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44 Pittsburgh, PA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:17am
Heteroflexible, Bisexual, Sapiosexual
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Liberal, musician, nerd, animal rescuer, feminist, photographer, foodie, agnostic, bookworm

While not averse to new platonic friends, I'm primarily here looking for a long-term monogamous partner to enhance my life. I'd love to find someone who shares some of my interests and activities, but I prefer an independent partner who also has his own. I match up best with curious, well-rounded people who enjoy sampling a wide variety of what life has to offer -- from food to music to activities. I would like to have someone to go out with (I miss seeing movies, and having a theater buddy), but I also want someone to stay home with. I'm seeking a partner interested in occasional museum trips, regular couch cuddles in front of a movie, special-occasion nights at the symphony, and book-reading at night together before bed.

I'm a thoughtful, positive person, and I'm very invested in healthy relationships and open, honest, kind communication. I think the world is a beautiful place and should be celebrated.

I'm close with my family in a healthy, supportive, and functional way. My immediate family is in Chicago, so I travel home every few months for birthdays and holidays and to spoil my niece and nephews rotten. I like people who are family-oriented, but I also understand that not everyone is blessed with the healthy family relationships that I am. I do enjoy travelling to places other than Chicago (I've visited 41 of the 50 states, Mexico, Canada, and Europe), but I haven't gotten to do it as much as I'd like in recent years. It would be lovely to have a partner to travel with (within the unfortunate limits of vacation time and money).

I'm never interested in being the smartest person in the room. I appreciate people who are curious about the world, and I enjoy learning from others; I am most drawn to people who feel the same. I generally get along best with those who are slightly geeky/nerdy, but not socially awkward, with wide-ranging interests and respect and appreciation for human diversity. I'm also more attracted to people who aren't particularly interested in adhering to rigid gender roles, and who are thoughtful and introspective about things like gender and sexual orientation.

Note: Although I am not a gamer-type myself, I tend to date men who are interested in geeky-gamer things. While I wouldn't be compatible with someone who did nothing but play video games and D&D, I'm certainly compatible with a guy who games a couple nights a week with friends (but who is interested in doing other things on other nights).
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a bookworm, and always have been; I don't go anywhere without a book (yay Kindles!). I enjoy occasional outings to the museums, Phipps Conservatory, and to other cultural activities such as the symphony and opera. I'm not big on sports, in general, but I do watch an occasional Pens game. I am an avid photographer, and while I don't claim to be particularly good at it, I do seem to have an itch to frame the world through a lens. I cook from scratch most of the food I eat -- and I don't mean out of cans and boxes! I also enjoy board games and cards, and I've been searching around for a Meetup group where I could play them more regularly.

I work in computer software. I write documentation (help, reference guides) and develop multimedia for engineering simulation software. So, yes, I geek for a living.

I'm a musician, and music has been a constant in my life. I played several instruments growing up, and I still study voice and play piano when I can. I occasionally perform in musical theater productions as well.

I also volunteer as a Big Sister through Big Brothers Big Sisters, and as a photographer and foster parent for a local animal shelter. Giving back to my community is a big part of my identity.
I’m really good at
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- Music
- Listening and doling out effective, but blunt, advice
- Reading very very quickly
- Making people smile
- Nesting
- Acting mature and understanding when I want to kick and scream
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: My taste in books runs the gamut from the essays of Sarah Vowell to the social satire of Jane Austen to the comedic mysteries of Janet Evanovich, and I read John Sandford and Sue Grafton just as enthusiastically as I read Edith Wharton and the Brontes. I do read more fiction than non-fiction, but I enjoy historical non-fiction like "Devil in the White City" or "The Ghost Map." Right now, I'm on an urban fantasy kick, but my taste goes in cycles.

Movies: Favorites include 80s John Hughes films (Breakfast Club, Some Kind of Wonderful), great action films like Bourne Supremacy and Die Hard, comedies like Ghostbusters and Galaxy Quest, Pixar films, and fantasy action such as Blade: Trinity and Underworld. I'm also a huge fan of Princess Bride, Office Space, and Kevin Smith films (Clerks, Dogma).

Music: As a musician and singer, I tend to be drawn to melodic and harmonic music, i.e. something I can sing along with. Favorites are Aimee Mann, Blue October, The Corrs, Depeche Mode, Florence & the Machine, Green Day, Fountains of Wayne, Imogen Heap, Jónsi, Keane, Lily Allen, Linkin Park, Pink Floyd, P!nk, Pet Shop Boys, Regina Spektor, and Sheryl Crow.

Foods: I am used to a racially diverse atmosphere, and I eat foods from a variety of cultures. Other than a leaning toward healthy food, I'm not a picky eater. Pasta, fresh fish, Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, vegetarian food at funky little cafes, even a steak and roasted veggies or a (good) burger and fries -- all fine with me.

I do love to feed people. If words like "escarole," "chickpeas," "shallots," "pine nuts," or "kale" don't scare you, then I look forward to cooking a meal for you!

Television: The Good Wife, The Walking Dead, Bunheads, Glee, Better Off Ted, Veronica Mars, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Firefly, Gilmore Girls, Freaks and Geeks, West Wing, La Femme Nikita, and Babylon 5.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a night owl (no matter how inconvenient it can be at times). I get more energetic as the day goes on. I do love to sleep -- I just hate going to bed!

Also, I'm really monogamous. Bisexuality doesn't equate to an interest in non-monogamy, or in group sex, or whatever other equally ridiculous ideas some people have!
You should message me if
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... you are interested in intelligent conversation, our interests seem compatible, you're local, and you're above a 75% match. (I have generally found that those who are below 75% match have very different attitudes toward politics, religion, and human rights issues, which make them very incompatible with me.)

Also, your primary goal for being on OKCupid is to find a long-term monogamous partner.

(Also okay: If you think we'd make awesome friends. My social circle's been decimated by moves in recent years.)

I do reply to interesting messages! However, I am not tethered to my phone by an invisible umbilical cord, so I usually reply only when I'm actively online and have free time to do so.