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34 M Kirkland, WA

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:37pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
English, C++

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My self-summary
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I'm in a polyamorous marriage to a woman whom I met through okcupid. Now, that our relationship is happy and secure, I'm looking for another hereto partner for me while she's looking for another hereto partner for her. (Clear as mud? Good. Not so much? Ask away. :)

I'm an atheist geek and proud of it. I play RPGs, read Science Fiction, and never miss PAX (Penny Arcade Expo) [which is also one place at which I volunteer].

If you approve, you'll also find that I'm intensely loyal, a good listener, honest, kind, astute, and easygoing.

I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more traveling and exploring are also both on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm game."

I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only constrained by time.

I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops - you'll find me drinking hot chocolate.

I hate large parties and love small groups. Give me a political or philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now inventing as a word to maintain the rhyme) discussion with "coffee" (see above) and friends over too much alcohol and strangers any day. (Not that I don't enjoy the occasional drink.)

I tend to avoid paying attention to the news, unless you count Daily Show and Colbert Report when I remember to stream them.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it!

Career? I write software, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it. Some of the products my code is inside include: XBOX360 and XBOXOne, PlayStation 3 and 4, Windows 7+, iOS, Android, and Windows Phone 7+.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told I'm a good singer. I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other career passion.

Eliminating internal inconsistencies and helping others do the same (by revealing them).

Oh, and I've been told I'm great at a few other things that I won't mention here.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height when I stand up. They usually ask me to let them read my current T-shirt, whichever one that is - then they laugh at said T-shirt (which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction.
Movies and music: Anything. Seriously. I've enjoyed almost every movie I've ever seen and like most modern genres of music.
TV: Firefly. Anything Joss or drama.
Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves trying new food and can always find something to eat at most restaurants.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My major internal and external organs, other absolute life necessities both physical (food) and philosophical (the first rule of tautology club is the first rule of tautology club), and my arms/hands. Well, that's three down, so let's add three more in no particular order.

Company. I may be an introvert and love my alone time, but it's awfully difficult to silverware by yourself.

Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but using anomalous local weather events as evidence would be disingenuous; I'd much rather use the mountain of good scientific evidence that applies worldwide like the global annual average temperature increase over many decades, the changes in animal migration patterns for all species that migrate based on the weather, etc.

Books. Not that sissy kindle, but real, paper books can make you feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent of libraries. Ok, if you use a kindle (or similar) for the convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, my wife does. I just prefer the real thing.

Note that I didn't list my legs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. How things work. Why things work the way the do. The problems the world faces and how to fix them. The nature of life, humanity, existence, sentience, and the universe. Art, music, politics/policy, literature, TV, movies, games, work, play, people, places, and things. In computer science terms, I have a blazing fast CPU and think about things even while doing other things. I was thinking about whether being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live or not while I wrote this. The jury is still out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias. If that's a problem, move along, move along.
You should message me if
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My FetLife profile intrigues you.

You're enthusiastic about meeting in person assuming our first few messages go well. If you are going to chicken out and not meet up regardless (or even if you would want to wait a long time), then don't bother. Chemistry is vital and you can only test it in person.

You'd like to discus whether or not being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live.

Oh, and If I message you, please write back at least once even if it's to say you're not interested; it's only polite.