Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only
constrained by time.
I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops -
you'll find me drinking hot chocolate. I prefer listening to
talking until I get going on one of my many passions.
I'm in a polyamorous marriage to a woman whom I met through
okcupid. Now that our relationship is happy and secure, we're both
dating other people. We are strictly and completely honest with
each other about who we are seeing, our sexual status with them
(because safety is sexy), and so forth. I'm looking for another
female (cis or otherwise) partner (who's into my kinks) for me
while my wife's looking for another male partner (who's into her
kinks) for her. (Clear as mud? Good. Not so much? Ask away.
I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be
hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more
exploring is on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm
game." While we're at it, "I'm a gamer". Board, Tabletop, PC,
Console, etc. My biggest creative outlets are being a GM and
writing software, and if you think either one doesn't require
plenty of creativity, we should chat so I can disillusion you of
I hate large parties and love small groups / 1:1. Give me a
political or philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now insisting
is a word to maintain the rhyme) discussion over "coffee" (see
above) and friends over too much alcohol and strangers any day.
(Not that I don't enjoy the occasional drink.)
I tend to avoid paying attention to the news because it's too
depressing. That's assuming you don't count Daily Show and Colbert
Report when I remember to stream them, of course, but even that is
rare - too many other things to do.
I volunteer at PAX. I play frisbee golf and bocce. I hate bigotry.
I love Tim Minchin.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm trying to figure out who I really am. I think everyone doesn't
know themselves as well as they think they do. I'm certain that I
know what I want right now, but who's to say I won't want different
things in the future? Can you say you've always wanted the same
things? I keep trying new things and self-introspecting in order to
learn more about both the world and myself.
Career? I write software, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it.
I work at Microsoft. In non-technical terms, I have a big red phone
on my desk labeled "Netflix" because they need my help finding
their bugs far too often. (Not my team's bugs. Usually. Never my
bugs. So far.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told I'm a good singer (at least when I stay within my
range). I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and
speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably
code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also
great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential
alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other
I also love to eliminate internal inconsistencies and help others
do the same (by revealing them).
The first things people usually notice about me
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People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me
while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height
when I stand up. They usually start reading my T-shirt, whichever
one that is, and then they laugh at or comment on said T-shirt
(which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction. "Time Enough for Love",
"The Name of the Wind", and "A Brief History of Time" are my
favorites in each of those respective categories.
Movies: I like Sci-Fi, fantasy, kids movies, and dramas. I watch
comedies but they're never my first choice. "The Princess Bride" is
my favorite movie (and I can probably quote the entire
TV: Firefly. Anything Joss. Anything SciFi, Fantasy, and/or well
written. Yes, that means I like bad SciFi and Fantasy.
Music: I like pop, electronic, symphonic/gothic metal, and
industrial the best. Taylor Swift is my favorite musician.
Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves
trying new food and can always find something to eat at most
restaurants. I seem to eat a lot of American and Thai food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Company. I may be an introvert and love my alone time, but it's
awfully difficult to silverware by yourself - I obviously include
love, sex, and cuddling as part of this item.
Books. Not that sissy kindle, but real, paper books can make you
feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent
of libraries. Ok, if you use a kindle (or similar) for the
convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, lots of people I like
do. I just prefer the real thing.
Creativity is the closest thing to a soul I believe in, so Music,
Movies/TV, and Art. Did I mention I also like museums (of art, of
science, of /.*/)?
Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot
water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite
sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough
for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but
using anomalous local weather events as evidence (rather than the
mountain of good scientific evidence) would be disingenuous.
Gaming. It can be social or alone; challenging or easy; relaxed or
intense; inside or outside. Regardless of my mood, a game that
suits almost certainly exists.
A car. I'm more of a suburbanite, and having once lived in the
suburbs without a car for a while, the resulting inconvenience was
monumental. I drive a high-gas-mileage car; the environment is
important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How things/people work. Why things work the way they do and why
people do the things they do. The problems the world faces and how
to solve them. The nature of life, humanity, existence, sentience,
and the universe. Art, music, politics/policy, literature, TV,
movies, games, work, play, people, places, and things. I also
usually have at least one song playing fragments in my head. In
computer science terms, I have a blazing fast CPU with
hyperthreading and think about things even while thinking about
other things. I was thinking about whether being uploaded into a
massive computer would be a better way to live or not while I wrote
this. The jury is still out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date; spending time at the CSPC; playing, reading, or watching
something interesting; taking a nap. My best Friday nights combine
at least two items from that set.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias.
If that's a problem, move along, move along.
You should message me if
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My FetLife profile intrigues you.
You're enthusiastic about meeting in person assuming our first few
messages go well. Chemistry is vital and you can only test it in
You'd like to discus hypothetical alternate realities, gush over
our shared interests, introduce me to a restaurant, or thumb
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