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32 Medford, MA Woman


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  • Ages 22–39
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My details

Last online
May 10
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Christianity, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Things you should know about me:

+ I'm a Christian. A radical, queer Christian.

Please note: I have no interest in trying to convert anyone, but Christian theology, liturgy, etc. is one of the things I can talk about ad infinitum.

+ I'm educating myself a lot about various axes of oppression (racism/white privilege, disability, etc.) and am really attentive about the language I use (gendered language, pejorative slang that references mental illness, etc.). I'm not "policing" people to harsh their squee; I'm interested in making all aspects of life more life-giving for all people. (I'm also invested in honesty, consistency, and inclusion.)

+ I don't actually like to talk politics.

Because I always feel woefully under-informed about any particular issue. And yet.

+ I'm a big proponent of HAES (Health At Every Size -- see also, fat-acceptance). I support people adjusting their food consumption (and any other aspect of their habits/lifestyle) in order to be healthier, but I really don't wanna hear about you being "on a diet." I don't wanna hear weight numbers being used as a proxy for health. I don't wanna hear people being "bad" or "good" because of their food consumption (food consumption is value-laden in many real ways, and we can totally have conversations about that, but "I'm being good, so I'm just having salad" is a no-go).

+ I'm sex-positive, and I try to be a kink and poly advocate. This does not mean I'm interested in having sex (or being kinky or poly) with YOU necessarily.

My own personal sexual ethics are ... complicated.

+ I came of age in fandom, and while I'm not very fannishly active these days, it's still where I live to a large extent, and it has and continues to inform so many of the ways I engage with texts.

+ I prefer to identify as "queer" on account of the way "bisexual" implies a gender binary (I'm willing to accept the binary of "people of my own gender" and "people of not my own gender," but that feels like stretching the meaning of the word).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Managing a set of faculty for my 9-5 job.

In my "free" time, hanging out in various queer and/or faith spaces, working to build [albeit fleeting moments of] the radical queer church of my heart.

Intermittently working on writing a book about what the Christian tradition has to offer folks living with severe, chronic depression (and the people who love them).

Cultivating bicycling as a major means of personal transport.

Indoor rock wall climbing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Problematizing things. Interrelating things. Arguably, overthinking things ;)

Being attentive to how we can better include the outsider, the Other, those on the margins.

Organizing things. Proofreading and editing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Depends on the context.

Options include:
+ my D-cup breasts
+ that I have Strong Opinions about lots of things and can talk at great length
+ that I take notes on everything
+ that my definition of "on time" is 5 minutes early
+ that I have a much stronger tolerance for cold weather than most people
+ that I'm often very physically affectionate with people I care about
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Most of my reading these days is nonfiction (with the exception of feminist sci-fi book club, yay!), but I am arguably All About The Stories. Give me a compelling plot with characters I care about, and I'm in love. I adore reworkings -- especially of fairytales, vampire mythos, and Christian narrative/image -- but am averse to cross-media adaptations (e.g., books made into movies).

I used to be more likely to go to a film festival at the MFA than I to shell out for a mainstream movie in theatres, but apparently now almost the only thing that gets me into a movie theatre is e.g. the latest Marvel release because I want to be able to talk about it with my friends.

I haven't really watched tv (except some Bravo, etc. at the gym) since I fell out of the habit during the mid-season hiatus of Season 2 of Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles (I have since purchased it on DVD and will one day finish watching it), so my "shows people have recommended to me and which I think I would really like to watch when I ever have the time again" list keeps growing.

I like music I can sing along to and music I can dance to. I'm mostly not a fan of having music on in the background because I get distracted by the words. I love 90s music (I didn't make this 8tracks, but I love it -- and lots of Top 40 stuff -- I am approximately the opposite of a music snob. I like girl-with-guitar (Ani DiFranco, Dar Williams, Catie Curtis, Heather Maloney) and angry music (eve 6, everclear, matchbox 20, P!nk) and Belle & Sebastian and The Magnetic Fields (90s mixtape nostalgia!).

I have really really boring taste in food (though I also have strong feelings about the superiority of my mother's baked goods vis a vis everyone else's).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(metaphorically speaking, of course, and not necessarily in order)

1. things to write with and on
2. intellectual engagement
3. physical affection
4. the Internet
5. warm showers
6. people who love me
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Issues of oppression (around sexuality, gender [identity], ability, mental health, etc.).

Christian narratives.

How to more effectively actually accomplish all the projects I keep acquiring.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I do engage in personality typing, I'm...

Tarot: Queen of Swords
Enneagram: 5
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're intelligent. You're interesting. You think I'm interesting. You're in the Boston area.

You spell everything correctly. (No seriously. I'd forgotten what a peeve of mine this is until people started IMing me. Purposeful usages like "teh internetz" and "brb" are fine, and everyone -- myself included --- makes typos sometimes, but instant messaging isn't an excuse to leave out things like apostrophes or letters in words.)

You're a liberal Christian. I have positive relationships with many liberal folk who aren't Christian, but the only Christians I seem to encounter on OKC are conservative in ways that seem to render us incompatible, so you would totally get a gold (or colored foil of your choice) star if you were a liberal Christian I don't already know. [This last one is not a "you should message me if and only if," of course.]