I am not looking for a vegan registered nurse who loves cooking, animals, or kayaking, and who is trying to find someone who is her previous husband without his drawbacks. There seem to be at least a million of them here.
I am cuddly, intellectual, at times playful. I like to touch, use my hands and make you feel secure and enjoy. In the end, warm hands are what love and sex is all about. Really!
I love women: those older women that have matured and reached their full potential. Women of empathy and sensousness, and of great intellect and independence. Women whose marital status does not preclude them from living their lives autonomously. It is them I am hoping to find.
Perhaps a bit late, but I found out just in time that 50+ is an age of great possibilities, of far greater wisdom and experience to handle interesting and complex encounters and relationships, of the capability to accomodate lovers or partners with very different personalities, and of the end to the insecurities of middle age and its jealousy.
Don't lose the moment looking for 'that special one' you will never find if you haven't long ago, find those who match perfectly to at least a part of your personality or desires, and live life. Now. You'll be seventy years old before you know it. (Then what?)
I'm into simple sex, not disapproving of kinkyness but because it gives me the ultimate connection with a mate. Not just any mate... Sex with soul.
Although I'm a true intellectual, I don't talk much, I write. In personal life I speak and express desire and love with my touch. With my hands, I'm best with my hands...
I attach (commit!) strongly and am long term loyal (i.e. faithful) to a woman who is capable of the same and whom I can trust. I love women too much to be monogamous, but I need to achieve trust and peace of mind with a lover. No one night stands, as some men look for, or the five night stands after which more than a few women get bored. True love and lasting great sex takes time. (And the best foreplay takes at least six hours, let's say between 4 and 10 p.m. :-) )
My lover just told me I radiate that perfect mix of helpnessless and masculinity that women fall for (in their quest of a mix for mothering and lust, would be my interpretation). She did, clearly :-) and I love her for it.
I have not been single since I was 17, have always loved and been loved, sometimes by two or three or more women at the same time. Although I'm a true introvert and therefore always essentially alone I have never been lonely, and for that I'm truly greatful.
I find this site especially powerful because of its Q&A. Profile essays are of limited value, unless very unusual. The same is true of photos, although it is very hard to communicate with someone who is 'invisible'. Photos are perhaps most useful as a negative way of selection: too obese, wrong clothes or interior design in the background, a Barbie or Leona Helmsley appearance. Sometimes communicating with a photo of just a pair of legs seems quite OK :-)
Basically, I look for profiles with a match above 90%, an enemy score below 20%, and only then I look at the 'personality' graph, if that has an 'above average' for independence and sex-driven I get interested. After that I look through the Q&A, which is the most powerful tool, but only if more than 300 questions are answered. (Please ladies, the Q&A is what this site is about, do manage those 300!)
Although I was a true scholar earlier in my life, and loved it, I now dig great big holes in the ground. It's fantastic. I do it for a living.
PS. Although a foreigner, I did live in the U.S. twice in my life, the first time in 1969. I watched the original Laugh In, re-runs of the first Star Trek series and the Glen Campbell Goodtime Hour. Never got to Phoenix, though, but then and later I spent time in Boston and San Diego and many places in between.
PS2. I love women with white hair. I'm not particularly attracted to women with very short practical hair or dresses that are not symmetrical. And I greatly prefer dresses or skirts to jeans.