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49 M Berkeley, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 35–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 23
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Traveled (SE Asia, Nepal, India, Morocco, Europe); lived (East Coast, West Coast, MidWest and SoEast US; Barcelona, China, and Tokyo).

I'm interested in ideas and like to talk about them [bring on the religion and politics!] and food and wine. I want to hear what you're passionate about and why. Not great at chit-chatting and talking for the sake of talking. Silence when you or I don't have anything to say is very fine. I'm postmodern and multicultural in thinking, but that does not mean to me that anything goes.

I love the Bay Area's proximity to non-urban areas. How lucky we are to live here. Weekends and midweek finds me hiking somewhere. I may also be in the kitchen. I love cooking with wine [a glass of it in my hand, that is]. Some of my 'creations' may not come out as envisioned but it's about the journey, right? In a former life I taught at Cal Sailing. That experience has got me on boats crewing (foredeck and helm) in Lake Michigan, Long Island and in the Mediterranean.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, editing, teaching, dancing, biking, volunteering. Getting my dog Chuck to pee on command.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In no particular order:
Big picture stuff [working on the little stuff].
Making connections between things that don't seem like they have much to do with each other.
Being in the moment.
Rooting for the underdog.
Watching clouds.
Getting a lot of mileage from a middling joke.
Kneading bread
I can work on a car with the proviso that it's from the previous century.
I can single handedly end-for-end jibe a spinnaker.
Dog petting.
People petting
Getting a decent Texas Tommy out of my dance partner. Pronouncing "gnocchi."
The first things people usually notice about me
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Umm....possibly my butt. People have said it's nice for a guy's... I'm up here, ladies.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Updated all the time. I'm a heavy reader, yet particular about what I read, though usually not genre fiction. How something is written is more important than what is written. Don't have a TV, so don't know what's on though liked BB. Like movies: foreign flicks and dance movies, Strictly Ballroom and Shall We Dance, etc., [The original Japanese version NOT the awful remake w/ JayLo].
Javier Bardem in Biutiful (sic). I love Italian movies from the 60s. Ever notice how strangely consistent the voices are in those films?? Well . . . FYI, the action was shot on location, but the actors' lines were recorded and dubbed later in the studio.... Fascinating.
Music in no order or preference: Though I like rock, I don't listen to a lot of it. Tastes are wide ranging: Classical [Mozart and French Romantics], Gregorian Chants, Cab Calloway, Radio Tarifa, torch and twang, Love to dance to jump blues, Bob Wills, Ella F. and Big Joe Turner, and whatever can get me on the dancefloor.. Opera (Italian not so much German)
Yes, I like food and I eat it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My curiosity. Joie de vivre. Dancing. Dogs. Dancing dogs. Coffee. Zinfandel. Words arranged poetically. Rhythm, NYTs. Chevre. Clouds, Sun, Green Trees against a blue sky, Mountains, Sea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend too much time thinking how so few people can fk things up for so many. Yes, I'm talking about YOU, Lord Voldemort, Iago and Dick Cheney.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If its the 2nd Friday of the month, I may join the mayhem and ride in the EastBayBikePartay; other fridays, in descending order of frequency: Crewing on a sailboat at Berkeley Yacht Club. Reading, dancing, night hiking Claremont Canyon. Out on the Berkeley pier wondering how many fish are swimming around down there wearing RayBans.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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With apologies to Donna Haraway and her companion species, I shamelessly baby talk to dogs.
You should message me if
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This has been said by others and though korny it's true in my case: I'm looking for a dance partner both on and off the floor. I've had great partners on the floor and great partners off; it would be nice for once to have that in one person. Be that as it may, Please message if you have seriously considered what goes on in a room when no one is there [i'd love to hear what you came up with]; and/or, if you are experienced at couples dancing; you hike strenuously; have a way with dogs; you grew up with a brother (I've found you all have esoteric knowledge about men; I suspect it works the other way too, with men who grew up with sisters [like I did]. I think the expectations among us who are mixed siblinged (you saw it here first) are slightly more realistic). You know how to deal.
Also, I want to say that if I don't respond to your messages, it doesn't mean that that I didn't read your message and give it thought; it means that while I appreciate the contact, I don't think it will be a go.