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withoutapaddle1

62 Seattle, WA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 49–64
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:01am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Fit
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Offspring
Has a kid
Speaks
English
My self-summary
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Every time I edit my profile, it seems to get worse. Too bad you didn't see it before the editing! The problem is basically this: no matter what attributes or activities that I list, the result does not make sense in the context of a special someone. Every time that I have lucked out and experienced that magical magnetic kind of connection with a someone, the attributes and activities no longer seem to matter in the same way that they did beforehand. Too many "no's" on the checklist become "yesses" and too many disgusting attributes become endearing.

So it is hard to know what to say here. You should keep reading if you are looking for a guy who enjoys vacuuming. OMG. Making the nap of the carpet stand up with that never-been-walked-on look.

When I am not vacuuming, I am doing research, teaching, writing, gardening, working out at the gym, playing music, keeping in touch with family and friends, or editing my profile. All of which sounds very ordinary. But that is not how it feels from the inside. From the inside it feels extraordinary. Partly because I am a deliriously happy dad. But also because my instinct is to delve fully into experience, find out where it leads, see how everything fits. Taking time, soaking in the details, getting saturated in the moment.

Despite the zen bent, I am fairly good (and practiced) at telling bad jokes. (What happens to frogs when they park in a no parking zone; what one cannibal said to the other cannibal when they started eating the clown; what you call cheese that isn't yours). And because they are politically incorrect, I also enjoy demented jokes (why the baby crossed the road).

Who I am hoping to cross paths with:

Many things are very attractive to me. Any one would get me interested. If you take good care of yourself, that is a big deal to me. Kind-heartedness, and feeling like the best days in your life are the days when you have been most helpful to other people - equally huge. If you are a parent and love hanging around kids of all ages, another big deal. There have been plenty of social events where hang with the kids instead of the grown-ups, and one of the reasons that I have taught for so long is because college students totally rock.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Teaching and researching and writing; being a dad, son, brother; pretending I can play chords on the piano with my left hand; fantasizing about a girlfriend.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding where other people are coming from and feeling at home with a wide variety of people, especially kids.

Teaching and writing in a way that makes complicated things easier to understand.

Enjoying the outdoors, pretty much regardless of the spot.

Fantasizing about a girlfriend.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I try not to think about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: (I am arbitrarily limiting it to the letter S): Staind, S. Bareilles, S. Evans, S. McLaughlin, A. Sanchez, The Script, D. Straits, Switchfoot, JC Superstar, SRV, F. Sinatra, The Strokes, M & Sons, Samuel Jon Samuelsson, Symphonies by Mahler. Movies: The Abyss, Birdman, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, The Squid and the Whale, The Forgotten, School of Rock, Crazy/Beautiful, Pay It Forward, Independence Day, Van Helsing, You Can Count on Me. TV: Friday Night Lights, Parenthood, Dark Blue, Without a Trace, The Good Wife, the Law and Orders (including re-runs that I have seen 6-7 times), The Price is Right, Sanford and Son. Books: A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, The Human Condition, Sphere, The Unsettling of America, Equus, The Music Lesson, Absalom, Absalom, anything by James Hillman. Food: I get to skip food because I went on and on and on about the other stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son
Feeling helpful
Conversation and Music
Exercise
Being outdoors
Island ferries (hint hint)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be helpful to my son
How to be helpful to my parents
The content of whatever I'm writing
How things in the world are connected
What to do about a girlfriend
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym
Watching TV
At a high school event
Fantasizing about a girlfriend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Dang it. Just when we were getting to the good part. My mom is yelling, "Dinner's ready!" so I better go.
You should message me if
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I don't know how to answer this one. It seems up to you and not me.