I'm intense, complicated, generous, fascinating, and indulgent. Oh, and modest; did I mention modest? Despite preferring to use the Oxford comma, I'm Cambridge educated - the degree was in mathematics, but most of the learning I did in those years was about getting through life. I'm a bit of a dilettante, and whilst my geek credentials have not come on much in recent years I can often be found waxing lyrical and sounding at least half-way convincing on literature, theology, ethics, politics, and so forth. I am nearly as pretentious as that makes me sound, but I do know how to laugh at myself.
I'm passionate about pleasure - I love good food, good wine, good sex, good conversation, good art - all to pretty much the same degree. I'm deeply, desperately, gloriously in love with life, and utterly in awe of the world, whilst still maintaining a dark sardonic cynicism which makes it even more entertaining.
I'm non-monogamous, living with my primary partner, and in a casual long distance arrangement. I'm not really looking for anything else serious right now, but I'm quite keen to find some more casual partners in London. I'm sitting around the higher end of the Kinsey scale these days, so mostly looking for men or genderqueer people, but not ruling out women, particularly if you're bi/queer or androgynous or both.
I'm kinky, mostly submissive, but happy to switch from time to time.