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55 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 50–65
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:20pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Gemini, and it matters a lot
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am trying to explain who I am and perhaps I am unclear or, in some other way, too subtle, so I will tell you to read what I've written if you want but this is what it comes down to:
I want to find someone who really "gets" me.
Please please please, if you want a sporty woman who loves things like camping or you don't really enjoy classical music or you don't care for poetry or theatre, film and art...please spare us both the awkwardness of reaching out. I am certain you are a terrific person but if you don't value what I value and want to spend your precious life on things I find worthy, we can't fall in love and I want to love someone again. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I am not 'sportif'. I am an aesthete, currently working with people at risk and under-served populations and also directing an arts foundation. (Gemini thing, doing two things at once)

I am a Latin American Jew, a classically-trained singer still concertizing, with a background in television news documentary, copywriting for various media, a former theatre critic and columnist for a national magazine, arts administrator, a single-mother emeritus, poet. I have no idea "what" that makes me so it's hard to respond when someone asks me what I "do". Mostly, I write poems and sing. I collaborate with other artists. I stalk my son on facebook, like a good Jewish mother. And I wonder if I am meant to fall in love again.

I am looking for an intellectual equal with whom to share things that are meaningful to me. I hope to meet someone who will concur on what is meaningful. We're too old to pretend to like what our other likes. It's a waste of time. If you don't like what I like and you're only doing it to please me, you'll resent me. And I hate it when that happens.

I admire courage and originality. Sometimes, originality requires courage. Usually it does, in my experience. Worth it.

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage" (Nin)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For the first time in my life, I am living moment to moment on my own terms, without a child or partner or family whose needs must be taken into account. This gives me great new freedom. I work when I want and I choose my projects, my collaborators, my schedule. This is new and I am discovering what it can mean in terms of how I look for intimate partnership. I find this new freedom profoundly transformative and it gives me strength to explore, experiment and, so far, extricate quickly, knowing I impact no one but myself. I find it very exciting to see that every time I allow someone into my world, they are closer to my ideal. This is thrilling.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing and writing. Connecting with people. Cooking. Making my habitat really cool. Remembering. I am an excellent rememberer. Movie dialogue, song lyrics, entire libretti, things I see, feelings. I remember things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that i'm wearing my reading glasses all the time, even when I drive, looking over them mostly. dime-store reading glasses, even when i'm dressed up. it's a habit. people notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
yes! I love novels. First novels are especially intriguing: Shadow of the Wind, The Book Thief (oh, what a skill Zusak exhibited in that book! The lines were poetic and searing!). I love baroque music. I love the minimalists (Philip Glass, Nyman...) I love Puccini operas, Neruda and Edna St Vincent Millay sonnets. I love Indian and Thai and of course, Mexican and Mediterranean foods. I love picnics and outdoor concerts under the stars. Some of my favorite films are I've Heard the Mermaids Singing, Out of Africa, Live and Become, You, Me and Everyone We Know....the list is very long, as it is for novels so I'll stop here but we can talk about that. I do not like horror or sci-fi or violence or fantasy or animated. Luckily for me, there are plenty of wonderful films out there that are not any of that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my son
books, words, languages
cafe con leche in the morning
reading glasses
red lipstick
internet connection & facebook
earrings and bracelets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Actually, right now, I spend a lot of time thinking about what might happen next. Remember the book, Days Between Stations? (I think Erickson wrote it...maybe in the 80's?) In any case, I feel as if I am standing on the platform, waiting for a train but I don't know what train or where it's going. I have a poem in which I say
" a slow elevator
that stops on every floor
while you try to remember
what button to push
and who you're there to see."

This is the most untethered I've ever been, these past few years. I am a very different person than I was before motherhood and now, with my son a full-fledged 25 year old, gone from home the last 7 years, I have re-created some things I'd let fall away.

I de-activate this profile constantly because I don't think I'm clear enough about who and how I am so, very nice men reach out and I don't know how to do this No thank you thing. If I don't say it, I feel rude. And twice when I have, I have been shocked by the missives. Evidently, acknowledging contact but saying no thank you is the new bad manners. The new good manners seems to be ignoring the person. So, if you write and I don't answer, it means that I just don't think we'd have fun together. And I'm trying to do this without hurting anyone's feelings.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am either hearing/watching friends perform or somehow involved in some creative endeavor of my own. If I'm lucky, I am with friends or alone nesting in winter and out on the town in summer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know my multiplication tables.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are smart and funny and interesting. Also, please don't contact me if you don't really like women. If you tell me your ex is damaged or crazy, the woman at the office has issues, your sister in law is all adds up. You may not notice, but I do and it tells me you don't like us. So, truly loving women is a must.