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with_an_el

37 M Royal Oak, MI

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 27–47
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:19pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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1+1=3 situations are best, that is, we connect and in the process become better, more loving people. I like encountering two friends or a couple and thinking, "They are two great people on their own, but together... wow!!!!" The greatest pairs ALWAYS build on each other's strengths.

That being said, I try hard to meet people where they are in life. Potential friendships and relationships go wrong all the time when we use them to fill voids. I've made this mistake before. Socializing and dating become shopping. I am just trying to chat with maturity and honesty. I am eager to share my life with good people wherever the knowing takes us.

I gravitate toward the salt of the Earth and compelling people who challenge me (and everyone else) to grow & think, laugh a ton, be curious, tell great stories, have adventures (both lived and mental) and are focused predominantly on the whole of the planet, not finding a person to live a life removed from what billions of others are experiencing.

I love to be around people with a giant sense of humor who make their own fun wherever they go, yet are serious about important things.

I work hard to broadcast that being close to me is a safe space where you can be 100% you. I treasure this experience myself when I am lucky enough to find it. I like to be informed when I flunk.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm self-employed doing various things. Being my own boss has shot my energy through the roof. I am in massage therapy school and in love with the craft. Prior to my career change, I worked with youth and families in NYC and Detroit for about 15 years.

I spend equal time with friends and by myself. I like talking, baking, cooking, reading, thinking, practicing massage, hiking, walking, day tripping, exploring, gardening, singing, exercising and teaching myself to sleep properly.

Life is awesome at my two bedroom ranch, and it would be great to live here for a long time. Still, it would be nice to make some friends and even share life with someone who prefers the company of good people, silence, stars, sun, water and all kinds of animals. I get tired of activities that are centered around looking perfect, acquisition, increasing wealth/status, buying things, & networking. I find the natural world and honest human company the best entertainment in life.

It's nice to be around things you don't have to impress.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
honest self-analysis, listening, understanding grey areas, mixing cereals, adaptation, lie detection, analyzing things from multipe angles, worrying, receiving criticism, working with kids and parents, connecting details, understanding how my personal experience, privileges and bias impact my openness
The first things people usually notice about me
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I get told often that I'm not like anyone else, and people feel like they've known me for years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: JFK, Silence of the Lambs, Primary Colors, Wait Until Dark, Beautiful Thing, The Crying Game, Michael Clayton, The Deep End, Amadeus, The Empire Strikes Back, Do the Right Thing, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, The Insider, L.A. Confidential, 12 Monkeys, Heat, Lantana, Chinatown, In the Bedroom, Alien, The Remains of the Day, Children of Men, Millenium Trilogy

Books/Reading: all travel guides, nonfiction thrillers, film & book reviews; personality theory, anthropology, massage anything

Shows: The Wire, Hannibal, The Walking Dead, Roseanne, Parks & Recreation, The Cosby Show, Downton Abbey, United States of Tara, American Horror Story, RuPaul's Drag Race, Dexter, animal stuff, documentaries, anything with detectives

Music: everything especially funk and older R & B...

Food: ANYTHING! "If you eat local food, you can travel anywhere."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the option to explore the whole planet and give something of value to it, my mind that never stops working, my best friend, bread/butter, pizza, hot & cold water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
family & community, ideas for the perfect thriller, universal justice, what i can contribute that is actually helpful, my flaws, where I want to/can travel, how to relax, where we (the species) are headed, recipes, how to live debt free, how to be fully integrated
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I work at home throughout the week so there are no more Friday nights in the reg Monday to Friday sense. My commute is also down to two and a half feet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been told I smile like Shrek.

I am great at choosing friends, but not as much with dating.

Also, I have gotten away from my real roots. Like a lot of gay people, I migrated to large American cities to get away from scary small town ignorance and homophobia, but I know something has faded through the process of becoming an urbanite and now a suburbanite.

I grew up on Long Island working on farms and in vineyards, fishing in the bay, building forts, swimming with glow-in-the-dark jellyfish at night, hiking, picking peas, owl spotting, sneaking in abandoned farmhouses, etc... u get the idea... I also was raised in a family who accepts everybody just as long as you eat with them and talk in stories.

If you took me to a beach, I'd hope we could play in the water, make sandcastles, take a walk and go hunting for shells as opposed to staring at cocks and asses or modeling for other people.

I was born on an island which means I'll probably never be truly whole or happy until I live on one again.
You should message me if
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I am drawn to humble geniuses and attracted to no particular physical type of person. I appreciate simplicity, mystery, intensity, wit, storytelling ability, honesty and original thinking. I like to have a great time but know I am in the presence of a person with a strong social conscience who uses their intelligence and imagination for good, asks endless questions and knows when to fight and when to be a diplomat. ****Deceptive and mysterious are two different things.

Message me if you like a person who is a mix of a lot of different ideas and cultures, a traveller, humorous-serious balanced, flawed, honest and excited to meet compelling people; a thinker; a wanderer; someone who talks in stories and lives to hear them; and if you aware of the privileges you were born with, whatever they are, and are figuring out how to use them for other's benefit. Message me if you want to gain a true friend.

I believe I can connect with anybody, but I have a really hard time with circuit life, arrogance, materialism, deceit and people who: have to be the center of attention; Are looking for sex primarily but tell yourself you're not; Are looking for an LTR immediately; Lie as a lifestyle; Are controlling with no desire to change; Don't have a serious problem with power imbalances in relationships; Are not at least somewhat invested in social action or important dialogue; Fall apart without your cell phone; Consider celebrity gossip important; Can't take a compliment; Only want hot and/or wealthy friends; Live to be seen; Fear silence