Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm here because I heard single men die younger. . . .But I'd also
like to meet fantastic people and possibly a life-partner; stranger
things have happened. A few things I've done so far: traveled
extensively in SE Asia, Nepal, India, Morocco, and Europe; lived in
Barcelona, China and Tokyo, teaching at universities and language
and cultural institutes.
I'm interested in ideas and like to talk about them. I want to hear
what you're passionate about and why. Not great at chit-chatting
and talking for the sake of talking. Silence when you or I don't
have anything to say is very fine. I'm postmodern and multicultural
in thinking and tastes. I'm a balance between spontaneity and
control, a romantic who'll stop to watch afternoon light play on
tree leaves or the moon rise through a scrim of clouds. Although
anti-religious and not really spiritual, I find something
delightfully mystifying in the Buddhist notion of wei-wu-wei; but I
also like to tweak things till they're perfect (though I promise
not to tweak you). I'm anomalous but not 'quirky.'
I love the Bay Area's proximity to fantastic non-urban areas [the
urban's not so bad either]. How lucky we are to live here! Weekends
and midweek I'm biking and/or hiking somewhere. I love cooking with
wine [a glass of it in my hand ]. Some of my 'creations' may not
come out as envisioned but it's about the journey, right? In a
former life I taught at Cal Sailing. That experience has got me on
boats crewing (foredeck and helm) in Lake Michigan, Long Island and
in the Mediterranean.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Writing, editing, teaching, dancing, biking, sailing, volunteering.
Getting my dog Chuck to pee outside, not in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In no particular order:
Big picture stuff [working on the little stuff].
Making connections between things that don't seem like they have
much to do with each other.
Being in the moment.
Rooting for the underdog
Getting a lot of mileage from a middling joke.
I can work on a car with the proviso that it's from the previous
End-for-end jibe a spinnaker.
Getting a good Texas Tommy out of my dance partner
The first things people usually notice about me
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Umm....I dunno know, my butt?? People have said it's nice for a
guy's... "I'm up here, ladies." I say that a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Updated all the time. I'm a heavy reader, yet particular about what
I read, not genre fiction. How something is written is more
important than what is written. Don't have a TV, so don't know
what's on though I liked BkBd on Ntflx,( better yet, See Virunga).
Movies: Luis Estrada's film El Infierno had just the right amount
of black humor and pathos. Inarritu's Javier Bardem in Biutiful
(sic) and anything with a good story. I love Italian movies from
the 60s. Ever notice how strangely consistent the voices are in
those films?? Well . . . the action was shot on location, but the
actors' lines were recorded and dubbed later in the studio....
Though I like rock, I don't listen to a lot of it. Tastes are wide
ranging: Classical [Mozart, Bach's Sonatas and Partitas and French
Romantics], Gregorian Chants, Jazz and Blues, Cab Calloway, World
music, Radio Tarifa, Torch and Twang, a la Steve Earl, and they's
nuthin' better for cryin' in yr beer than The Blue Shadows' song,
"Think on it". Love absolutely swingin' out to Bob Wills and jump
blues, Ella and Big Joe Turner. Opera (Italian not so much the
Yes, I like food very much and I eat it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My curiosity sustains me, that and a generous dose of Joie de
vivre. Could not do without dancing and dogs, coffee, zinfandel and
chevre, words arranged poetically, cumulus clouds, sun shining
through green trees, a tuned bicycle with a tail wind. A woman.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether or not my computer is a zombie. How so few people can make
things difficult for so many. Yes, I'm talking about YOU, Lord
Voldemort, Iago and Dick Cheney.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If its the 2nd Friday of the month, I may join the mayhem and ride
in the EastBayBikePartay; other fridays, in descending order of
frequency: Crewing on a sailboat. Reading, dancing, night hiking
Claremont Canyon. Out on the Berkeley pier wondering how many fish
are swimming around down there with RayBans.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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With apologies to Donna Haraway and her companion species, I
shamelessly baby talk to dogs.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
. . . at least one of the following applies: You believe that
success, whether in a creative endeavor, a dish, a relationship or
good sex, is mostly just getting out of the way. You have a sense
of humor (another form of intelligence as far as I'm concerned).
You own a pair of dancing shoes [be nice to find someone to work on
dance moves with!]. You believe that between two people, things do
not necessarily have to 'feel right' right out of the box (I'm not
a pair of shoes, nor are you) (got shoes on the brain for some
reason). You delight in serendipity, and can deal when things don't
go as planned. You take your hiking boots (!) out of your closet
several times a month, not several times a year. Ditto for your
bicycle. You wouldn't mind awful but heartfelt poetry written about
you. If you want to open a portal to "ask a male; " sometimes I'd
like to "ask a female." Finally, if I don't respond to your
message, it doesn't mean that I didn't read your message and give
it thought; it means that while I appreciate the contact I don't
think it will be a go.
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