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  • Ages 30–50
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

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Today – 7:15am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update: I'm clean-shaven now.

I have a very busy schedule, and balance is NOT one of my strengths. I'm a bit intense. I am very passionate about everything I do. I am an extrovert. I am very curious. I love meeting new people.

"Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death. Live, live, live." - from Auntie Mame

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have always imagined." - Thoreau

"Remember you're never fully dressed without a smile." - from Annie

"My greatest wealth is the deep stillness in which I strive and grow and win what the world cannot take from me with fire or sword." - Von Goethe

"Some people are made of plastic
You know some people are made of wood
Some people have hearts of stone
Some people are up to no good
Aaaaah, but baby, I'm for real
I'm as real as real can get
If what you're looking for
Is real loving
Then what you see
Is what you get"
- The Dramatics "Whatcha See Is Whatcha Get"
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
“Everybody builds a dream in their lifetime. You’re either going to build your dream, or somebody else's. So build your own!"
- Christopher LaBrec

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." - Emerson

"To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist." - Gail Sheehy

"We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." - George Bernard Shaw

"There are only two ways to live your life: one is as nothing is a miracle, and the other is as everything is a miracle. I believe in the latter." - Albert Einstein
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Running my company.

Reading people, empathizing, leading, inspiring.

Parallel parking.

Snuggling, cuddling, and naps.

Finding great, pithy quotes for my profile.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People notice my smile and eyes. Once I begin speaking, you'll notice my very deep sexy voice and high energy. Just recently I was driving in the car with a new client, and commented that we'll stop for coffee soon- his stunned reply was, "You haven't had any coffee yet?" Yep, my energy is high.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm absolutely a foodie. I love all foods, am a proficient and passionate cook, and can slum it or go fine dining. I make my own wine as a hobbyist and collect wine.

I love all music and am now getting back into live shows- prefer small clubs. In my newly single life (since 2011), I've caught a diverse selection of shows. I'll see anything at the Fillmore. My recent live music exploration has included Storm Large, Matt Schofield (blues guitar), The Butthole Surfers, Ting Tings, Eric McFadden (many times, often with Jane Wiedlin appearing), Squeeze, The Melvins (multiple times), Unsane, Gotye, Serj Tankian, Le Butcherettes, Bob Dylan with Mark Knopfler, Jimmy Buffett, the 30th anniversary tour of The Go-Go's, The Killers (twice), Todd Rundgren (many times), Fitz and the Tantrums (multiple times), Jimmy Cliff (multiple times), Spin Doctors, AFI (many times, my cousin is in the band), Polica, Capital Cities (several times), Queens of the Stone Age (several times), Sheila E., Art Alexakis (Everclear), Arctic Monkeys, The Colourist (multiple times), Bryan Ferry, Pet Shop Boys, Wayne Shorter, Johnny Winter (RIP), Trombone Shorty, Fishbone, Roy Rogers, Franz Ferdinand, The Foals, Cage the Elephant, The Faint (several times), Steve Winwood, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, Peter Murphy, New Order, Ringo Starr and his All-Stars (for TODD, one of the All-Stars) Filter (with Helmet, who stole the show), Bruno Mars, Howard Jones with Tom Bailey (yeah, the secret show at Mezzanine- was amazing), Sammy Hagar, Sky Ferreira, The Breeders, George Thorogood, ABC, Hall & Oates, Lily Allen, Glenn Tillbrook (more Squeeze!), X. Blasters, STRFKR, The Roots, Cracker/Camper Van Beethoven, Pharoah Sanders, and some more I can't recall. I have tickets to a bunch of upcoming shows such as Styx, Billy Idol, Dengue Fever, Echosmith, The Colourist (again), Ting Tings (again), Ministry, They Might Be Giants and others.

I prefer classic films to the Hollywood formulas, and only wish I had more time to read (most of my reading is work-related these days and/or non-fiction). I've only watched It's A Wonderful Life once this holiday season- I'd better get cracking...

Directors: Billy Wilder, Alfred Hitchcock, Fritz Lang, Coen Brothers, Stephen Soderberg, Wes Anderson, Judd Apatow, Paul Thomas Anderson, Orson Welles, Kevin Smith.

Movies: Auntie Mame, Wizard of Oz, Magnolia, The Swimmer, Some Like It Hot, Boogie Nights, Blade Runner, Dazed and Confused, Pleasantville, The Magnificent Ambersons, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Goodfellas, Big Lebowski, Mallrats, anything with John Cusack, Midnight in Paris, Groundhog Day, Lost in Translation. Love going to the Stanford of Castro theaters. I just watched About Time and I loved it so much- can even squeeze in one more quote:

"The truth is I now don't travel back at all, not even for the day, I just try to live every day as if I've deliberately come back to this one day, to enjoy it, as if it was the full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life." -from About Time

Bands: Led Zeppelin, Beatles, Melvins, AFI, White Stripes (or anything Jack White), Miles Davis, Chet Baker, Beastie Boys, Todd Rundgren, and anything 70's/80's with singers higher pitched than most women (Chicago, Styx, Boston, Kansas...).

Shows: Les Miserables (best ever!), Wicked, The Producers (I saw rare performance with Jason Alexander and Martin Short), Jersey Boys, O, Spring Awakenings, Rock of Ages, Lion King. For shows I love but haven't seen I'd list Annie Get Your Gun, Lady Be Good, Girl Crazy, Kiss Me Kate. I have tickets for Elf the Musical, Book of Mormon, and Matilda.

