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34 M Cape Town, South Africa

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
6′ 2″ (1.89m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Afrikaans (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
Short version:

"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"

The above quote, sums up things nicely. I have made it a challenge to myself.

Longer version:

I have had a pretty unusual life so far, and my lifestyle is also - pretty unusual.

Things were complicated while I was growing up.

In the end, I've kept my own company for most of my life so far. I am
the original Lone Wolf.

I'm not lonely. But, I am also challenging myself - to prove to myself that I can live amongst people, and love, too. It's been an endless private debate through my life - whether I can or can't do those kinds of things, that most other people do, and which I never seem to have gotten around to.

Some people have judged me, or felt pity for me, because I have very few friends, and even fewer loved ones. At times, I have done the same.

Since then, I have learned. Now, I know better. That how I have lived and continue to live, is a good way to live. That it is not bad, to live outside the bell curve, to be an extreme out-lier. At times - it has been very lonely. At other times, I have been very content and happy this way. I am happy and content now.

However - to stay in one place, unchanging - even a happy and content place, is also - in many ways - to stagnate. I continue to grow and learn and better myself and my understanding of things and the world and people in general.

Change is a good thing.
What I’m doing with my life
Becoming happier.

Understanding myself better.

Fixing a bunch of things in my life, that I should have fixed a long time ago.

Trying and experiencing new things.

Living happily by myself in suburbia.

Spending a lot of time thinking about a lot of things.

Having too much free time.

Working as a programmer, and enjoying my career.
I’m really good at
Writing emails.


Admitting that I'm wrong.

Improving myself, and learning.

Knowing myself, my mind, my thoughts, and my feelings.

Wordplay - puns, double entendres, etcetera.

The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not sure about this. And it changes over time, or even from one day to the next. But I'll take a few guesses.

I'm slightly tall.

I talk fast at times, and I don't sound like a capetonian.

I am direct, a bit intense, and that I like to speak my mind.

That I can be quiet at times. I generally don't start many conversations, but that I am good at continuing them. Usually in very random directions. It depends on my mood.

That I'm a very fluent English speaker, but that I can't speak or write other languages to save my life.

I like to smile, to joke, be witty, and make other people laugh with my peculiar perspectives on things.

I have an overly-literal mind and sense of humor.

I can be needlessly pedantic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My tastes and interests are very eclectic and eccentric and other words starting with E.

Also, I have too many of them. But I'll be brief:

Books: Mostly science fiction. eg: Dune by Frank Herbert.

Movies: Mostly science fiction. eg: Pacific Rim.

Shows: Mostly Japanese animation. eg: One Piece.

Music: Mostly jpop. Favorite musician: Akiko Shikata. Current favorite song: The Fox (What Does The Fox Say?)

Food: Homecooked.
The six things I could never do without
1. My privacy. Time and space to think and relax in.

2. My music. Life is boring without a personal background theme.

3. My PC. I love tech and the internet, and programming. And stuff.

4. A good book. I love a good story, and complex characters.

5. Pants. Need I say more?

6. Coffee. My lifeline. I am a coffee monster.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Too many things, really, and in great depth. I tend to over-think. I have a lot of free time, and much of it is spent in deep thought.

Life, philosophy, relationships, friendships, love, how the mind and feelings work, anthropology, tech stuff, scifi stuff, random stuff, funny stuff, sad and depressing stuff.

Why people can't just be themselves, and honest about their thoughts and feelings.

How to be true to myself.

Ethics and morality.

Random theories about the true nature of time, space, the universe, consciousness, and reality in general.

Rationality and irrationality. Strong feelings. Good feelings. Bad feelings. No feelings. Logic and reason. Happiness and sadness.

How my mind and feelings work, examining my own mind and thought processes. Self therapy, CBT.


How other people think and feel.

Communication in general. Nuances, reading between the lines. Trying to figure out body language. How to write emails without being misunderstood.

Challenging the status quo. Questioning social norms or other things generally taken for granted.

What programming language I want to study next.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home, by my PC, on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I did some programming in COBOL and Visual Basic 6. I was young and foolish :-/. I have since repented, and also changed over from Windows to Linux.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you enjoy reading long emails :-)