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62 F Petaluma, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:34pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm looking for a relationship that starts and builds as a friendship. I'm creative, fun-loving, both serious and silly, sociable, deep-thinking, adventurous, and conversational. I need alone/creative time and time with friends. I'm looking for an activity partner, friend, confidant, and intellectual companion in the short term. I don't believe in the romance trance any more; but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy love and affection and romantic activities. I just don't want to be charmed or seduced. We have our own rich lives but share closeness when we're together, and ideally, we'll want to spend more and more time together. I moved to Petaluma in 2012, and I am loving it.
What I’m doing with my life
I left the classroom in 2010 after twelve years. (I did come home at night to sleep once or twice.) I am enjoying the best parts of teaching now as a tutor, and forgoing the painful parts (cop, multitasker, etc.) I write poetry and short stories, paint and collage. Over the last few years, I've self-published four books of poetry. In 2013 I started a poetry series. We meet monthly at a local cafe.

I have added volunteering to my life in the past year. I work with educational foundations and a housing organization. It is fun and so rewarding.
I’m really good at
trusting my intuition, finding the beauty in ordinary things, striking a good balance between flowing and planning my time, learning languages, and knowing what I like when I see or encounter it. Petty as it may sound, when people write "your gonna love it," I cringe. Guess that's the librarian and teacher in me. I'm getting better at asking for what I want and need, and believing that the universe will provide much of what we desire if we believe in our selves and dare to put ourselves out there.
The first things people usually notice about me
my blue eyes...easy smile....sense of humor... energy...and use of ellipses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies that come to mind: Life as a House, Mumford, The Answer Man, Documentaries, Christopher Guest's mockumentaries, Saint Misbehavin': The Wavy Gravy Movie. Many books: most of Elizabeth Berg (a gem), Ann Beattie, Ann Lamott, Sharon Olds, Sarah Gruen (Water for Elephants), anything about dreams and many psych books. I also loved "The Daily Coyote." Healthy food: Thai, Pho, Cambodian, Ethiopian, Sushi, and Everest India. The only TV shows I like have been Cable series, such as "Six Feet Under" and "The United States of Tara," so I watch them on DVD. I love the Kiefer Sutherland show "Touch." My latest find is "The Big C." Laura Linney---whew! I also like "In Treatment" with Gabriel Byrne. I just got into "Lie to Me." Best new books: Gabor Mate's "When the Body Says No" (about the relationship of mental health and therapy to catastrophic illness), and "How to Be An Adult in Relationship." This last title is the most amazing book on the subject I've ever found.
The six things I could never do without
my young adult son (not a thing)
journal and pens
paint and canvases
my cats
great open-hearted-and-minded friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how people paint the truth about themselves on dating sites. Sure, I'm a caring, intelligent, kind and creative person who looks for beauty and goodness in others and in the world, but I can also be moody, immature and insecure in odd moments. I appreciate people who are confident enough to acknowledge their shadow sides as well as their "good behavior." Remember, the selves we bring to new relationships are going to revealed soon enough! Tell me about some of your less attractive qualities. It will be a relief to hear that you're human.
On a typical Friday night I am
eating a delicious home-cooked meal, watching a movie, reading, playing a bit of music, writing poetry, making art, or with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
These are not that private, but I want to put them out there.
I have very mild Tourette Syndrome (which once inspired a clown persona) and I'm mildly chemically sensitive. Can't stand artificial fragrances, pesticides, etc. Can't be around the brain-numbing deodorants and personal care products.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 48–67
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
you want a close friendship/connection--that, with TLC and time--might grow into something enduring. You don't want to be with me every day. You are open to real connection and intimacy. Community is important to you and your spiritual beliefs are your own, not the guru du jour or something out of a can. You are not a spiritual groupie (junkie). (In my experience those who truly feel it don't feel the need to trumpet it or worse, proselytize.) You enjoy art, poetry, and/or musical events and readings. I don't do polyamory. It's hard enough to be sensitive to your own and one other person's feelings (though it doesn't bother me if others engage in it). Please love yourself enough to have put aside savings for your retirement. I have much more to talk about with someone who is formally educated. I need and want to play and hope you don't have to work 24/7 and can take time to travel and play! Oh, and please have a car. It's impractical to think of dating someone who lives out the reach of public transit without a car.....unless, by chance, you have a magic carpet. I'm not into endless emails and too much caution usually ends in a stalemate. I'm getting better at asking for what I want and trying to make new mistakes (rather than repeating the old ones). Finally, if you're afraid of expressing anger or conflict-averse, move along to the next profile.