I don't do the whole dating thing. I cultivate friendships. Friendships can evolve into romantic connections, but it should happen organically when you know each other well enough to genuinely care about one another.
I only seek people who are willing and interested in establishing emotionally and intellectually intimate connections.
Bonus points if you can discuss the finer points of writing fiction.
You need to be interested in sharing activities like: walks, hiking, social partner dancing, theater, and good food.
Despite a life full of complicated moving parts, I enjoy the simple pleasures and intimacies. Like cooking a meal together and the joy of knowing each other’s movement so well you slide around each other without missing a beat. Or enjoying the quiet moments while one person reads a book while the other plays music, draws, or works on a laptop. Going out dancing and laughing as you trip over each other’s feet as you try to learn a new dance style. Building history together and being able to snuggle up and watch a tv show together, sharing inside jokes about your favorite episodes.
I’m a writer. I spend large blocks of time with the characters in my head and I’m always thinking about new stories to put them in.
I’m non monogamous, but I don’t do casual hook-ups. I believe sex should be celebrated not shamed; and to celebrate it, trust and affection needs to develop. It takes more than 5 dates for me to get there. Build a friendship with me first.
I’m a very direct person, which can be frustrating in the city that seems to thrive on passive aggressive forms of communication. I don’t believe in playing games and I ask questions when I want information.
I move through the world everyday treating people with kindness, respect, and compassion. You should do the same.
I am passionate, thoughtful, fiercely loyal, and protective of the people I care about.
I'm a vibrant mix of tomboy, irrepressible romantic, dreamy philosopher, badass independent spirit, & shy gentle creature.
Unless you want me to jump out of an airplane or swim with sharks. I'm allowed two irrational fears and those are it.
A bottle of champagne chilling in my fridge is paramount to a good life. You never know when you need to celebrate the little victories or cheer up a friend in need.
I’d love to expand my community of people in my life to share in adventures and build loving relationships, be it friendship or more.
Cooking. I love to cook for other people. There is something magical that happens when you share in a meal with another person. There is a special kind of intimacy in preparing a meal together and eating it together. It's one of my favorite things to do with close friends.
I'm good at being insatiably curious about everything. It usually means I'm always studying up on someting new. Which comes in handy in my writing. There is a vast world in which to explore and people to explore it with.
Movies: chocolate, princess bride, all of the Tyler Perry movies, and lets not forget Shakespeare in Love.
Witty comedy. I'm not a fan of the raunchy comedy genre.
Action flicks. As long as it has a good car chase, multiple fight scenes, and eye candy. Who needs plot in an action flick.
Music: I'm pretty eclectic. I like a bit of everything expect rap music.
Humor. If you can't laugh at yourself, you aren't paying attention.