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readyforrealdeal

44 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:00pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian, Pacific Islander, White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Aquarius
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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After two years of doing some internal work, I'm ready for THE great relationship that will be the last. Romance and deep connection is obviously a huge part of this.  The passion, the flowers, the special trips, the emotional intimacy.  I'm a good empathetic listener and expect the same in a partner.  With too many degrees and a constant curiosity about the world, I'm also looking for someone who prizes their mind and constantly seeks a greater understanding of the world.

Even though I come across as pretty serious, I also like to laugh and make others laugh! Louie C.K. and Jon Stewart are American heroes. And of course, the occasional Youtube clip like the Morgan Freeman GPS video.  (We all should have Morgan Freeman GPS. The sound of the voice alone will inspire you to drive well.)  

I’ve been doing theater since childhood which has led to my current job teaching drama and film. Also, I've been writing and directing films for several years now. I like to make thrillers and sci fi but I’ve also done a few comedies and musicals. After winning some awards, I am getting my latest film ready for its worldwide debut!

I've been involved in programs that try to make education more equitable and even though I work in a private school now I work to educate my privileged students about these inequities. Teaching high school students (and sometimes college students) gives me energy and inspiration.

I have two wonderful daughters. Being a single dad is great and very challenging. I’m ready for the right partner, and because I already have two kids, she needs to be someone who is okay with not having more children.  
What I’m doing with my life
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*Film and theater teacher
*Writer and director of films and plays
*Father of two special girls (3 days a week)
*Spending time with family and friends
*Exploring our local urban and natural wonders.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Having engaging conversations about a wide range of topics. I especially love talking about films, art, and the latest political issue of the day.  And more…

Listening empathetically and supporting friends and family.

Being creative. I always have a film/play project going.

Love doing fun, spontaneous activities.  Trip to see an art gallery, festival, film, play, etc., out of the way neighborhood, day trips, day and night trips.  

Planning a fun and adventurous date.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
*Understated confidence

*Gets things done.

*Easy going and intense.  (I know, it's a contradiction.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I love nonfiction, especially ones on contemporary social justice issues (The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander = brilliant), self-improvement topics, entrepreneurship and film.

Movies: Traffic, Looper, Silver Linings Playbook, Twelve Years a Slave, Moonrise Kingdom, Shawshank Redemption, Little Miss Sunshine, Slumdog Millionaire, early Woody Allen, some of his new ones, the second Hunger Games, Full Monty.  I will stop now.  

Music: I love Soul, R&B, Alt. Rock. Alt pop. Dance. Hip-Hop. For example:  Interpol. Early Kayne West. Adele. Sia (Her newest is astonishing.) Ceelo. Yeah Yeah Yeah. Phoenix. Etc

TV: The Wire - I’m a fanatic. Breaking Bad. Lost. Orphan Black.  Louis CK. Luther. Jimmy Fallon and Jon Stewart.

Plays: Arthur Miller, David Henry Hwang, Valina Hasu Houston, Craig Lucas, Tony Kushner, Lisa Loomer, Aristophanes, Shakespeare is of course amazing but I'm more contemporary oriented.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family
Friends
Art, books, and movies
Something to create art with
Connecting to a good cause
Love and intimacy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social justice issues
The paradoxical nature of online dating: how it’s both very intimate and superficial
Friends
Need more free time
Why teachers and artists don't get compensated like lawyers.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Date night
Hang out night
Sometimes working on a film or play.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let's wait a bit before going there!
You should message me if
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You are:
*Emotionally and intellectually intelligent.
*Compassionate about your family, friends and the world around you.
*Love or at least appreciate the arts.
*Progressive outlook.
*Ready for a long term relationship
*Fun is also a good quality!