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41 M Spokane, WA

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Working on law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Connection can be broken down into three realms: Affinity, Reality, and Communication. If each realm is strong, then the connection is strong. All are subjective, so the ability to find two people who subjectively see each other highly in all three aspects is a genuine treat. With that foundation, I pose:

Are you attractive to me? Am I to you?
When I look into your eyes, can I see myself being nose to nose with you in the most intimate of settings? How about when you look into mine?
What about when you are hurt, or ill, or have done me wrong, can I still keep the fondness and care I have for you present? Could you for me?
When I think of you, does a smile spread across my face? Are you smiling when you think of me?
At the end of the day, is my first inclination to contact you to ask you how your day was and to share how mine was? Do you wish to do the same?

When I look up at the clouds and say "Wow, look! There's a fire-breathing dragon in that cloud." do you say "I see it! Nice catch!" or do you say "Clouds suck."?
Do you have hobbies that you love to do? Do ours match?
Do you enjoy bowling and would you bowl on a league?
Do you enjoy like the science fiction and fantasy realms of life?
Do you like games of all sort?
Are you a beer drinker with a volleyball problem?
Do you like puns?
Do you love the Oregon Coast?
Would you like to see your 100th birthday with all of your capacities still intact?
Are you okay with and do you enjoy being alone as much as you enjoy being with others?
Do you have a creative and/or entrepreneurial mind?
Is the television an unimportant part of your reality?
Do you see a better way for society to operate, and are willing to do something about it?
Are you inherently lazy, and in knowing this, fill your life with meaningful objectives to the point where you've never uttered the word "bored"?
Are you a spelling and grammar Nazi?
Do you look for balance in life, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?
Do you think things through logically before taking action?
Are you a healthy human, with a healthy diet and lifestyle?
Do we share a similar vision of the world, where it has been, where it is, where it is going, and what we might do to improve upon its trajectory?
Are we pointed in the same direction...first towards each other...and second toward the same point on the horizon?

Are you a deep thinker?
Are you an emotional human...and do you know how to utilize those emotions in a respectful manner toward others, especially your partner?
Can you speak in clear, coherent, sentences?
Do you enjoy a lively debate that may or may not have a clear and concise winner or loser, and can be fine with that ambiguity?
Are you open, honest, and willing to share, in confidence, your secrets?
Do you understand who you are, what you are, and why you are? Can you express that to another?
Do you have a strong sense of empathy? Can you, in every instance, walk a mile in another person's moccasins?
Are you altruistic? Do you understand the self-serving nature of altruism sufficient to know the benefit that giving to others provides to you?

At the end of the day, we are here for connection. Woman and man were not meant to live their lives alone. We can do it if we must, and most of us on here have for some period of time...yet I can imagine that the consensus would indicate that it is not our favorite thing.

That which is listed above is by no means exhaustive. I am not looking for a perfect match. I hope you are not either. Instead, I am looking for a positive and empowered connection. I hope you are too.

Best of luck in your search for connection. May the affinity, reality, and communication you have blend well with that of another, and may you both be pointed towards each other from the moment you meet until the sun sets on the horizon you both walk toward.
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently a student of law as well as a licensed massage practitioner by day. My university-level background is in developmental psychology, economics, business administration, sociology, and counseling. I like to broaden my horizons through education and experience, each being a balanced part of my life when possible. My present involves traveling when applicable, gleening new experiences, and living each day to the fullest.

