice.
I’m really good at
I'm pretty logical at finding solutions for others, but seem to often get it wrong when it comes to my own life. My views on things are out of the box. I'm pretty good at websites and copy writing. I throw a mean frisbee. I enjoy languages - wouldn't mind having a go at speaking French again. I can be funny in a quirky way.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall (6'4") and I'm American. That is when they see me. In fact, living here in Byron Bay which is full of young beautiful people - I often feel invisible. People don't generally bump into me and I doubt I could go into the back of the bank and get money, but still I feel invisible. Would like to be seen more. I use to be really obvious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like historical fiction, Cormac McCarthy, Michael Connelly, Steinbeck, Robin Hobb, Richard K Morgan, Ursula K. Le Guin. Getting back into Sci-fi after a long rest. Always like a good historical fiction. Can you have a favourite book? Maybe Grapes of Wrath, The Great Gatsby, or The Crossing by Cormac McCarthy. I have a Kindle and read a lot.

Any movie with Adrien Brody - he picks such cool movies. Really enjoyed The Descendents with George Clooney and generally like Sci-Fi movies as well as action, but I like any good movie. I thought Breaking Bad, Boston Legal, West Wing and Life were great tv shows. Sadly I get most of my news from the Daily Show and Colbert, but I also really like Q&A and Insight. Treme is great - love the music and idea. Newsroom... why isn't reality. Men of a Certain Age... I can relate!

I usually go to the Blues Festival here in Byron Bay - this year was amazing - Santana was the greatest, Paul Simon... well of course, Iggy Pop was an animal, Steve Miller and Jimmy Cliff were more interesting than I expected, Seth Lakeman did an incredible one man thing, and so much more. Did the 5 days and loved it rain and shine.

Seems to only listen to Spotify now which makes just about anything you can think of immediately available. Currently listening to Chicken Lips, Basement Freaks, All Good Funk Alliance and Fort Knox Five. I like a lot of different music - White Strips, Art Pepper, Coltrane, Buddy Guy, John Lee Hooker, Nirvana, and soooo much more. I like to dance, but I'm not good at couples dancing (salsa, tango, etc) - too complicated. Favourite dancing is reggae or dub. Prefer what my daughter calls 'hippy dancing' at a country hall or at 5 Rthyms. Try to dance 2 or 3 times a week - great excercise.

I like most food - Asian as well as burgers. Could live on pasta and pizza. Eat way too much bread out of shear laziness. I can eat meat or vegetarian. Probably tend to salty more than sweet.
The six things I could never do without
Exercise - that silly kind where you're trying to land a frisbee in an exact spot on a windy day, running through a forest barefoot in the rain, catching a wave in clear warm water,

My Kindle - always reading something,

Conversation - I seem to have opinions on everything and love to be shocking and irreverent,

Challenge and Adventure - drawn to taking risks and going off try new things. Love to travel on a one way ticket and see what happens,

Movies - yep I love getting lost in a good story and I’m as happy on the wild ride of action as the intellectual journey,

Kissing and Touch - love that feeling of getting out of the mind and into my body through the touch of a woman’s lips and the press of naked skin. Letting the 5 senses take over from the chattering mind and being in the now – that amazing rhythmic connection of permission to let all the barriers fall and just be with someone.

Being FREE
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good question! The answer to this one changes 10 times a minute. Statistically, I’m a guy so at least 8 of those 10 thoughts are about sex, but that is too obvious and too boring to relate.

Ever feel like you’re on the cusp of something, but don’t know what it is ... yet? I feel poised and ready for something. Something GREAT would be nice, but just something that drives me a long thoughtlessly feeling challenged and interested would be welcome. I think I’m more into the journey than the destination.

I’m trying to stay open to what comes. Not dwelling too much on the past nor putting on too much structure that limits the future. I feel really physically strong and want to keep that momentum going. Would like to find something physical. Doesn’t have to be work for money stuff.

Thinking how my life is changing for the better. Sold my house, streamlined my life and bought a unit in the industrial estate which feels really good. Looking forward to making it interesting and inspiring place to live. Yeah! This is going to be fun.

And yes, I have to admit I think about sex A LOT.
On a typical Friday night I am
I've been going to the Rails in Byron Bay. I've never been a bar person, but I know a lot of people there and I enjoy dancing when the band is good. I'm really lucky living where I do because we always have a great range of live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
A friend loaned me the book 'The Ethical Slut'. Does that means I need to work on being more 'ethical' or more 'slutty'?
All joking aside, the book asks some interesting questions. Does the world revolve around loving one person and does that also mean that sex needs to be exclusive to one person?

OkCupid has been fun for me. I take comfort from seeing that everyone is different. Some like adventure while others like security. Some like dogs while others like cats. Some bow to authority while others rebel.

I'm excited by the knowledge that we can be different and still find people that share our beliefs, humour, sense of fairness - just as some may be tall and others short, young while others are old (both in spirit and years). Viva La Difference!

I'm now 55. I’ve done most of the ‘stuff’ you’re supposed to do - I've been married for 20+ years, I have 2 great kids, I’ve run my own business, I’ve travelled the world and the seven seas. I don’t, at this age, see myself wanting to do all that again (well maybe more travel). So it makes sense that I want to live another way. I don’t know that it works in reality, but I am a rebel and won’t let social norms tell me right from wrong.

Just saying this will mean many people won’t want to know anything more about me and that’s just fine. It’s all about weeding out the people who don’t fit what we are trying to find in life. And really, doesn’t that make you chuckle a bit because I don’t really have a clue what I want in life.

Maybe you are breaking out of past social restraints and find life with great sex is just about the best thing on offer. (and yes, great sex is completely possible in monogamous relationships as it can be in non-monogamous relationships).

How do you feel about being intimate and sexual with more than one person? Does it bring pleasure or pain? Is it possible to be ethical, supportive, true to yourself, and your friends, and still embrace to joyous pursuit of sexual adventure and intimacy with multiple partners? Or, does the very nature of an open lifestyle mean you are not able to be intimate? Do multiple relationships mean you are actually closed to deeper connections? I'd like to think not, but I don't have much experience.

Maybe it is something interesting to discuss? What do you think?

And yes, I still like to go barefoot everywhere. :)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 33–57
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you like a guy with a weird sense of humor and especially if you like to be active. While I love a good movie and read lots of books I would really like to have someone to do more outdoors activities. My time can be stuffed up with work and kids, so you need to be flexible, but really meeting someone new is now a very high priority in life. But strangely enough I love nothing better than being spontaneous. So lets!