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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22-35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Sep 3
Bisexual, Asexual, Questioning
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism but it’s not important
High school
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
My self-summary
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I am just looking for a female friend right now, trying to get a lot of things sorted out. I'm not going to spell it all out here on OKCupid but I'm dealing with some childhood stuff and am not emotionally available for a sexual relationship. Don't know if I ever will be again. So if that's what you're looking for, please move on.

I'm eventually hoping to find someone on the same wavelength that is OK with an abstinent relationship or friendship. At times, there is nothing I crave more than affectionate contact with the right person, cuddling and embracing, kissing on the cheek and forehead, maybe softly on the lips now and then. However, I know my boundaries and overall, anything beyond a hug just seems too much for me to think about right now.

Before getting to know someone I can be a little shy and am admittedly a bit of an introvert in groups of people larger than maybe 3 or 4, especially if I don't know them. Being a social butterfly has never been my strongest suit, I was mostly non-verbal at school between the ages of 8 and 10, and was never very good at striking up friendships. I couldn't make eye contact with anyone when I was having a conversation with them. I've definitely come leaps and bounds in adulthood but I am still uncomfortable in social settings, especially with people I don't know well. I'm also pretty shy around women especially if I'm attracted to them.

Conversely, once I get to know someone, if I'm given a chance, they will find me to be particularly outspoken. I do talk a lot and write a lot, so if you get bored at the thought of a complete sentence or a polysyllabic word, you're most likely not even going to finish reading this profile :) To those that know me well, I have a goofy sense of humor that I suppose is a bit over the top at times.

If you're a "normal girl" looking for a "normal guy", you're probably not going to find what you're looking for on this profile. I'm definitely not a macho man, and I'm not a party to the pretentious game of flashing money or muscles or motorcycles or whatever it may be in order to "get laid". And, if you think that you're going to hold sex over my head and manipulate me into doing something, don't hold your breath. I am not sexually driven in my pursuit for companionship and am only open to an abstinent relationship.

Also, be aware that I will not "make a move" on you in terms of affectionate contact. My ideal match would be someone who has the confidence to be the one to do that, because self confidence is definitely not my strongest suit. I feel that beautiful women have enough guys oogling at their chests and I'd rather not be lumped into that category. My inability/refusal to hit on girls is a mixture of respect and fear of rejection (simply knowing that I just got a silent "not if you were the last man on earth" is unbearable to me). The first hug/kiss is all on you, and until that moment, I will respect your personal space.

So now that the important part is out of the way....let's see if we have any common interests :)

Music has always been a big part of my life. I started playing piano and guitar when I was 8, have been drumming in bands since I was 12, and am currently in a progressive rock band on vocals and bass. As far as the type of music I like, I enjoy anything that can be considered rock, I'm not too keen on country or rap but everyone's entitled to their taste. Most of the bands I've played in have been metal-based, but I kind of wandered off in the direction of progressive rock when I discovered Rush. My other favorites include Pink Floyd, Dream Theater, Spock's Beard, The Police, Mudvayne, Blind Melon, Soundgarden, Tool, Metallica, System of a Down, Slipknot, Sublime, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Blue Man Group.

I love attending concerts almost as much I've enjoyed playing them in the past. Maybe I'll get back into it some day but for now just attending works for me. I'm currently in the studio recording a solo album that has been in the works for quite a number of years now. Anyway, if you're a musician, give me a shout, I'd love to chat it up with someone who knows an 1/8th note from a 1/16th ;)

My other "big gig" in life that I've more or less grown apart from was acting. I was really into broadway musicals and starting in high school I ended up really loving community theater and did over 20 musicals. Haven't really done anything lately, but would like to do it again. Also, just like the rock music, I like attending as well as performing :)

I've always been technically savvy, so I'm a big time computer and electronics geek. I spend far too much of my spare time tinkering with electronic devices I'm developing or building, and am employed as an electronic test and repair technician for orbital welding equipment. I would definitely describe myself as career-driven, I've been pursuing electronic circuit troubleshooting since childhood, studied it as a trade in high school and have stuck with it since, the work is both challenging and rewarding.

I'm also working on a startup business on the side, and am the lead design engineer for several electronic musical products.

I'm an animal lover and have a cat named Macey and a keel-billed toucan named Kelvin, I love dogs but can't have one due to living circumstances.

Questions? Comments? Hit me up, I don't bite! :)
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently employed as a test and repair technician at an orbital welding system manufacturer.

Slowly developing an embedded microprocessor platform with the hopes of someday designing and marketing electronic musical equipment.

Just getting my personal recording studio on its feet, very close to releasing my first demo recording of some music I've been writing over the last several years.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Electronics - Designing, building, fixing, taking apart, breaking, fixing again, modifying, destroying.

Music- Drums, guitar, bass, vocals, pissing off my neighbors. "Polishing a turd" - taking a shitty sounding recording and making it sound halfway decent.

Acting - Singing way too loud, staying in character way too long after leaving the stage, playing the part way too over the top, getting way too emotional when the production is over.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I never really bothered to ask...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Reading novels as a pastime hasn't been a part of my life in quite a while, but (quite possibly in a past life) I did enjoy Grapes of Wrath, Hearts and Atlantis, The Green Mile, Animal Farm, A Child Called "It", Five People You Meet In Heaven

I don't watch an awful lot of TV, but my favorites are Family Guy, South Park, Big Bang Theory, and Modern Family. Also a fan of Law and Order SVU and Breaking Bad.

As far as movies, I like science fiction and horror for the most part, comedies are cool too. I also like anything twisted and fucked up like Naked Lunch, Brazil, 12 Monkeys, etc.

Progressive rock and progressive metal are my favorites. I like Dream Theater, Rush, Pink Floyd, Mudvayne, Blind Melon, Soundgarden, Blue Man Group, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Sublime, System of a Down, Tool, A Perfect Circle, The Police, Spock's Beard, Live, Niacin, King Crimson

I like a lot of foods, but at the top of my list would have to be beef stroganoff, crab legs, strawberry crepes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My parents

My job, bosses, and coworkers

My friends

My pet toucan and cat

My computer

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes things tick. People, animals, machines, the world around us, the universe.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually enjoying a night in, decompressing after a long week at work. I like my job but I still live in the spirit of TGIF!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It's too private to admit.
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