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withoutapaddle1

62 Seattle, WA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 49–64
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:29am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Fit
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Offspring
Has a kid
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Every time I edit my profile, it seems to get worse. I keep trying to do better with all of the descriptions - what I am *really* like, who I am truly seeking - but I also know that if I am lucky enough to cross paths with a special someone, and there is that magical magnetic kind of connection, and I am sitting there right across from her, all of the checklists will go out the window, and I will just be sitting there dumbfounded, in disbelief that I am looking over and there she is.

From the outside my life is quite ordinary. I work (doing research, teaching, and writing), garden, fix the house, play music, keep in close touch with family and friends, workout at the gym, and edit my profile. Oh. And I vacuum, in part because I like seeing the nap of the carpet stand up as if it has never been walked on.

From the inside, however, my life feels extraordinary. Not only because I am a deliriously happy dad, but also because my instinct has always been to delve fully into experience, understand what's behind it, underneath it, where it leads. I like taking time, soaking in the details, getting saturated in the moment. And I suppose you would say a "blossom where you are" approach to stuff in general.

This zen bent has not interfered with my ability to tell a bad joke. (What happens to frogs when they park in a no parking zone; what one cannibal said to the other cannibal when they started eating the clown; what you call cheese that isn't yours; why the baby crossed the road). In addition to being bad, the baby one is also demented.

Who I am hoping to cross paths with:

Many things are attractive to me: the effort that someone makes to be helpful to the people around her; kind-heartedness; passionate feelings and strong desires; goofballdweebdork tendencies; healthy habits; and a fascination with things in general, including current affairs, celebrity affairs, sports, Joey Chestnut's recent downfall, how to live a fully satisfying life off the grid.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Teaching and researching and writing; being a dad, son, brother; pretending I can play chords on the piano with my left hand; fantasizing about a girlfriend.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding where other people are coming from and feeling at home with a wide variety of people, especially kids.

Teaching and writing in a way that makes complicated things easier to understand.

Enjoying the outdoors, pretty much regardless of the spot.

Fantasizing about a girlfriend.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I try not to think about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: (I am arbitrarily limiting it to the letter S): Staind, S. Bareilles, S. Evans, S. McLaughlin, A. Sanchez, The Script, D. Straits, Switchfoot, JC Superstar, SRV, F. Sinatra, The Strokes, M & Sons, Samuel Jon Samuelsson, Symphonies by Mahler. Movies: The Abyss, Birdman, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, The Squid and the Whale, The Forgotten, School of Rock, Crazy/Beautiful, Pay It Forward, Independence Day, Van Helsing, You Can Count on Me. TV: Friday Night Lights, Parenthood, Dark Blue, Without a Trace, The Good Wife, the Law and Orders (including re-runs that I have seen 6-7 times), The Price is Right. Books: A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, The Human Condition, Sphere, The Unsettling of America, Equus, The Music Lesson, Absalom, Absalom, anything by James Hillman. Food: I get to skip food because I went on and on and on about the other stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son
Feeling helpful
Conversation and Music
Exercise
Being outdoors
Island ferries (hint hint)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be helpful to my son
How to be helpful to my parents
The content of whatever I'm writing
How things in the world are connected
What to do about a girlfriend
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym
Watching TV
At a high school event
Fantasizing about a girlfriend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Dang it. Just when we were getting to the good part. I was going to let go and spill my guts. But my mom is yelling, "Dinner's ready!" so I better go.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You felt like me when you were creating your profile and couldn't get yourself to answer all of the SAT-type questions. And wanted to answer more sex questions but found yourself chickening out.