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34 M San Francisco, CA

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  • Ages 24–39
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  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Japanese (Poorly), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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the usual east coast, prius driving, non-believing jew, music/film/pizza/bagel snob with a half-read New Yorker collection that keeps growing in size.

having worked on a PhD for over six years, i'm happy to be finished and living here, especially being surrounded by fog. not too keen on waiting in line for toast.

i have a strong fondness for the eccentrics out there. if that's you, don't be shy and write. i promise to not be aloof.
What I’m doing with my life
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scientist by day
being nostalgic for pre-disney 1980s nyc
trying not to kill the plants
films at the castro, berkeley pfa, and oddball cinema
lectures at the jccsf
in a sisyphean hell of brushing away dog hair
experimenting with sounds/drones/field recordings
collecting and listening to vinyl records
finding gems at antique shops and estate sales
believer of minimalism (disregard the previous two statements)
being up too late when i should be asleep
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
trading mixtapes
traveling without an itinerary
fixing and assembling things
developing new gazpacho concoctions
reciting lines from woody allen films
deseeding pomegranates
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
two furry animals by my side
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Les Chants de Maldoror, People's History, Nausea, The Stranger, No Exit, The Chomsky Reader, Johnny Got His Gun, Notes from Underground, All Men Are Mortal, Woman in the Dunes, The Iron Heel, No Longer Human, and various other misanthropic tales

experimental, krautrock, no wave, post-punk, yé-yé, 20th century minimalist, gamelan, throat singing, noise, improvised, (old) industrial, and other drone-heavy and distorted tunes
Current 93, Les Rallizes Dénudés, Suicide, Glenn Branca, Modern Lovers, Faust, Neu!, Fugs, Flower Travellin' Band, Fursaxa, Ash Ra Tempel, Sun Ra, Comus, Fela Kuti, Ruth White, Psychic TV, Throbbing Gristle, CAN, Galaxie 500, Wipers, Sun City Girls, Pharoah Sanders, La Monte Young, Philip Glass, Terry Riley, Brigitte Fontaine, Nurse with Wound, Fushitsusha, Keiji Haino, Alice Coltrane, The Dead C, Moondog, Coil, Swans, Half Japanese, Träd Gräs & Stenar, finnish folk, Bobby Vinton, Little Peggy March, Tuxedomoon
my page

Radiolab, This American Life, Hearing Voices, Democracy Now, The Moth, and WFMU

Fanny and Alexander, Seventh Seal, Picnic at Hanging Rock, Vivre sa vie, Wings of Desire, 400 blows, 2001 : A Space Odyssey, Rashomon, Love and Death, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Mystery Train, Dead Man, The Holy Mountain, Stalker, Au Hasard Balthazar, La Planete Sauvage, Lucifer Rising, Scorpion Rising, Medea, Scenes from a Marriage, Breaking the Waves, Wicker Man, Boyhood (holy shit)

film directors:
Bergman, Jodorowsky, Allen, Ozu, Teshigahara, Kaurismäki, Pasolini, Jarmusch, Satyajit Ray, Tarkovsky, Ichikawa, Wenders, Akerman, Herzog, Kenneth Anger

i don't follow tv, but here are some classics: Cosmos (original), Fishing with John, Louis Theroux, Peep Show, Twin Peaks, and old Dick Cavett episodes

high quality matcha, neapolitan pizza, ny pizza and bagels, pomegranates, avocado, borscht, locally grown foods, and grandma's matzo ball soup.

aleister crowley, genesis p-orridge, yukio mishima, lydia lunch
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
in no particular order:

1) putting the needle down on the record
2) (damn fine) coffee
3) films
4) bicycles
5) cameras
6) mossy forests
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
being born in the wrong half of the 20th century

plan (a): finding an academic gig
plan (b): finding land to raise chickens, goats, and an alpaca (or two).
plan (c): move to scandinavia
plan (d): open up a cat cafe if (a)-(c) are a no-go

lamenting the disappearance of old cinemas

handmade goods

lemon cucumbers
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
some combination of the following:

working on a paper/journal submission
drinking coffee
camping somewhere
seeing a film
listening to records
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i value some semblance of privacy, but here are some safe ones:

i got kicked out of hebrew school
diet drinks weird me out
a prairie home companion is a guilty pleasure
skateboarding was my life [ages 7-21]
You should message me if
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any of the below apply to you:
- you have a passion for something. it's doesn't matter on what
- you want to fight over which sections of the sunday nyt to read
- you daydream about living in the pacific nw and building a secret fort in the woods. portland, seattle, or vancouver come to mind.
- you know who sister ray is
- you are part of the cult of jodorowsky
- you want to debate Annie Hall vs Manhattan
- you have an eye for danish modern furniture
- you use oxford commas
- burning man is not a major part of your life
- "work hard, play hard" is not in your vocabulary
- you are the reincarnation of Simone de Beauvoir

joking aside, if any of the these sound fun, contact me:
- japanese gardens and other botanical gardens
- picnics at the park
- farmers market explorations
- exploring various trails
- road trips
- getting dressed up and attending the SF opera and symphony
- nighttime bike rides through golden gate park
- dog walks
- listening to records
- trading mixtapes

i try to respond to messages, just write more than "hi", "hello", or "sup yo."

oh yea, Pablo Picasso was an asshole

update visiting norway (maybe sweden) in a few weeks, and any must see recommendations are highly appreciated!