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withoutapaddle1

61 Seattle, WA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 22
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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It took me less than 15 minutes to write a Craig's List post to sell my 4Runner. It sold within 48 hours. So why is it that I just keep backspacing through my OKC profile?

I figure that I am like most everybody else out here who is hoping to cross paths with a special someone. But it is hard to know who that special someone might be. It is not as hard for me to imagine what we would be doing together, because for the most part, just being together is what I imagine most. Not that our activities would be irrelevant. But when I feel a magical kind of connection with someone, the activities are no longer just activities. Most of the specifics that I imagine are pretty ordinary: road tripping around the Northwest, talking and cuddling on the couch going out for Thai or Indian or a burger, driving each other crazy with bad humor, addictively listening to one song over and over (or worse, addictively singing it over and over and insisting, "No! I already told you that I am not ruining it.") Ordinary things can feel extraordinary with the right person. And also just plain fun!

I would say something similar about my life in general. From the outside, it looks ordinary. But from the inside, it feels extraordinary. (And incredibly fun.) I can get exhilarated pretty much regardless of what I am doing. I am a dad like many other dads. But I can't believe that I get to be my son's dad. I work like most people to pay my bills. But I cannot believe that I get to do most of it from home by researching and writing about things that matter to me. I also teach, just like many people do. But I cannot believe some of the amazing discussions that take place with my students. And at a different level: I got excited when Patrick Jane jumped the airport fence; when Dave Niehaus first told grandma to get out the rye bread; and when I first learned that every car has a little arrow next to the gas gauge showing which side the gas cap is on.

Since a sense of humor is on most people's bucket list, you should know that I am very good at telling bad jokes. Particularly dorky bad jokes (what happens to frogs when they park in a no parking zone, what one cannibal said to the other cannibal when they started eating the clown, what you call cheese that isn't yours). Because they are politically incorrect, demented jokes (why the baby crossed the road) can also be appealing, so it is fine with me if your sense of humor is partly demented.

I am happy vacuuming, washing dishes, and folding clothes, but unhappy without music and the outdoors. Most anything fake rubs me the wrong way. But it is not difficult to rub me the right way ;)

If you are someone who is happy in the here and now, who looks forward to many things, who feels a sense of purpose in her life, and who isn't particularly worried about being age-inappropriate, goofy, moody, publicly affectionate, or offbeat, we might be a very good fit!
What I’m doing with my life
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Teaching and researching and writing; being a dad, son, brother; pretending I can play chords on the piano with my left hand; fantasizing about a girlfriend.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding where other people are coming from and feeling at home with a wide variety of people, especially kids.

Teaching and writing in a way that makes complicated things easier to understand.

Enjoying the outdoors, pretty much regardless of the spot.

Fantasizing about a girlfriend.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I try not to think about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: (I am arbitrarily limiting it to the letter S): Staind, S. Bareilles, S. Evans, S. McLaughlin, A. Sanchez, The Script, D. Straits, Switchfoot, JC Superstar, SRV, F. Sinatra, The Strokes, M & Sons, Samuel Jon Samuelsson, Symphonies by Mahler. Movies: The Abyss, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, The Squid and the Whale, The Forgotten, School of Rock, Crazy/Beautiful, Pay It Forward, Independence Day, Van Helsing, You Can Count on Me. TV: Friday Night Lights, Parenthood, Dark Blue, Without a Trace, The Good Wife, the Law and Orders (including re-runs that I have seen 6-7 times), The Price is Right, Sanford and Son. Books: A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, The Human Condition, Sphere, The Unsettling of America, Equus, The Music Lesson, Absalom, Absalom, anything by James Hillman. Food: I get to skip food because I went on and on and on about the other stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son
Feeling helpful
Conversation and Music
Exercise.
Being outdoors
Island ferries (hint hint)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be helpful to my son
How to be helpful to my parents
The content of whatever I'm writing
How things in the world are connected
What to do about a girlfriend
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym
Watching TV
At a high school event
Fantasizing about a girlfriend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Dang it. Just when we were getting to the good part. My mom is yelling, "Dinner's ready!" so I better go.
You should message me if
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I don't know how to answer this one. It seems up to you not me.

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