Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only
constrained by time.
While I'm currently polyamorous and dating casually, I consider
myself single, I'm open to both polyamory and monogamy and have
experience with both. I am strictly and completely honest about who
I am seeing, my sexual status with them, my current STI test
results including when, and so forth (because safety is sexy) - I
expect anyone I see to be the same.
I'm looking for female (cis or otherwise) partner(s?) (ideally into
my kinks, though that's not mandatory). I'm open to a lot of
possible types of relationships (monogamous, new poly primary, new
poly secondary, friends with benefits, play partners, ...). My only
stipulation is that I won't immediately be monogamous - we'd have
to explicitly discuss it after seeing each other for a while. That
said, I'm absolutely open to the possibility. A one-night stand
does NOT interest me. (Clear as mud? Good. Not so much? Ask away. I
respond very willingly to very personal questions. Really, ask me
anything. ANYTHING. Shame is useless, remember? :)
I've just completed a very amicable divorce. I met her through
okcupid and have no regrets - I would honestly relive our lives
together unchanged from beginning to end. The photos are from our
wedding, and they're not going anywhere because it was a critical
chapter in my life. Needless to say, it made me a believer in
I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be
hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more
exploring is on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm
game." While we're at it, I often say, "I'm a gamer". Board,
Tabletop, PC, Console, etc. My biggest creative outlets are being a
GM and writing software, and if you think either one doesn't
require plenty of creativity, we should chat so I can disillusion
you of that notion.
I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops -
you'll find me drinking hot chocolate. I prefer listening to
talking unless I get going on one of my many passions. I hate large
parties and love small groups / 1:1. Give me a political or
philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now insisting is a word to
maintain the rhyme) discussion with "coffee" (see above) and with
friends over too much alcohol and strangers any day. (Not that I
don't enjoy the occasional drink.)
I tend to avoid paying attention to the news because it's too
depressing. That's assuming you don't count Daily Show and Colbert
Report when I remember to stream them, of course, but even that is
rare - too many other things to do.
I'm inquisitive. Expect me to ask questions. Sometimes I get lost
for hours on Wikipedia or TVTropes and consider neither one a waste
of time. I like to reread my physics textbooks from time to time.
Museums about almost anything are awesome.
I volunteer at PAX. I play frisbee golf and bocce. I hate bigotry.
I love Tim Minchin.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to figure out who I really am. I think everyone doesn't
know themselves as well as they think they do. I'm certain that I
know what I want right now, but who's to say I won't want different
things in the future? Can you say you've always wanted the same
things? I keep trying new things and self-introspecting in order to
learn more about both the world and myself.
Career? I write software, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it.
I work at Microsoft. In non-technical terms, I have a big red phone
on my desk labeled "Netflix" because they need my help finding
their bugs far too often. (Not my team's bugs. Usually.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told I'm a good singer (at least when I stay within my
range). I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and
speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably
code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also
great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential
alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other
I also love to eliminate internal inconsistencies and help others
do the same (by revealing them).
The first things people usually notice about me
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People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me
while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height
when I stand up. They usually start reading my T-shirt, whichever
one that is, and then they laugh at or comment on said T-shirt
(which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction. "Time Enough for Love",
"The Name of the Wind", and "A Brief History of Time" are my
favorites in each of those respective categories.
Movies: I like Sci-Fi, fantasy, kids movies, and dramas. I watch
comedies but they're never my first choice. "The Princess Bride" is
my favorite movie (and I can quote much of the script).
TV: Firefly. Anything Joss. Anything SciFi, Fantasy, and/or well
written. Yes, that means I like bad SciFi and Fantasy.
Music: I like pop, electronic, symphonic/gothic metal, and
industrial the best. Taylor Swift is my favorite musician.
Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves
trying new food and can always find something to eat at most
restaurants. I seem to eat a lot of American and Thai food. I love
raw fruit; I love raw vegetables with certain exceptions; I love
chocolate (dark, milk, and "white").
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Company. I may be an introvert and love my alone time, but it's
awfully difficult to "silverware" by yourself - I obviously include
love, sex, and cuddling as part of this item.
Books. Not that sissy Kindle, but real, paper books can make you
feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent
of libraries. Ok, if you use a Kindle (or similar) for the
convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, lots of people I like
do. I just prefer the real thing.
Creativity is the closest thing to a soul I believe in, so Music,
Movies/TV, and Art are great. Did I mention I like museums (of art,
of science, of /.*/)? I probably did. I just hate going to them
alone; want to go?
Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot
water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite
sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough
for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but
using anomalous local weather events as evidence (rather than the
mountain of good scientific evidence) would be disingenuous.
Gaming. It can be social or alone; challenging or easy; relaxed or
intense; inside or outside. Regardless of my mood, a game that
suits almost certainly exists.
A car. I'm more of a suburbanite, and having once lived in the
suburbs without a car for a while, the resulting inconvenience was
monumental. I drive a high-gas-mileage car; the environment is
important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I can be a better person: a better friend; a better engineer; a
better lover; a better feminist; etc. ("I call it feminism instead
of equality because it is the feminine traits that men and women
are shamed for." - goblinfae). How things/people work. Why things
work the way they do and why people do the things they do. The
problems the world faces and how to solve them. The nature of life,
humanity, existence, sentience, and the universe. Art, music,
politics/policy, literature, TV, movies, games, work, play, people,
places, and things. I also usually have at least one song playing
fragments in my head. In computer science terms, I have a blazing
fast CPU with hyperthreading and think about things even while
thinking about other things. I was thinking about whether being
uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live or
not while I wrote this. The jury is still out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date; spending time at the CSPC; playing, reading, or watching
something interesting; at a museum, show, or event; taking a nap.
My best Friday nights include at least two items from that set.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias.
GGG, SSC, DD/LG, *NOT* ABDL. If that's a problem, this is not the
profile you're looking for, move along, move along.
You should message me if
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You'd like to discus hypothetical alternate realities, gush over
our shared interests, introduce me to a restaurant, or thumb
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