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websterpoet

29 Oxford, UK Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 23
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Status
Open relationship
Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hey there!

I'm a polyamorous guy looking to make friends and maybe go on some dates with interesting people (who are comfortable with me seeing other people).

I live in Oxford (for a few years now) and am excited to meet new people in this lovely city.

I currently have four partners who I adore and who are happy for me to see other people (and who have partners of their own - ethical non-monogamy, it's a thing!). This does rather limit my time though (to steal someone's glorious pun, I'm a bit 'poly-saturated), so I'm looking more for new friends and casual loves.

I love language, people, friendship and uncertainty.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in a theatre, I'm also a spoken word performer/poet, and occasional playwright/actor/stand-up comic.

I dream of someday being a professional writer, and in the meantime I'm enjoying my work and writing in my spare time.

Also: being aggressively liberal and feminist on the intertubes - who could forget that timesink.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Well, I'm pretty ok with words.

I'm fairly good at listening.

And I make a mean Manhattan.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Um, I don't really know.

If there's something people tend to notice, then they're not telling me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I like a bit of everything really. At the moment I'm quite into my speculative fiction, urban fantasy and sci-fi, but I've always loved the classics.

Movies: A mish-mash of artsy films and geeky films.

Music: classic rock, emo, jazz, indie, recently starting getting into hip-hop a little. A bit of a mixture.

Shows: anything smart or meaningful. Breaking the fourth wall is a bonus.

Food: yes.

Also: superheroes and zombies tend to feature in pretty much EVERYTHING I consume (except food).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Words.
2. My friends.
3. The Internet.
4. A good sized notebook.
5. At least one writing implement.
6. Cuddles.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a play, poetry gig, or out drinking with friends.
You should message me if
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You want to make friends.

You're a poly or poly-friendly person who might like to go on a date.