From a big picture standpoint, I am devising a plan to end child abuse and neglect. The economist in me tells me that "no problem, big or small, cannot be solved by using the appropriate amount of positive or negative moral, economic, or social incentive." (thank you Steven Levitt for that bit of insight); Martin Luther King, Jr. stated that "while it may be true that the law cannot change the hearts of men, it does change the habits of men. And when you change the habits of men, pretty soon the hearts will be changed and the attitudes will be changed.” I wish to use these bits of wisdom to deincentivize child abuse by creating negative incentive substantial enough that the habits of those who would harm a child are forever changed.
I’m really good at
I grew up bowling and enjoy frisbee golf and some other sport-like activities. I play in a weekly volleyball league, a flag football league, and spend a good amount of time playing sand volleyball in the spring and summer. I like to listen more than i like to talk. I have a good ear for music and enjoy working with theatre/performance sound systems to get them "just right" for the performers. I am told I have strong hands.
The first things people usually notice about me
On the physical aspect, my smile and "intense eyes" are often brought up when I meet someone new. On a deeper level, people often notice that I am at peace with myself and the world and am a calming space for people as well as a possibility for full self-expression. I once was told that I "operate at a deeper baseline of emotional connection than [this person] operates at at their deepest level."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books: JRR Tolkien, The Hobbit & Lord of the Rings Trilogy; Nelson DeMille, John Corey/Plum Island series; Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul; Balch & Balch, Prescription for Nutritional Healing; Stephen Brust, the Jerheg Series; George R.R. Martin, The Song of Ice & Fire Series; e.e.cummings, anything; M.C. Escher's artwork.

Favorite Movies: the Matrix Trilogy, the Lord of the Rings Trilogy, and Monty Python movie, most any musical (old and new), Young Frankenstein, Point Break, Rock Horror Picture Show, The Notebook, The Illusionist, August Rush, Kill Bill, pretty much all science fiction movies.

Favorite music: barbershop quartets, harmony of any kind, disco, heavy driving guitar, double bass drum, showtunes (broadway), classical music, rock 50's to current day, techno/dance, rap, all music with harmonies, music that moves the mind/body/spirit...

Favorite foods: thai food, indian food , all mexican food, pizza, ice cream, fresh blackberries straight off the vine, passionfruit, and dungenous crab. I don't eat red meat and pork. I am health-focused.
The six things I could never do without
1) Lip stuff...I have to have lip stuff! my favorite is by a company called "Nanaks." Their almond flavor is the best.

2) Music: music creates the atmosphere, the enviroment and gives us nostalgia and emotion of each moment...when we hear those same songs played years down the road.

3) A daily shower or two. I love the warm water and spray, it reminds me of being under a waterfall in glacier national park, or in the rushing waves of the pacific ocean (although both of these examples are much colder!)

4) Toothbrush/toothpaste/dental floss

5) Future goals: without them, action holds no purpose. It's like saying "I've been walking for days" but not really walking 'towards' anything....

6) Oil: massage oil, sweet almond oil, olive oil, motor oil...oil lubricates the world; it makes everything better.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about how to make things more effecient, more enjoyable and more pleasureable in life. I also think about why it is okay to not be efficient and how efficiency and relationship often are at odds with each other. The end result? The chance to be more adaptive and flexible within the dynamic of living.

I think a lot about what I eventually want to write my dissertation on. A Ph.D. is akin to expanding the edges of human knowledge; to choose the manner in which a person wishes to expand the fringe is a tough decision, indeed.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing volleyball on a league fall through spring and doing sand volleyball during the summer. Going out with my friends and having dinner and a beverage. Making plans for the weekend, which may or may not include leaving the house. Enjoying family time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
From time to time experience "agism" in my life from those who believe that those older than them are in some way "less." Au contraire, says I...age is a gift to be embraced by those by both those who have it and by those who do not. For those who still choose to judge based on age: someday, you will experience agism too...may the light bulb of the realization of your former worldview temper your egocentricism. consider yourself forewarned. ;)

I was voted "Most Likely to Succeed" in high school. I am still to this day trying to figure out what that means. Hopefully by the time I've reached the correct psychsocial stage of life (see Erikson), the subjective concept of "success" will be more clear, and I will be able to make the determination as to whether my experience of life was successful or not.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you have a cause that you adhere to that is worthy of your life.

If you are interested in sharing a moment of your life with someone who is trustworty, passionate, loving, silly as all-get-out, and is interested in meeting like people for friendship, social activites, sports or other things to-be-determined.

If you share a common interest in alternative medicine, health, natural remedies, nutrition, chiropractic, massage therapy, acupuncture, etc, etc.

If you desire a human sounding board.

Alternatively, if you have pictures of you shooting guns in preparation for a hunt, or holding dead is likely that our realities are not congruent. If you disagree and wish to argue your case, please by all means do. ;)