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wisteria_pal

61 / M / straight / Single

Edgewater, Maryland

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Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 0" (1.82m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
Long-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Very often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and very serious about it
Sign
Scorpio and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Dislikes children
Pets
Owns dogs
Languages
English (Okay), Italian (Okay)

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I am judgemental, sentimental, and aloof.

My Self-Summary

I'm a 60 y.o. federal gov't retiree with some preferences:
Yes to: bi/multicutural, born overseas or extensive overseas living/travel (I had the good fortune to live 20 yrs in Italy. But after the Italian wife...well, that's another story.); dogs, horses; classical music listener or performer (strings or piano); degree, good vocabulary; no children; slender/average; career experience - as opposed to at home mom; food, wine, conversation; small dinner parties; reading for pleasure.
NO to: religionist; godfearing; hyperactive; beer; cats; republican; fishing/camping; professional televised sports; harley, RV, corvette; nascar; star trek, pirates of the carribbean; stephen king, grisham, gone with the wind; musicals, oldies, andrew lloyd-weber, karaoke; fastfood, jello; stds; I'm allergic to cats, though I like them.
I love classical music (big bonus if you play) and many other kinds, including classic rock and blues.
If your greatest accomplishment is raising your kids...pass me by, though I might be able to accept another's family and enjoy cooking for them.
Of course, I don't mean to be categorical about any single item, but you get the drift....
So many women mention desire for travel in their profiles. IF I were to travel anymore, it would be to the major cities of western Europe: the only art, culture, sophistication, and comfort that matter. I've never been on a cruise, but that could be OK.
You should have answered many question/taken lots of tests. That's what OKC is about, isn't it?
OK, time for a revelation: I have lots of tattoos (not visible over clothing) all done within the last three years. None of them are from prison; most are literary allusions from Dante, Homer, Blake, (and Helmut Newton) etc.

What I’m doing with my life

Coasting, right now. (See Lamb's "Superannuated Man.")

I’m really good at

I was good at my profession, but that's all behind me now.
Cooking, small scale entertaining.

The first things people usually notice about me

My diplomatic tone (usually) and soulful eyes.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Trollope, other Victorians, the usual 20th century suspects (and see Booker, below); Movies: Coen brothers, Schindler's List, The Reader. All forms of classical music, especially violin; Italian food, northern and southern, other Mediterranean, French, simple grilled fish, meat, vegetables.
I finally watched Shindler's List recently: a powerful and disturbing work. I was touched and intrigued by The Reader - erotic and emotionally complex.
Among all time favorite movies are My Life as a Dog and The Hairdresser's Husband. Both seem to touch on the imperfectability - but necessity - of love.
The latest Tarantino film, Inglorius Basterds, was uneven but had its moments. It was daring in creating a simpatico Nazi.
I've set myself the goal of reading all Booker Prize winning novels - for the pleasure of it, and as a way of penetrating late 20th century cultural history - White Tiger and many others. I usually prefer non- fiction, and am browsing Naming Nature and Life Ascending.** continued below...

The six things I could never do without

dogs, music, works of art, oriental rugs, wine, books. Companionship?
I'd rather have certain pleasures and do without some necessities.
You may have noticed 'drink regularly' among my details. The evening meal without a few glasses of wine would be disappointing.

**Latest favorite movie, "Dean Spanley," with Peter O'Toole.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

The existential realities of life -- yeah right!
I do Transcendetal Meditation - which is thinking about nothing, but refreshing.

On a typical Friday night I am

Days of the week mean nothing to me. I rarely remember which day it is.
It is disappointing to see so many women stipulate one external thing, such as dancing every weekend, as the sine qua non of a relationship. How superficial is that?

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

If you didn't see it on the front page of the Washington Post, I wasn't willing to admit it.
I've never been able to watch "Umberto D" past the first half, if that. Far too emotionally wrenching. It helps if you know what Umberto D is.
Although I love music, I can't dance.

You should message me if

,under this quirky profile, you recognize a sensitive, vulnerable, fellow human being waiting to hear from you.