1+1=3 situations are best, that is, we connect and in the process become better people who are more aware of our virtues and gifts and subsequently live lives of greater joy/compassion. I would hope a romantic relationship follows the same course. I think it would be incredible if people could see a couple and think, "They are two great people on their own, but together... DAMN!."
That being said, I try hard to meet people where they are in life... vital to my goal of living justly. Potential friendships and relationships go wrong all the time when we try to fit people into roles we've set aside for them to fill. Often it happens subconsciously. I've made this mistake before. Socializing and dating become shopping excursions to fill voids. I am not looking to fit people into slots... just trying to chat with maturity and honesty. I am eager to share my life with good people wherever the process of knowing takes us.
I gravitate toward the salt of the Earth and compelling people who challenge me (and everyone else) to grow & think, laugh alot, be curious, tell great stories, have adventures (both lived and mental) and are focused predominantly on the whole of the planet, not finding a person to live a life removed from what billions of others are experiencing.
I love to be around people with a giant sense of humor who make their own fun wherever they go, yet are serious about important things.
I work hard to broadcast that being close to me is a safe space where you can be 100% you. I treasure this experience myself when I am lucky enough to find it. I like to be informed when I flunk.
I live to travel the world, but I don't view it as my playground i.e. solely for my amusement. Yet, I am not sure I have felt greater joy than being "on the road". I live to learn about new places/peoples and then go meet them. Detroit has been good to me, but I think often about ditching it and heading somewhere new or back home to the Atlantic. She is always whispering to me.