I am honest, quirky, funny, and expressive.
I am a writer.
This is a core part of who I am.
I'm non monogamous.
I don't do casual hook-ups & I'm not interested in sex without emotional attachments; so if you're only on here looking for sex, keep moving. I'm not for you.
You need to know and be able to clearly communicate what you are emotionally available for. You need to have good boundaries and be able to put someone else's best interest ahead of a momentary desire. We all have moments when we spark on something that we want, but may only cause the other person hurt. Don't be that shitty person and intentionally hurt others.
I like to think of myself as a simple person, but my life would argue that point. It’s full of complex moving parts that don’t seem complicated to navigate from the inside.
I am passionate, thoughtful, fiercely loyal, and protective of the people I care about.
I’m also a non-violent Buddhist. Meditation is on the top of my self-care list, and if you don’t have a self-care list of your own, then we probably won’t suit each other.
I need the people I engage with to be as self-aware as I am and have a high standard of owning their stuff: the good and the bad. We have all stories and scars from those stories. Those scars are often the very things that give us texture and make us intrinsically beautiful. I am extremely proud of the things that I have come out the other side from even when it was a struggle to not let the experience crush my spirit and turn me into a bitter person. In the end, I remain the extremely tender-hearted person I have always been and will always hold on to hope and a belief in happy endings, even if reality has taught me that Happily Ever After is only for books and movies.
I move through the world every day treating people with kindness, thoughtfulness, and compassion. You should do the same.
What I want: I want a core relationship with someone who is willing to take a chance on being open, honest, vulnerable, and present. Someone who is open to sharing life experiences & willing to dig in and work through the inevitable bumps life throws our way.
I enjoy people who understand the importance of their words and actions matching. I enjoy people who aren't afraid to be emotionally available and to try new things.
My Philosophy on Poly: dating is fine, but I prefer to build relationships. This requires both parties to focus on building the relationship before adding in new relationships. People need time to learn each other and to feel secure in those feelings before you start spending energy on someone new. On the flip side I prefer to build friendships first before complicating things with sex.
I'm a vibrant mix of tomboy, irrepressible romantic, dreamy philosopher, badass independent spirit, & shy gentle creature.
Unless you want me to jump out of an airplane or swim with sharks. I'm allowed two irrational fears and those are it.
To make up for it, I have had a lot of wacky adventures. Although that may also be the writer in me craving experiences. I'm sure that spontaneous road trip where we ran out of money & had to spin stories to strangers to get donations for gas money will end up in a novel at some point.
A bottle of champagne chilling in my fridge is paramount to a good life. You never know when you need to celebrate the little victories or cheer up a friend in need.
I also have a firm no drama policy for my life. As such I have no desire for the drama that comes with secret affairs, so save yourself a wasted effort and don't ask.
I often have an irreverent sense of humor, but I don't like crass.
I grew up in the South. As a displaced southern girl, I have a fondness for practicing the art of flirting. Flirting is meant to make the other person feel good. It is not about sexual aggressiveness. Sending me a picture of your bits is not a flirtation and will get you nothing but scolded. Engage me in witty banter and you may just get yourself a date.
Sexuality should be celebrated not shamed, but if it's all you have to talk about then you won't hold my attention.
I value honesty and consideration.
I require integrity, transparency, and thoughtfulness. Kindness and compassion are must haves too.
I'm not a damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued, but I do like a man who knows how to treat a woman with respect and a little bit of old school chivalry. Pull out my chair, open a door, offer me your arm when walking down a street, these are things I will greet with a smile and appreciate.
I'm pretty focused on my writing these days, but I do love a nice flirtation. If the chemistry is right, I'm open to seeing where it goes.
I love to dance, hike, watch movies, go to comedy shows, & try out new things. I have far too many playlists on Pandora. Each one is a tiny snapshot encapsulating a moment in my life. It's funny how music does that. Every time I hear the Cowboy Junkies or the Sneakerpimps, I am transported back to a road trip with the first girl I fell in love with. My Spanish Guitar station reminds me of my first year in college and seeing the aurora for the first time.
I have a broad intellect and enjoy being able to discuss a variety of topics. You get brownie points if you can make me laugh.