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34 Kirkland, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:39pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
English, C++

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm in a polyamorous marriage to a woman whom I met through okcupid. Now, that our relationship is happy and secure, I'm looking for another female (cis or otherwise) partner for me while my wife's looking for another male partner for her. (Clear as mud? Good. Not so much? Ask away. :)

I'm an atheist geek and proud of it. I play RPGs, read Science Fiction, and never miss PAX (Penny Arcade Expo) [which is also one place at which I volunteer].

If you approve, you'll also find that I'm intensely loyal, a good listener, honest, kind, and easygoing.

I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more traveling and exploring are also both on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm game." While we're at it, "I'm a gamer". Board, Tabletop, PC, Console, etc. My biggest creative outlets are being a GM and writing software, and if you think either one doesn't require plenty of creativity, we should chat so I can disillusion you of that notion.

I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only constrained by time.

I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops - you'll find me drinking hot chocolate.

I hate large parties and love small groups. Give me a political or philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now insisting is a word to maintain the pattern) discussion over "coffee" (see above) and friends over too much alcohol and strangers any day. (Not that I don't enjoy the occasional drink.)

I tend to avoid paying attention to the news because it's too depressing. That's assuming you don't count Daily Show and Colbert Report when I remember to stream them, of course, but even that is rare - to many other things to do.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying it!

Career? I write software, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it. Some of the products my code is inside include: XBOX360 and XBOXOne, PlayStation 3 and 4, Windows 7+, iOS, Android, and Windows Phone 7+.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told I'm a good singer, but I've also been told I'm terrible, so YMMV. I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other career passion.

Eliminating internal inconsistencies and helping others do the same (by revealing them).

Oh, and I've been told I'm great at a few other things that I won't mention here.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height when I stand up. They usually ask me to let them read my current T-shirt, whichever one that is - then they laugh at said T-shirt (which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction.
Movies and music: Anything. Seriously. I've enjoyed almost every movie I've ever seen and like most modern genres of music.
TV: Firefly. Anything Joss, SciFi, Fantasy, or well written.
Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves trying new food and can always find something to eat at most restaurants.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My major internal and external organs, other absolute life necessities both physical (food) and philosophical (the first rule of tautology club is the first rule of tautology club), and my arms/hands. Well, that's three down, so let's add three more in no particular order.

Company. I may be an introvert and love my alone time, but it's awfully difficult to silverware by yourself - I obviously include, love, sex, and cuddling as part of this item.

Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but using anomalous local weather events as evidence (rather than the mountain of good scientific evidence) would be disingenuous.

Books. Not that sissy kindle, but real, paper books can make you feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent of libraries. Ok, if you use a kindle (or similar) for the convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, my wife does. I just prefer the real thing.

Oh, you wanted me to skip the first three? Now you tell me.

Music and Art. They're the closest thing to a soul I believe in.

Gaming. It can be social or alone; challenging or easy; relaxed or intense; inside or outside. Regardless of my mood, a game that suits almost certainly exists.

A car. I'm more of a suburbanite, and having once lived in the suburbs without a car for a while, the resulting inconvenience was monumental.

Note that I didn't list my legs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. How things/people work. Why things/people work/do the way/things they do. The problems the world faces and how to fix them. The nature of life, humanity, existence, sentience, and the universe. Art, music, politics/policy, literature, TV, movies, games, work, play, people, places, and things. In computer science terms, I have a blazing fast CPU and think about things even while doing other things. I was thinking about whether being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live or not while I wrote this. The jury is still out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias. If that's a problem, move along, move along.
You should message me if
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My FetLife profile intrigues you.

You're enthusiastic about meeting in person assuming our first few messages go well. If you are going to chicken out and not meet up regardless (or even if you would want to wait a long time), then don't bother. Chemistry is vital and you can only test it in person.

You'd like to discus whether or not being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live.

Oh, and If I message you, please write back at least once even if it's to say you're not interested; it's only polite.