(Please be patient on a response, my box is hella full.) Pun semi-intended.
Every man is not created equal and the dating journey allows us to fine-tune our list of wants and needs, thereby giving each of us a customized list of dealbreakers. I'm a huge breaker of the deals... and have small and odd reasons for doing so. And while each woman has her own completely legitimate (no matter how quirky!) set of criteria – can’t pee all over the floor, must love old skool rap, should have a good relationship with his family, loves to fish, is charming, prefers beer to wine, and so on, there are certain conditions beyond honesty, respect and good communication (the trifecta of any relationship foundation) that every woman no matter what their taste in men is, deserves to have in her life’s co-pilot. Here’s a checklist for what you should get from your man: 1. Patience, generosity and consideration. These are the triplets of kindness, each one of equal importance and none much good without the others. Patience comes through in a man who can deal with tension calmly and productively, looking at life’s challenges as opportunities to teach and to learn. Generosity of mind, spirit, heart, wealth, time – anything you want to share (even dessert!) – your guy must want to share equally with you. And finally, your man should be considerate of your feelings, your time and your goals. He should be considerate how his decisions impact you. 2. A safe place to be 100% YOU. In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, liberated and loved enough to be who you are – all the dimensions of your being – all the time… figuratively naked. So if that means you are a buttoned-up badass by day but by night someone who dances around singing into a hairbrush, so be it, a forever guy will not only allow it, he will love it. 3. Utter adoration. Inside and out.