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44 Pittsburgh, PA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:39pm
Heteroflexible, Bisexual, Sapiosexual
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Liberal, musician, nerd, animal rescuer, feminist, photographer, foodie, agnostic, bookworm

I'm a thoughtful, positive person, and I'm very invested in healthy relationships and open, honest, kind communication. I think the world is a beautiful place and should be celebrated, and it's difficult for me to understand people who don't feel the same way. Honestly, I'm usually too busy enjoying life to get bored, and I probably couldn't affect world-weary sophistication if I tried.

I'm never interested in being the smartest person in the room. I appreciate people who are curious about the world, and I enjoy learning from others; I am most drawn to people who feel the same. I tend to be strongly opinionated on matters important to me, while freely acknowledging the right of others to their own (educated) opinions. People who view their opinions and lifestyles as the only possible correct and right ones mystify me, and those who are unable to learn from, and appreciate, the educated opinions of others horrify me.

I like people who are slightly geeky/nerdy, but not socially awkward. Wide-ranging interests are good, as are respect and appreciation for human diversity. I get along best with people who appreciate the arts but feel most comfortable in jeans.

I'm also more drawn to people who aren't particularly interested in gender roles, and who are thoughtful and introspective about things like gender, sexual orientation, etc. In general, I am attracted to people who are more androgynous, and embrace all of who they are without labeling those characteristics "feminine" or "masculine."

I asked my friends what words they'd use to describe me. Common choices were "intelligent," "warm," "strong," "wise," "thoughtful," "caring," "resilient," "loving," and "positive." 'course, they're my friends, and they sorta love me, so I suppose you can take that with a grain of salt. :)
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a bookworm, and always have been; I don't go anywhere without a book -- particularly nowadays with a Kindle in my purse and Kindle app on my phone! I enjoy museums; the theater, symphony, and opera; and Phipps Conservatory. I'm not big on sports, in general, but I do watch an occasional Pens game. I am an avid photographer, and while I don't claim to be particularly good at it, I do seem to have an itch to frame the world through a lens. I am a bit of an amateur gardener; I have planned and planted most of the foundation plantings in my yard, and I grow vegetables and herbs in the summer. (I hate hate weeding, though!) I grow veggies & herbs because I'm a foodie, and I love to cook!

I work in computer software. (That does not mean I know how to fix your computer!)

I'm a musician, and music has been a constant in my life. I grew up studying several instruments, and voice and piano are still a big part of my life. I also occasionally indulge in musical theater.

I also volunteer as a Big Sister through Big Brothers Big Sisters, and as a photographer and foster parent for a local animal shelter.

But, really, in the end I'm rather a homebody. I would like to have someone to go out with (I miss seeing movies, and having a theater buddy), but I also want someone to come home to. I do one or two social things a week with friends, and I volunteer in the community, but otherwise I like to hang out at home. I'm definitely not someone who wants to go out every night! Especially after a long day of work.
I’m really good at
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- Music
- Listening and doling out effective, but blunt, advice
- Reading very very quickly
- Making people smile
- Nesting
- Acting mature and understanding when I want to kick and scream
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: My taste in books runs the gamut from the essays of Sarah Vowell to the social satire of Jane Austen to the comedic mysteries of Janet Evanovich, and I read John Sandford and Sue Grafton just as enthusiastically as I read Edith Wharton and the Brontes. I do read more fiction than non-fiction, but I enjoy historical fiction like "Devil in the White City" or "The Ghost Map." Right now, I'm on an urban fantasy kick, but my taste goes in cycles. I get my taxes' worth out my library system, that's for sure!

Movies: Favorites include 80s John Hughes films (Breakfast Club, Some Kind of Wonderful), great action films like Bourne Supremacy and Die Hard, comedies like Ghostbusters and Galaxy Quest, Pixar films, and fantasy action such as Blade: Trinity and Underworld. And, of course, Princess Bride, Office Space, and Kevin Smith films (Clerks, Dogma). I define favorites as movies I want to watch over and over again, so my favorites list isn't to be taken as a restricted list of what I will watch.

Music: As a musician and singer, I tend to be drawn to melodic and harmonic music, i.e. something I can sing along with. Judging from the bands with the most tracks on my iPod, my favorite bands are Austra/Katie Stelmanis, Aimee Mann, Blue October, The Corrs, Depeche Mode, Florence & the Machine, Green Day, Fountains of Wayne, Imogen Heap / Frou Frou, Jónsi, Kasey Chambers, Keane, Lily Allen, Linkin Park, Pink Floyd, P!nk, Pet Shop Boys, Regina Spektor, Sheryl Crow, and the music of Samuel Barber.

Foods: I am used to a racially diverse atmosphere, and I eat foods from a variety of cultures. Other than a complete loathing for green peppers, black olives, American mustard, and faux mayonnaise ("Miracle Whip"), I'm really not picky. Pasta, fresh fish, Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, vegetarian food at funky little cafes, even a steak and roasted veggies or a (good) burger and fries -- all fine with me. I should mention that, although I am not a vegetarian, I do cook vegetarian about half of the time, because I like healthy, tasty food, and I eat a lot of fruit, vegetables, and grains, particularly in the summer.

Television: The Good Wife, The Walking Dead, Bunheads, Glee, Better Off Ted, Veronica Mars, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Firefly, Gilmore Girls, Freaks and Geeks, West Wing, La Femme Nikita, and Babylon 5.

All in all, my tastes are very varied and egalitarian, so if you're in any way a snob about your literature, music, or food, we probably will not get along.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a night owl (no matter how inconvenient it can be at times). I get more energetic as the day goes on. I do love to sleep -- I just hate going to bed!

Also, I'm really monogamous. Bisexuality doesn't equate to an interest in non-monogamy, or in group sex, or whatever other equally ridiculous ideas some people have!
You should message me if
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... you are interested in intelligent conversation, our interests seem compatible, you're local, and you're above a 75% match. (I have generally found that those who are below 75% match have very different attitudes toward politics, religion, and human rights issues, which make them very incompatible with me.)

I believe friendship is an extremely important component of any relationship, sexual or romantic. If you have no interest in getting to know me, please don't message me. But if you are interested in starting with conversation and seeing where it goes, drop me a line.