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45 M Venice, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 2
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
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I am in a positive and healthy place in my life right now--sensual, confident, and curious. Never mistaken for a homebody, I prefer living, moving, doing, and dancing.

Empty nester. :)

I'm a grounded gypsy, a pragmatic romantic, an east-west coaster, and equal parts urban and nature addict. I can never have too many clever, witty friends in my midst.

I value time and experience over money.

I'm allergic to complacency and addicted to learning, travel, live music and anything I can conveniently order off a menu.

I desire a smart, active, cosmopolitan woman who’s ready to create a deeply connected relationship.

How about sharing a bottle of wine and leaving this site forever?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I love to indulge in long dinners lingering over appetizers and cocktails.

I play with the majority of my free time.

Seeing live music
enjoying my 40s
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Discussing film, music, art and literature, aesthetics, the politics of desire, and the NFL. I no longer teach but I stay closely tied to my doctoral interests: contemporary American literature, film, and culture.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My great ass.

I'm smart and funny, playful, charming, in charge, passionate, articulate, direct, painfully honest, extremely shallow, extremely deep, fiercely independent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: I see most singer songwriters who pass through town.
Recent highlights: Father John Misty, The Lumineers at the Greek, Phosphorescent at the El Rey, Bright Eyes in London and Manhattan, Elvis Costello in Manhattan, Gary Jules in Los Angeles, Fleet Foxes in Chicago and Florence and the Machine in Milwaukee (I took my daughter and her friends). Conor Oberst in Madison. Yes I travel just to see a concert. Ray Lamontagne in Chicago. The Tallest Man on Earth in Milwaukee. Ryan Adams everywhere.

I'll do favorite authors: Delillo, Auster, Beckett, Kathy Acker, Joan Didion, Marguirite Duras, Virginia Woolf, Lydia Davis, etc.

I live for food. Name the restaurant. I eat out most meals.

Although I have a massive new smart tv I do not have cable--only netflix and hobgo for lazy wintry evenings.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the music
the bar
the meal
the drink
the touch
the ocean
the travel
the dance
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the vacation from the vacation

how to be a better lover
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
listening to live music after an incredible dinner
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How fucking great it is to be in my forties!

I am sapiosexual.
You should message me if
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You are fit, healthy, and full of life.

You have a creative and artistic side. You more than enjoy eating out, you live a healthy lifestyle, you are passionate about supporting live music, you love a fine cocktail or glass of wine, dancing and hanging out.

But don't get me wrong, I equally enjoy a night on the couch catching up with movies, cuddling.

If you don't look like your pics you are buying drinks til you do.

If you attend church or temple I am probably not for you. If you have a deep spiritual sense of the world and your place in it that frees you from the rigors of organized religion then we are probably well matched.