Oh, and modest; did I mention modest? I was a mathematician in my undergrad days, but most of the real learning I did in those years was about how to live life to the full. I'm a bit of a dilettante, and whilst in many ways I'm your classic gamer/sf/sciencey geek type I can often also be found waxing lyrical and sounding at least half-way convincing on literature, theology, ethics, politics, and so forth. I am nearly as pretentious as that makes me sound, but I do know how to laugh at myself.
I'm passionate about pleasure - I love good food, good wine, good sex, good conversation, good art - all to pretty much the same degree. I'm deeply, desperately, gloriously in love with life, and utterly in awe of the world, whilst still maintaining a dark sardonic cynicism which makes it even more entertaining.
I'm non-monogamous, living with my primary partner number_0 , and in a couple of casual arrangements. I'm definitely not looking for another cohabitating/marriage-like relationship, but I'd be interested in either a somewhat committed and serious secondary relationship or one or more ongoing friends-with-benefits arrangements with people in London.
I'm queer, femme, catholic, left-libertarian, male, and feminist and don't see any of this as contradictory. I'm kinky, mostly submissive, but happy to switch from time to time.