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49 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:59am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm here because I heard single men die younger. . . .But I'd also like to meet fantastic people and possibly a life-partner; stranger things have happened. A few things I've done so far: traveled extensively in SE Asia, Nepal, India, Morocco, and Europe; lived in Barcelona, China and Tokyo, teaching at universities and language and cultural institutes.
I'm interested in ideas and like to talk about them. I want to hear what you're passionate about and why. Not great at chit-chatting and talking for the sake of talking. Silence when you or I don't have anything to say is very fine. I'm postmodern and multicultural in thinking and tastes. I'm a balance between spontaneity and control, a romantic who'll stop to watch afternoon light play on tree leaves or the moon rise through a scrim of clouds. Although anti-religious and not really spiritual, I find something delightfully mystifying in the Buddhist notion of wei-wu-wei; but I also like to tweak things till they're perfect (though I promise not to tweak you). I'm anomalous but not 'quirky.'

I love the Bay Area's proximity to fantastic non-urban areas [the urban's not so bad either]. How lucky we are to live here! Weekends and midweek I'm biking and/or hiking somewhere. I love cooking with wine [a glass of it in my hand ]. Some of my 'creations' may not come out as envisioned but it's about the journey, right? In a former life I taught at Cal Sailing. That experience has got me on boats crewing (foredeck and helm) in Lake Michigan, Long Island and in the Mediterranean.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, editing, teaching, dancing, biking, sailing, volunteering. Getting my dog Chuck to pee outside, not in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In no particular order:
Big picture stuff [working on the little stuff].
Making connections between things that don't seem like they have much to do with each other.
Being in the moment.
Rooting for the underdog
Watching clouds.
Getting a lot of mileage from a middling joke.
Kneading bread
Marathon kissing.
I can work on a car with the proviso that it's from the previous century.
End-for-end jibe a spinnaker.
Dog petting.
Getting a good Texas Tommy out of my dance partner
Pronouncing "gnocchi."
The first things people usually notice about me
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Umm....I dunno know, my butt?? People have said it's nice for a guy's... "I'm up here, ladies." I say that a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Updated all the time. I'm a heavy reader, yet particular about what I read, not genre fiction. How something is written is more important than what is written. Don't have a TV, so don't know what's on though I liked BkBd on Ntflx,( better yet, See Virunga). Movies: Luis Estrada's film El Infierno had just the right amount of black humor and pathos. Inarritu's Javier Bardem in Biutiful (sic) and anything with a good story. I love Italian movies from the 60s. Ever notice how strangely consistent the voices are in those films?? Well . . . the action was shot on location, but the actors' lines were recorded and dubbed later in the studio.... Fascinating.
Though I like rock, I don't listen to a lot of it. Tastes are wide ranging: Classical [Mozart, Bach's Sonatas and Partitas and French Romantics], Gregorian Chants, Jazz and Blues, Cab Calloway, World music, Radio Tarifa, Torch and Twang, a la Steve Earl, and they's nuthin' better for cryin' in yr beer than The Blue Shadows' song, "Think on it". Love absolutely swingin' out to Bob Wills and jump blues, Ella and Big Joe Turner. Opera (Italian not so much the German)
Yes, I like food very much and I eat it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My curiosity sustains me, that and a generous dose of Joie de vivre. Could not do without dancing and dogs, coffee, zinfandel and chevre, words arranged poetically, cumulus clouds, sun shining through green trees, a tuned bicycle with a tail wind. A woman.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether or not my computer is a zombie. How so few people can make things difficult for so many. Yes, I'm talking about YOU, Lord Voldemort, Iago and Dick Cheney.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If its the 2nd Friday of the month, I may join the mayhem and ride in the EastBayBikePartay; other fridays, in descending order of frequency: Crewing on a sailboat. Reading, dancing, night hiking Claremont Canyon. Out on the Berkeley pier wondering how many fish are swimming around down there with RayBans.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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With apologies to Donna Haraway and her companion species, I shamelessly baby talk to dogs.
You should message me if
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. . . at least one of the following applies: You believe that success, whether in a creative endeavor, a dish, a relationship or good sex, is mostly just getting out of the way. You have a sense of humor (another form of intelligence as far as I'm concerned). You own a pair of dancing shoes [be nice to find someone to work on dance moves with!]. You believe that between two people, things do not necessarily have to 'feel right' right out of the box (I'm not a pair of shoes, nor are you) (got shoes on the brain for some reason). You delight in serendipity, and can deal when things don't go as planned. You take your hiking boots (!) out of your closet several times a month, not several times a year. Ditto for your bicycle. You wouldn't mind awful but heartfelt poetry written about you. If you want to open a portal to "ask a male; " sometimes I'd like to "ask a female." Finally, if I don't respond to your message, it doesn't mean that I didn't read your message and give it thought; it means that while I appreciate the contact I don't think it will be a go.