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37 Waltham, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:30am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm mostly face-blind, so if I don't recognize you after having met you, it's not personal! I also have some trouble reading body language, tone, and facial expression, although it's mostly not a problem as long as I have the energy to spare to focus on it.

I am inquisitive, intense, and playful.

I am poly, dating two men, one of whom I live with. I am NOT interested in people who want me to date a couple or group; I only date individuals, whether or not those individuals are themselves involved with each other.

I do not really like hierarchical polyamory, as that's not how my brain works. I do, however, comprehend that time, energy, and brain space are limited, and will not neglect or harm existing relationships in order to get involved in with someone new. This does not mean that I am not open to getting involved with more people, but simply that I will want to be careful about if there is space in my life for someone new, and that I do not harm my existing relationships.

I have trouble with idiopathic insomnia, which is still being fiddled with in terms of treatments. The previous working sleep med was having a weight gain effect, so I am trying different meds with my psychiatrist. I also have seasonal depression, and see a therapist regularly. I share these things to not surprise anyone who might have trouble with them!

What I’m doing with my life
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Just got accepted to a PhD program at Tufts. So excited! Also, will be shockingly busy, I suspect. Adore our relatively new house and yard. Gardening is so much fun!

Planning to do a bunch of kayaking before starting school in the fall!

I’m really good at
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Listening. Teaching things I know, if I know them well enough. Singing. Seeing and sharing the beauty and joy in things. Learning things that interest me. Communicating, but it can take a bit to get things out of my head. Watching. Hugging. Cuddling with comfy people in a non-sexual way. Understanding beyond what people necessarily have stated. Pointing out things that are interesting or strange in my suroundings.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to be quiet in groups. Perhaps a little shy. I am amused frequently. It's pretty difficult to get my attention well enough for me to remember them later, the first few times I meet someone. (I blame difficulty remembering names and faces, at least in part)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: Lord of the Rings (series). Spirited Away. Pirates of the Carribean. Contact. Winged Migration. More, I'm sure.

Johnny Depp is one of the few actors who has managed to catch, and keep my attention. I don't crush on people I don't know, but he gets *damn* close to crush material. And I have yet to see a movie he's in that I didn't like (not actually saying much; I'm not hugely movie aware).

I have trouble with 'favorites', so I'm not going to write the rest of this right now. I thought I had more, but it seems to have either chopped the rest off or I have yet to write about anything else.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Touch, music, joy, beauty, love, freedom.

I'm ignoring the more obvious basic survival needs, since I'm figuring this question doesn't mean those things.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How people (including myself) work. Why they do what they do, what they think, etc.

People's minds fascinate the hell out of me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no such thing.

I might be at a folk singing group; visiting friends; at home, reading; on a date with my boyfriend (sometimes all three of us go do things together, too); at a massage/reiki share; playing computer games; if warm out, outdoors on grass, playing in the garden, or in a tree. Lately, kayaking is also an option. The possibilities continue.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I cannot easily think of anything I would *not* be willing to admit.

If you have questions, ask them. I'm good about refusing to answer, should I need to do so (usually because of someone else's privacy needs). And if you are someone I think I will become close to, there is nothing I won't answer, if I can find the words to do so.

You should message me if
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You're curious; able to accept things as they are, rather than as you think they should be; you find yourself aware of those parts of the world around you that most people refuse to believe in; you get distracted by beauty (of all types) often.

I appear to be one who filters people to become friends based on silliness, intensity without obsession, mystical awareness, and strong musical interest/ability. I also appear to filter based on geekiness (of all sorts, not only computer-related. Knowledge, curiosity, and intelligence are very sexy). I'm not sure what other things I filter based on yet. I have strong need for casual affectionate touch from those I care about, but am pretty variable on how soon I am interested in such from those I don't know yet.

I hate the 'woo' in OK cupid. If you want to get my attention, _write_ something. Also, if your match with me (either one) isn't at least 70%, it's probably not worth messaging me.

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