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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 50–65
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:15pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Gemini, and it matters a lot
Art / Music / Writing
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A couple of things....
If you are a libertarian or republican, please don't contact me. I am left of left and will not find anyone attractive if we, in our core values, do not mesh.
What we read here is important but, in my experience, chemistry will trump a great many things. I find this both sad and wonderful. Sad that people who seem so right for us turn out to ring no bells in us, and exciting because not knowing is exciting.

My sister told me she wrote a list of things she wanted in a partner and it was 27 things long. She met her beloved 5 months later and he had 25 of the attributes. She encouraged me to do the same. I thought it would be easy and it was, but it wasn't 27 things. It wasn't a list at all. I wrote, all in one gulp, lying on my bed one of those dark icy days this winter, that "I seek someone who is not afraid, someone not embittered or 'decepcionado' (disillisioned in Spanish), someone who laughs easily and makes me laugh, who feels things strongly, who knows something is at stake, that choices matter but who, at the same time, realizes that we are so small in time and space that not much has any lasting import, no intrinsic weight in the universes. I look for someone who can still, even after everything that's happened to all of us, even after the losses that come with living, is still able to go all in and be joyful."

I am Latin American. I think this strongly influences what I find attractive in people.
I trained in bel canto and still sing. I also work with people at-risk and head up a foundation in honor of a prolific artist whose work reached many museums but sadly died too young.

I've had a great many adventures, professional and personal, worked in television news, documentary film, I've written for various media, and was a critic and columnist for a national magazine. Since moving to Portland, I've worked in arts administration and social services. I perform throughout the year and still write daily. Mostly, I write essays and poems and sing. I collaborate with other artists. I stalk my son on facebook, like a good Jewish mother. And I wonder if I am meant to fall in love again.

I'm funny, intense, a strong feminist with vestiges of an old world upbringing and all the contradictions rising from those. I'm aware, moody, imaginative, opinionated.

I am looking for an intellectual equal with whom to share things that are meaningful to me. I hope to meet someone who will concur on what is meaningful. We're too old to pretend to like what our other likes. It's a waste of time. If you don't like what I like and you're only doing it to please me, you'll resent me. And I hate it when that happens.

I admire courage and originality. Sometimes, originality requires courage. Usually it does, in my experience. Worth it.

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage" (Nin)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to contribute as much as I can, be informed, participate as fully as I can in whatever context I am placed, and stay open to possibilities for intimacy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing and writing. Connecting with people. Opening my home to friends. Making my habitat really cool. Remembering. I am an excellent rememberer. Movie dialogue, song lyrics, entire libretti, things I see, feelings. I remember things. Being present, emotionally and showing compassion. Making people laugh, mainly myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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yes! I love novels. Some of my favorites Samurai's Garden, The autobiography of Cleopatra by M. George, Song of Names....First novels are especially intriguing: Shadow of the Wind, The Book Thief (oh, what a skill Zusak exhibited in that book! The lines were poetic and searing!). I love baroque music. I love the minimalists (Philip Glass, Nyman...) I love Puccini operas, Neruda and Edna St Vincent Millay sonnets. I love Indian and Thai and of course, Mexican and Mediterranean foods. I love picnics and outdoor concerts under the stars. Some of my favorite films are I've Heard the Mermaids Singing, Out of Africa, Live and Become, You, Me and Everyone We Know....the list is very long, as it is for novels so I'll stop here but we can talk about that. I do not like horror or sci-fi or violence or fantasy or animated. Luckily for me, there are plenty of wonderful films out there that are not any of that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my son
books, words, languages
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Actually, right now, I spend a lot of time thinking about what might happen next. Remember the book, Days Between Stations? (I think Erickson wrote it...maybe in the 80's?) In any case, I feel as if I am standing on the platform, waiting for a train but I don't know what train or where it's going. I have a poem in which I say
" a slow elevator
that stops on every floor
while you try to remember
what button to push
and who you're there to see."

This is an exciting, terrifying, delicious time. It's like adolescence except your parents are out every night.

I de-activate this profile frequently because I don't think I'm clear enough about who and how I am so, very nice men reach out and I don't know how to do this No thank you thing. If I don't say it, I feel rude. And twice when I have, I have been shocked by the missives. Evidently, acknowledging contact but saying no thank you is the new bad manners. The new good manners seems to be ignoring the person. So, if you write and I don't answer, it means that I just don't think we'd have fun together. And I'm trying to do this without hurting anyone's feelings.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Whether out with friends, attending a performance or at home shabbating, I am wondering if my true love is out there wondering the same thing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know my multiplication tables.
You should message me if
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If you are smart and funny and interesting.

I do not initiate contact. I have heard from several men that they are flooded with unwanted messages. None of those messages will ever be from me.