While not averse to new platonic friends, I'm primarily here looking for a long-term monogamous partner to enhance my life. I'd love to find someone who shares some of my interests and activities, but I prefer an independent partner who also has his own. I match up best with curious, well-rounded people who enjoy sampling a wide variety of what life has to offer -- from food to music to activities. I would like to have someone to go out with (I miss seeing movies, and having a theater buddy), but I also want someone to stay home with. I'm seeking a partner interested in occasional museum trips, regular couch cuddles in front of a movie, special-occasion nights at the symphony, and book-reading at night together before bed.
I'm a thoughtful, positive person, and I'm very invested in healthy relationships and open, honest, kind communication. I think the world is a beautiful place and should be celebrated.
I'm close with my family in a healthy, supportive, and functional way. My immediate family is in Chicago, so I travel home every few months for birthdays and holidays and to spoil my niece and nephews rotten. I like people who are family-oriented, but I also understand that not everyone is blessed with the healthy family relationships that I am. I do enjoy travelling to places other than Chicago (I've visited 41 of the 50 states, Mexico, Canada, and Europe), but I haven't gotten to do it as much as I'd like in recent years. It would be lovely to have a partner to travel with (within the unfortunate limits of vacation time and money).
I'm never interested in being the smartest person in the room. I appreciate people who are curious about the world, and I enjoy learning from others; I am most drawn to people who feel the same. I generally get along best with those who are slightly geeky/nerdy, but not socially awkward, with wide-ranging interests and respect and appreciation for human diversity. I'm also more attracted to people who aren't particularly interested in adhering to rigid gender roles, and who are thoughtful and introspective about things like gender and sexual orientation.
Note: Although I am not a gamer-type myself, I tend to date men who are interested in geeky-gamer things. While I wouldn't be compatible with someone who did nothing but play video games and D&D, I'm certainly compatible with a guy who games a couple nights a week with friends (but who is interested in doing other things on other nights).