Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please don't bother writing to me without reading my profile. I
will be able to tell, and I won't answer.
Obligatory FYIs: I am in a long-term relationship that has always
. We got married in May
2012. I'm just sayin'. I'm also kind of kinky: switchy, with a
preference for sensation play over formal BDSM.
I am a silly, introverted girl who is actively learning not to
over-think things so much. My politics lean toward the socialist
side of the Green party's platform, and I take them seriously, so
if you're someone who thinks the welfare state is not a good thing,
you should find someone else. I like video games, knitting, and my
cats, but not so much that I don't also want to get to know new
people. I am cautious, and can be shy, but am not actually
I am fast, thorough, and sharp as a tack (thanks OKCupid for
getting rid of my favorite thing, the 3 adjectives for yourself).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Not a whole hell of a lot. Well, I guess that's not fair. I was
diagnosed with fibromyalgia this spring, and at the moment I am
kind of on hiatus from everything while I deal with that.
I am quite passionate about small-scale urban agriculture, and in
2010 participated in launching a nonprofit that's built a couple of
working farms in Seattle. I don't have a lot of money, but I'm
quite willing to put my sweat equity where my mouth is on this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking (I have a degree in culinary arts) and gardening (I
kinda-sorta have a degree in that, too). How domestic.
I'm good at entertaining myself, so I am rarely bored. I have a
crude and corny sense of humor, so this section used to say "I'm
really good at cheesecake and double entendre." Hur hur.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It used to be my hair (generally somewhere on the
pink-magenta-purple spectrum), but my current glasses are kind of
ridiculously blingy, so right now I think it's the rhinestones.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent reads that I really enjoyed: Sex at Dawn turned out
not to be the anti-monogamy polemic lots of people made it out to
be, but rather a hilariously-written pop anthropology critique of
the confirmation bias inherent in all the claims that humanity "is
a monogamous species." One of the main premises is that, because
there's no proof that monogamy comes naturally to us,
people who choose it and do it successfully deserve more
credit than they get. Bellwether by Connie Willis
is the first science fiction novel to make me laugh out loud in a
long time, and it did at least a half-dozen times. Really sharp and
smart, and I was gratified to read some science fiction that wasn't
space opera, and whose protagonist is (*gasp*) a
sociologist. Highly recommended.
Video games are actually a more important narrative medium to me
than movies; Bioware's Mass Effect trilogy and Dragon Age series
are really, really wonderful. As far as TV, I just got one this
past winter after living without for about ten years, but a friend
got me ridiculously hooked on Supernatural. Oh, suffering
Music: Make a Venn diagram out of Lady Gaga, Boiled in Lead, and
Melotron. I'm in there somewhere. Wait, David Bowie should be in
there somewhere too. Sooj's various iterations (S. J. Tucker,
Skinny White Chick, Tricky Pixie) are all excellent. Basically, an
unlikely mix of smart pop, folk with an edge, and Euro trash.
("European decadance and Las Vegas trash... zhis iz vat ve
Favorite food might be Italian. Or Thai. Or Indian. Or Vietnamese.
Sushi's good, and how can I give up chow mein or schnitzel? It's
easier to delineate the foods I don't like: I don't eat melon or
cucumbers, and celery and bell peppers are only acceptable if they
have been cooked way down. I've got the genes that make cilantro
taste soapy and grapefruit taste like burning tires. I have mixed
feelings about mushrooms (but it's hard to say no to morels or
chanterelles). I have never met a cuisine I didn't like, although
super hot chilies are hard on me (no hot cock sauce for me,
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social justice, urban agriculture, cat toys and dick jokes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching Supernatural (and Sleepy Hollow, when it's on) with mah
ladies! Or else stomping toadstools. Resistance 4eva! (*cough*
yeah, I play Ingress.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have actually met up with a fellow who wrote me one of the "hey,
I'm visiting from out of town, want to meet up and fuck?" mails,
and did have sex with him, and have remained friends-of-a-sort
(long-distance FWBs?). The reason he succeeded at this where so
many fail is that his first mail to me was three substantial
paragraphs, humorous and smart, featuring things like correct uses
of "per se." Let this be a lesson. (He's also pretty cute, but I
wouldn't have gotten as far as looking at his pictures if the
message had been the usual "hey wats up i'll be in seattle next
week wanna party" bullshit.)
You should message me if
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You read my profile and think it's smart and funny. Your own
profile is smart and funny. Sensing a theme here? Also, you're poly
and not looking for a primary/anchor-style partner -- I wouldn't
call myself polysaturated, but I definitely don't have more than
one night a week to offer someone new.
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