Travel: I love travel. I prefer Europe, but I am aware I need to expand my horizons. Last year, I spent time in London and loved it. I just returned from Munich (Electronica), but enjoyed visiting friends and colleagues in Switzerland, Liechtenstein, and Austria, as well. I like short trips (7-10 days abroad or long weekends domestically). The last couple of years also took me to Hawaii, Oregon (many times), NYC, Charlotte (many times), Vegas (many times), Mexico, Nashville, So Cal (Disneyland multiple times), West Marin/N. Coast (multiple weekend trips), Yosemite, Healdsburg (spend most of my summer weekends there), Arizona, New Orleans (the Super Bowl!), Chicago, NYC, and Washington DC. In 2015, I have some travel already planned for Vegas, Charlotte (at least twice), Italy, Hawaii, Seattle, San Diego, my annual trips to Disneyland and Yosemite, and Portland. Some of the above trips are for business, but I always spend a little extra time to explore. Last year, I sold my car after 225,000 miles and bought a new one- already has 45,000 miles in 16 months.

Food: I'm in a lifelong search for the world's best burger. Related, I'm a french fry addict. Sushi (especially waloo, kamachi, maguro), anything umami, mushroom, truffle and truffle oil, foie gras, chicken tikka masala, brussels sprouts, smokey BBQ, potstickers, duck confit, a great fish taco (grilled, with lots of lime), tapatio, rice wine vinegar, Maille mustard (especially the flavored ones I get in Europe, but the old style also great), mac n cheese.

Restaurants: Sons and Daughters, Wise Sons Deli, Gary Danko, Puerto 27, Farmer Brown, Sir and Star, Outerlands, Thanh Long, any restaurant in Healdsburg, Bar Tartine, Maverick (damn, burned down), Southpaw BBQ.

T.V.: Yes, I own a t.v. Two, in fact. I don't know why it's so hip to say you don't own a t.v.; nor do I know why that automatically implies I'm a fat, lazy slob. I watch some sports on t.v., and have two shows going at all times- usually Sundays. Right now that would be Walking Dead (darn, just ended) and Homeland. Earlier in the year, it would be Game of Thrones.

Sports: For all you hipsters, please don't rush off to the next profile just because I like spectator sports. I can bore you to death with every fantasy baseball stat, or we can never discuss, it's all good! That being said, I'm a big Giants, Niners, Warrior fan, with season tickets to the Giants and Warriors, and I usually go to 1-3 Niner games also.

Exercise: Iyengar yoga, tennis, basketball, golf (customer golf- I'm NOT a fanatic), walking. I wish I had more time, but for now focusing on the eating part of the equation- lost 15 lbs this year. Even if I did have time, hanging out in a smelly gym with no windows is not my idea of fun.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Gees, so many questions. OK, only 6...

1. My kids
2. Sex
3. Relationships (whether friends, colleagues, or lovers)
4. Great wine and food
5. Travel
6. Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to improve OKC. There should be a box to check that reads "Dinner now?" I wish I could just come here, check that box, then meet you at a restaurant in an hour for a nice dinner with no commitments or hangups. I'm not sure why this dating thing has to be so formal and planned.

The Giants. The Warriors. The Niners. Don't worry, if you're not a sports fan, we will still get along fine.

Thinking about new pithy quotes.

I'm a father- I think about my family.

I'm a man- I think about intimacy and sex.

I'm a business owner- I think about thriving. Yes, I'm a fucking capitalist- that's not a crime or something to be shameful of. My business helps other companies design and engineer really cool products, many that even save lives.

I think about why anyone cares that I love the word fuck. I've received multiple messages from women upset I used the word. I love f-bombs (even though I'm mostly restrained, educated, blah blah blah...

I'm a home chef- I think about making the perfect souffle. I would say I'm a great chef, but then I dated a chef and was humbled. I'm a wine geek- I think about opening that bottle I've saved for a decade. I'm a music fan- I think about that perfect show.

Star Wars 7

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss

A quote I hijacked from another profile:
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend."- Albert Camus
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Resting. I go 110% most nights, but Fridays I collapse. Pick any other night for our date, please! P.S. - I have my kids most weekends, so prefer weekdays, actually.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know how to drive a stick shift.

I've never owned a pair of flip-flops- I just don't understand how to keep them on my feet when I walk!

I have the largest t-shirt collection you can imagine. Not a conscious strategy, I just buy t-shirts from cool things I do, and never seem to throw any away. Update: I just threw 28 shirts out, reducing my collection to 81 remaining!

Now that I turned 47, I must not meet the cutoff for dating searches (many must have an upper limit of 45), so my messages have dropped way off.

I always have at least one package of Pepperidge Farms raspberry (only raspberry, no other flavors) turnovers in the freezer.

I've never been to a New Year's Eve or Halloween party!

I laugh at my own jokes- so tacky!
You should message me if
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Update: Doesn't anyone like LOUD music? I'm looking for someone to get me out of the house and go to more live shows!!!

You should message me if you are in need of a fellow "urban explorer"; if you want to catch a band play at a small venue or club; if you want to catch a classic movie at the Stanford or Castro theater; or if you just want to hang out and solve the world's problems over a glass of wine; or just want to get naked (seeing if you're paying attention- I'm just joking - or am I?).

Please note that my schedule is ridiculous (I think I wrote that several places in this profile). I'm all about under-promising and over-delivering. If you have expectations or needs that include meeting more than a few times per month, then I may disappoint.

I am open to meeting women older or younger than the range I specified. However, since I do not want more children (and I'm fixed), and have children of my own, I figured women closest to my age would be the best match.

"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing but burn, burn, burn like fabulous roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars..."
-Jack Kerouac