+Trying to find the balance between my playful (somewhat hedonistic) tendencies, and a strong desire to work hard, connect with the world around me, and build something I'm proud of.
+Really into intelligence and open-mindedness.
+Brimming with adjectives...and frequent expletives.
+A fan of kindness, adventure, tea and cozy flannel.
I like working with my hands. Massage therapy, music, cooking, gaming, target practice, wood chopping, gardening and occasionally building things...
I also like books, bikes, word and puzzle games, saunas, outdoor showers, camping/hiking, raunchy standup, sciencey things, zombie movies, and meaningful/interesting conversation.
I enjoy being outdoorsy and active but sometimes that's a struggle lately with my work schedule. I'm working on that, as well as my fitness level. (I'd like to do a tough mudder eventually.) Always looking for good running and biking partners.
I try not to take things for granted.
I am drawn to independence (both intellectual and practical) and general badassery. I disapprove of prissiness and vapidity.
Playfulness is important.
I'm interested people based on pleasing traits, compatibility, and general awesomeness - independent of sex or gender identity. As far as labeling my own sexuality, I don't really care what you call me so long as you understand I'm just into excellent humans. Queer seems to fit well, being that it's the most inclusive label I can think of.
I am dangerously curious, defiantly whimsical, and proudly a lil nerdy. : ENFP
At any given moment, I probably want to be doing this:
I also cook at an awesome local restaurant. I love kitchen work and have been doing it for years, can't seem to give it up.
I play music (bass and guitar, mostly) with three other girls in a band with a silly name.
My dream for the future involves a sustainable hostel/farm in the mountains where I get to keep goats and bees, hike, practice massage therapy and cook for people.
(And be ready for the zombie robot apocalypse...or whatever) :P
Tetris (along with other videogames -some favorites being Xbox titles like Halo and Portal, and a few tabletop games)
Zombie-surviving? In theory. I like to go shooting (Pistols and rifles and recurves, oh my!) whenever I can, but I still want/need more practice.
I never asked.
But someone once said of me: "Oh, that girl with the Greek goddess body?" and I was so flattered that I put it in my okc profile.
I do, however, think it'd be great to be more fit. It's definitely a work in progress, and I'm not where I'd ideally like to be-- I want to do a tough mudder next year--but I'm pretty comfy with myself being all curvey-like in the meantime, and it makes me an excellent snuggler.
*Another note on my appearance: It deeply bothers me to hear "But you don't LOOK queer." As if how I dress or wear my hair has anything to do with who I am attracted to or fall in love with.
Food, music, books and film are things I care about, so this might take a minute...
I get excited grocery shopping, esp. at the farmers market. I love cooking for friends, or going out to favorite local restaurants. Eating local and well something I really enjoy and strive for. I've been doing a loosely "primal" approach to nutrition and it makes a huge difference in how I feel.
Music! sultry - bass heavy - bluesy - brass heavy - soulful - playful - badass
The Black Keys, Iron and Wine, The Shins, Modest Mouse, Beck, Pinback, Cat Power, Metric, Gorillaz/blur, The Books, MGMT, Warpaint, Radical Face, Danger Mouse, Baths, Cut Chemist, Air, Jack White, Django Reinhardt, Amy Winehouse, Dead Prez, Portishead, Noisettes, Why? and on and on...
Turn me on to something new!
I like ireful comedic satire, cookbooks, travel and how-to guides, and fascinating fiction or sci-fi/fantasy.
Authors: Bill Bryson, Terry Pratchett, David Foster Wallace, Douglas Adams, Dave Eggers, Adam Levin, Max Brooks, Harper Lee, Chris Ware, Robert Jordan, Tom Robins, Roald Dahl, Oscar Wilde, Tom Stoppard, Beckett, Bukowski, David Eagleman, Bill Watterson.
Childhood loves: Ann McCaffrey, Ursula K. Le Guin, Patricia C Wrede, J.K Rowlings, etc...There's so much more I want to read. Good recommendations are welcome!
Shows-Aside from cooking shows and anime: The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Firefly, Archer, BSG, Louie, It's Always Sunny, ABDC
Movies- American Beauty, Pan's Labyrinth, Snatch, Shaun of the Dead, Pitch Black, Fight Club, Little Miss Sunshine, Garden State, Shortbus, Eternal Sunshine, Serenity, XXY, Following, Raise the Red Lantern, and most Wes Anderson and Miyazaki films...Charlie Chaplin makes me weirdly happy.
-Mental stimulation (read: books, music and interwebs)
-Physical stimulation (read: "running, jumping, climbing trees," great cuddles and sex)
-Food that elicits involuntary pleasure noises.
-A sense of humor about the world and myself
...Tiger balm and my santoku are tied for 6th.
How things work, physiological processes, social interactions (both micro and macro), vulnerability...
Myself, my plans, the theoretical farm, travel fantasies...
Food (tastespotting), what's for dinner...
Linguistics, etymologies, tongues...
I believe that each connection is unique and deserves to be treated that way. I tell myself: When you think of someone, think of their whole, separate self. Every time. If you don't let who they are fade into simply what they mean to you, your feelings and thoughts about them will be more meaningful, accurate, and adaptable. You will be able to appreciate, understand, and love them so much more fully.
It's an embarrassingly simple thing, but something I have to remind myself of from time to time. I think it makes a huge difference in being able to maintain real, vibrant, meaningful relationships with people.
-The occasional contra dance, derby bout, live music show or community event at the CMC (A local alternative community library/organizing space.)
-Playing shows with guts
*I'm probably more addicted to the internet/technology/entertainment than I'd like to admit.
*I love hip-hop, and dance enthusiastically (and probably pretty badly) to it when alone.
:Keep your wits about you. (Brainy is the new sexy.)
:Have some common interests, as we can enjoy them together
:Know that you are not the car you drive, etc...
:Have something interesting to say, and can say it well. (Dismal grammar is a huge turn off--'cept when it's done out of playfulness rather than indifference.)