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  • Ages 18–35
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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Strictly non-monogamous
English, C++
My self-summary
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I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only constrained by time.

I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops - you'll find me drinking hot chocolate. I prefer listening to talking until I get going on one of my many passions.

I'm in a polyamorous marriage to a woman whom I met through okcupid. Now that our relationship is happy and secure, we're both dating other people. We are strictly and completely honest with each other about who we are seeing, our sexual status with them (because safety is sexy), and so forth. I'm looking for another female (cis or otherwise) partner (who's into my kinks) for me while my wife's looking for another male partner (who's into her kinks) for her. (Clear as mud? Good. Not so much? Ask away. :)

I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more exploring is on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm game." While we're at it, "I'm a gamer". Board, Tabletop, PC, Console, etc. My biggest creative outlets are being a GM and writing software, and if you think either one doesn't require plenty of creativity, we should chat so I can disillusion you of that notion.

I hate large parties and love small groups / 1:1. Give me a political or philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now insisting is a word to maintain the rhyme) discussion over "coffee" (see above) and friends over too much alcohol and strangers any day. (Not that I don't enjoy the occasional drink.)

I tend to avoid paying attention to the news because it's too depressing. That's assuming you don't count Daily Show and Colbert Report when I remember to stream them, of course, but even that is rare - too many other things to do.

I volunteer at PAX. I play frisbee golf and bocce. I hate bigotry. I love Tim Minchin.

What I’m doing with my life
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I'm trying to figure out who I really am. I think everyone doesn't know themselves as well as they think they do. I'm certain that I know what I want right now, but who's to say I won't want different things in the future? Can you say you've always wanted the same things? I keep trying new things and self-introspecting in order to learn more about both the world and myself.

Career? I write software, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it. I work at Microsoft. In non-technical terms, I have a big red phone on my desk labeled "Netflix" because they need my help finding their bugs far too often. (Not my team's bugs. Usually. Never my bugs. So far.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told I'm a good singer (at least when I stay within my range). I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other career passion.

I also love to eliminate internal inconsistencies and help others do the same (by revealing them).
The first things people usually notice about me
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People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height when I stand up. They usually start reading my T-shirt, whichever one that is, and then they laugh at or comment on said T-shirt (which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction. "Time Enough for Love", "The Name of the Wind", and "A Brief History of Time" are my favorites in each of those respective categories.

Movies: I like Sci-Fi, fantasy, kids movies, and dramas. I watch comedies but they're never my first choice. "The Princess Bride" is my favorite movie (and I can probably quote the entire script).

TV: Firefly. Anything Joss. Anything SciFi, Fantasy, and/or well written. Yes, that means I like bad SciFi and Fantasy.

Music: I like pop, electronic, symphonic/gothic metal, and industrial the best. Taylor Swift is my favorite musician. Seriously.

Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves trying new food and can always find something to eat at most restaurants. I seem to eat a lot of American and Thai food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Company. I may be an introvert and love my alone time, but it's awfully difficult to silverware by yourself - I obviously include love, sex, and cuddling as part of this item.

Books. Not that sissy kindle, but real, paper books can make you feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent of libraries. Ok, if you use a kindle (or similar) for the convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, lots of people I like do. I just prefer the real thing.

Creativity is the closest thing to a soul I believe in, so Music, Movies/TV, and Art. Did I mention I also like museums (of art, of science, of /.*/)?

Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but using anomalous local weather events as evidence (rather than the mountain of good scientific evidence) would be disingenuous.

Gaming. It can be social or alone; challenging or easy; relaxed or intense; inside or outside. Regardless of my mood, a game that suits almost certainly exists.

A car. I'm more of a suburbanite, and having once lived in the suburbs without a car for a while, the resulting inconvenience was monumental. I drive a high-gas-mileage car; the environment is important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How things/people work. Why things work the way they do and why people do the things they do. The problems the world faces and how to solve them. The nature of life, humanity, existence, sentience, and the universe. Art, music, politics/policy, literature, TV, movies, games, work, play, people, places, and things. I also usually have at least one song playing fragments in my head. In computer science terms, I have a blazing fast CPU with hyperthreading and think about things even while thinking about other things. I was thinking about whether being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live or not while I wrote this. The jury is still out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date; spending time at the CSPC; playing, reading, or watching something interesting; taking a nap. My best Friday nights combine at least two items from that set.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias. If that's a problem, move along, move along.
You should message me if
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My FetLife profile intrigues you.

You're enthusiastic about meeting in person assuming our first few messages go well. Chemistry is vital and you can only test it in person.

You'd like to discus hypothetical alternate realities, gush over our shared interests, introduce me to a restaurant, or thumb wrestle.