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49 M Berkeley, CA

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Last Online
Yesterday – 6:16am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Traveled (SE Asia, Nepal, India, Morocco, Europe); lived (East Coast, West Coast, MidWest and SoEast US, Barcelona, China, Tokyo). I'm interested in ideas and like to talk about them [bring on the religion and politics!] and food and wine. I want to hear what you're passionate about and why. Not great at chit-chatting and talking for the sake of talking. Silence when you or I don't have anything to say and just taking up space together is very fine. I wouldn't describe myself as particularly easy going and laid back, though w the right company and libations I do chill nicely.
I love the Bay Area's proximity to non-urban areas. I hope you know how lucky we are to live here. Weekends and midweek finds me hiking somewhere. I may also be in the kitchen. I love cooking with wine [a glass of it in my hand, that is]. Some of my 'creations' may not come out as envisioned but it's about the journey, isn't it? In a former life I taught at Cal Sailing. That experience has got me on boats crewing (foredeck and helm) in Lake Michigan, Long Island and in the Mediterranean.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing, editing, teaching, dancing, biking, volunteering.
I’m really good at
In no particular order:
Big picture stuff.
Making connections between things that don't seem similar.
Being in the moment.
Rooting for the underdog.
Watching clouds.
Getting a lot of mileage from a middling joke.
Kneading bread and massaging [quite similar actually].
I can work on a car with this proviso: it's from the previous century.
I can single handedly end-for-end jibe a spinnaker.
Dog petting.
Getting a decent Texas Tommy out of my dance partner. Pronouncing "gnocchi."
The first things people usually notice about me
That I look like G. Stein. Must be the beard.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Updated all the time. I'm a heavy reader, yet particular about what I read, usually not genre fiction. How something is written is more important than what is written. I'm a slut when it comes to movies, however, and will watch anything I find entertaining. I lovelove dance movies, Strictly Ballroom and Shall We Dance, etc., [The original Japanese version NOT the awful remake w/ JayLo and what's-his-face.]
Javier Bardem in Biutiful (sic) was the best thing I've seen in awhile. I love Italian movies from the 60s. Ever notice how strangely consistent the audio is in those films?? Well . . . FYI, the action was shot on location, but the actors' lines were recorded and dubbed later in the studio!..... Fascinating.
I usually don't read Sci-Fi, but like some of the movies,[Avatar!]. Foreign films Yes!. Music? All over the place, from Gregorian Chants to Radio Tarifa and whatever can get me on the dancefloor. I think the Intermezzo from Cavalleria Rusticana is the most beautiful piece of music written. Food? I cook quite a bit. Bread and can curry. I like to read recipes I have no intention of making.
The six things I could never do without
My curiosity. Joie de vivre. Dancing. Dogs. Dancing dogs. Coffee. Zinfandel. Words arranged poetically. Rhythm, NYTs. Goat Cheese. Clouds, Sun, Trees, Mountains, Sea and my Canondale to take me there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend too much time thinking how so few people can fk things up for so many. Yes, I'm talking about YOU, Lord Voldemort, Norman Bates and Dick Cheney!
On a typical Friday night I am
If its the 2nd Friday of the month, I may join the mayhem and ride in the EastBayBikePartay; other fridays, in descending order of frequency: Crewing on a sailboat at Berkeley Yacht Club. Reading, dancing, night hiking Claremont Canyon. Out on the Berkeley pier watching the dark water.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
With apologies to Donna Haraway and her companion species, I shamelessly baby talk to dogs.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
This has been said by others and though korny it's true in my case: I'm looking for a dance partner both on and off the floor. I've had great partners on the floor and great partners off; it would be nice to have that in one person. Be that as it may, Please message if you have seriously considered what goes on in a room when no one is there [i'd love to hear what you came up with]; and/or, if you are experienced at couples dancing; you hike strenuously; have a way with dogs; you grew up with a brother (I've found you all have some esoteric knowledge about men; I suspect it works the other way too, with men who grew up with sisters like I did. I think the expectations among us who are mixed siblinged (you saw it here first) are slightly more realistic).
Also, I want to say that if I don't respond to your messages, it doesn't mean that I'm rude or that I didn't read your message and give it thought; it means that while I appreciate the contact, I don't think it will be a go.