I'm intense, fabulous, complicated, generous, mercurial, and indulgent. Oh, and modest; did I mention modest? I was a mathematician in my undergrad days, but most of the real learning I did in those years was about how to live life to the full. I'm a bit of a dilettante, and whilst in many ways I'm your classic gamer/sf/sciencey geek type I can often also be found waxing lyrical and sounding at least half-way convincing on literature, theology, ethics, politics, and so forth. I am nearly as pretentious as that makes me sound, but I do know how to laugh at myself.
I'm passionate about pleasure - I love good food, good wine, good sex, good conversation, good art - all to pretty much the same degree. I'm deeply, desperately, gloriously in love with life, and utterly in awe of the world, whilst still maintaining a dark sardonic cynicism which makes it even more entertaining.
I'm non-monogamous, living with my primary partner number_0 , and in another casual long distance arrangement. I'm definitely not looking for another primary partner, but I'd be interested in either a somewhat committed secondary relationship or one or more ongoing friends-with-benefits arrangements with people in London. I'm sitting around the higher end of the Kinsey scale these days, so mostly looking for men or genderqueer people, but not ruling out women, particularly if you're bi/queer or androgynous or both.
I'm queer, femme, catholic, left-libertarian, male, and feminist and don't see any of this as contradictory. I'm kinky, mostly submissive, but happy to switch from time to time.