Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
What we read here is important but, in my experience, chemistry
will trump a great many things. I find this both sad and wonderful.
Sad that people who seem so right for us turn out to ring no bells
in us, and exciting because not knowing is exciting.
I am Latin American. I think this strongly influences what I find
attractive in people.
I trained in bel canto and still sing. I also work with people
at-risk and head up a foundation in honor of a prolific artist
whose work reached many museums but sadly died too young.
I've had a great many adventures, professional and personal, worked
in television news, documentary film, I've written for various
media, and was a critic and columnist for a national magazine.
Since moving to Portland, I've worked in arts administration and
social services. I perform throughout the year and still write
daily. Mostly, I write essays and poems and sing. I collaborate
with other artists. I stalk my son on facebook, like a good Jewish
mother. And I wonder if I am meant to fall in love again.
I'm funny, intense, a strong feminist with vestiges of an old world
upbringing and all the contradictions rising from those. I'm aware,
moody, imaginative, opinionated.
I am looking for an intellectual equal with whom to share things
that are meaningful to me. I hope to meet someone who will concur
on what is meaningful. We're too old to pretend to like what our
other likes. It's a waste of time. If you don't like what I like
and you're only doing it to please me, you'll resent me. And I hate
it when that happens.
I admire courage and originality. Sometimes, originality requires
courage. Usually it does, in my experience. Worth it.
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage" (Nin)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to contribute as much as I can, be informed, participate as
fully as I can in whatever context I am placed, and stay open to
possibilities for intimacy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing and writing. Connecting with people. Opening my home to
friends. Making my habitat really cool. Remembering. I am an
excellent rememberer. Movie dialogue, song lyrics, entire libretti,
things I see, feelings. I remember things. Being present,
emotionally and showing compassion. Making people laugh, mainly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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yes! I love novels. Some of my favorites Samurai's Garden, The
autobiography of Cleopatra by M. George, Song of Names....First
novels are especially intriguing: Shadow of the Wind, The Book
Thief (oh, what a skill Zusak exhibited in that book! The lines
were poetic and searing!). I love baroque music. I love the
minimalists (Philip Glass, Nyman...) I love Puccini operas, Neruda
and Edna St Vincent Millay sonnets. I love Indian and Thai and of
course, Mexican and Mediterranean foods. I love picnics and outdoor
concerts under the stars. Some of my favorite films are I've Heard
the Mermaids Singing, Out of Africa, Live and Become, You, Me and
Everyone We Know....the list is very long, as it is for novels so
I'll stop here but we can talk about that. I do not like horror or
sci-fi or violence or fantasy or animated. Luckily for me, there
are plenty of wonderful films out there that are not any of that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books, words, languages
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Actually, right now, I spend a lot of time thinking about what
might happen next. Remember the book, Days Between Stations? (I
think Erickson wrote it...maybe in the 80's?) In any case, I feel
as if I am standing on the platform, waiting for a train but I
don't know what train or where it's going. I have a poem in which I
"....like a slow elevator
that stops on every floor
while you try to remember
what button to push
and who you're there to see."
This is an exciting, terrifying, delicious time. It's like
adolescence except your parents are out every night.
I de-activate this profile frequently because I don't think I'm
clear enough about who and how I am so, very nice men reach out and
I don't know how to do this No thank you thing. If I don't say it,
I feel rude. And twice when I have, I have been shocked by the
missives. Evidently, acknowledging contact but saying no thank you
is the new bad manners. The new good manners seems to be ignoring
the person. So, if you write and I don't answer, it means that I
just don't think we'd have fun together. And I'm trying to do this
without hurting anyone's feelings.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Whether out with friends, attending a performance or at home
shabbating, I am wondering if my true love is out there wondering
the same thing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know my multiplication tables.
You should message me if
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If you are smart and funny and interesting.
I do not initiate contact. I have heard from several men that they
are flooded with unwanted messages. None of those messages will
ever be from me.
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