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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jul 25
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Special Diet
Buddhism and laughing about it
Dropped out of Space camp
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Artist, polymath, subversive agitator. Charmingly crass yet sophisticated. Technologically advanced while still being anachronistic. Awkward, nerdy dork and socially adept when necessary.
What I’m doing with my life
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I paint, take photographs, make assemblage/collage, sing with friends and find it hard to not spend hours on end daydreaming of a zombie apocalypse.

At work, I manage safety operations for an alternative medical facility. I also work security/emergency medical at festivals and unique events throughout California and Nevada. This comes from a misguided youth spent sneaking into said festivals and events.

I've recently ended a long term relationship (not looking to dive into another one so soon but I'll never say never), moved back to Oakland and am enjoying seeing old friends and finding new ones to wreak havoc with. I'm poly-friendly and hope to meet others that are open and accepting.

I enjoy riding my motorcycle, making art, making food, making out, meeting interesting people, meditating on impermanence.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Resolving conflict, listening, working under pressure, distilling nuance from fact, being a snarky wise ass, double entendres, fixing things, breaking things, setting things on fire.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The fact that I seem to have no self-censor button while still being rather charming.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is in no way going to be a comprehensive list but it will give you a jumping off point for how I roll.

Authors & Genres: Neil Stephenson, William Gibson, Bruce Sterling, cyberpunk/steampunk, Neil Gamen, Tim Powers, Hunter S. Thompson, Tom Robbins, Michael Ondaatje, Chuck Palahniuk, Henry Miller, PKD, Aldous Huxley, Terrance McKenna...

Movies & Shows: Sukiyaki Western Django, Big Lebowski, Invader Zim, Momento, Eddie Izzard, Pulp Fiction, Heathers, Clerks, Ameile, Big Fish, Pan's Labyrinth, Nightmare before Christmas, Twin Peaks, Waking Life...

Music: Everything but formulaic Country and even then there are always exceptions to the rule. The Smiths, Morrissey, Smashing Pumpkins, The Cure, The Clash, Depeche Mode, Joy Division, Portishead, Dead Kennedys, Fugazi, Flogging Molly, The Pogues, Descendents, Abney Park, Skinny Puppy, Radiohead, Me First and the Gimmie Gimmies, Morphine, Mos Def, The Fugees, Pixies, Beastie Boys, Beats Antique, Circus Contraption, Gorillaz, Dresden Dolls, Soul Coughing, Wu Tang Clan...

Food: I'm adventurous and will try anything thrice. Mostly stick to a vegetarian diet but do love to splurge on cured meats and stinky cheeses. I'm also one hell of a cook and enjoy dinner parties.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Interesting art, weird friends, intelligent conversation, fire, desire, a good knife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What wonders an uncertain future hold...

and sex...because I'm a guy and that's what we do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes working the door at the club or gallery your going to. Maybe I'm running security or working medical for that cool event you couldn't get tickets for...

If it's not a work night, then most likely I'm out being part of the problem - singing, snogging, swearing, sipping on adult beverages and wringing the last bit out of life's messy bar towel (which strangely tastes like kombucha).

I also enjoy being a homebody. Curled up on a couch or in bed with a book, maybe a movie...especially if its raining out, the sound washes over everything and leaves me in a trance. If its warm, I'll be outside splashing around and inhaling the smell rain creates as it falls on the hot asphalt.
You should message me if
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You are kink-positive and poly-friendly. Your idea of a good time includes at least two of the following: bicycle jousting, fire art, foreign films, lucha libre', exploring abandoned military bases, a game that requires a d20, Baycon, bacon, Maker Faire, Maker's Mark, museums, reading in the park, reading in the tub, parking in the tub...