I'm still tempted to leave this profile up, but it's seeming more and more like a distraction and a crutch for receiving attention when I'm not feeling like dealing with my life in process...
So, I'm going to make an effort to lurk here less, and be more present in my offline life. It still stands that if you see me out and about, do say hi :)
Status?: To Be Determined...
*September-ish update (2012): This profile is really turning into a strange chronicle of my dating life and relationship history. Re: poly - let me just say I've learned that unless you allow true vulnerability and strive towards authenticity in your relationship(s), what you thought was great communication may just turn out to be so many pretty words about what you *wish* were true. Have my experiences over the last year soured me on poly and open relationships? Not necessarily. These life lessons can be applied to *any* relationship. I'm still not sure what relationship structure is right for me and my current relationship is still in process and always going through revisions. I can't even begin to adequately express how much I've learned. I've pushed so many boundaries and faced so many fears and come through it all with a better (and ever-evolving) sense of self as well as a deeply heartfelt appreciation for and gratitude towards those true friends, new and old, that I've been lucky enough to make and keep. Despite dealing with significant pain and heartache on the "poly family" end, I wouldn't change the past year for anything.
*August-ish update (2011): Despite my answers to related questions on this site indicating trepidation toward such things, I've somehow stumbled smack dab into the middle of a polyamorous relationship. O.o Turns out it's easier to have a part-time boyfriend when he's already married, hahahaha... It's been an eye-opening experience to say the least! Being a complete n00b at the poly thing, I keep waiting to start feeling weirded out by everything, but so far I've encountered nothing but amazingly selfless people, great communication on a level I never thought possible and a welcoming, supportive family. In other words, damn this Kool-Aid is tasty! ;)
*June-ish update: For the first time in a while, I'm just not feeling the online dating thing much right now, so it's doubtful I'll respond to any messages. I'm still interested in meeting people, but I'm focusing more on going out and being social in the offline world (omg!), and am not feeling motivated enough to keep up the online thing at the same time. So, if you see me out and about, please say hi, even if you've messaged me and I haven't responded :)*
I'm mostly still window-shopping right now since I'm trying to focus on things other than dating. However, feel free to message me if you have the most points. If you're interested in a date, I usually just rate people I might be interested in highly on the Quickmatch thingy. No-risk screening for interest at its finest since "I like you. Do you like me? Check yes or no" notes in middle school, hahaha.
Disclaimer #2: *However,* I do seem to have developed an addiction to just rating people on Quickmatch and then not having the energy/motivation to respond to the resulting messages... This usually has nothing to do with the person (i.e. YOU) who has messaged me. It's more that I'm currently exploring more of the offline opportunities that have presented themselves in my life recently, and sometimes the thought of spending lots of time writing messages back and forth here makes my head hurt, no matter how interesting and/or attractive the person in question seems. I also sit in front of a computer all day and can't really bear to do the same thing in the evenings or on the weekends. So, if you happen to see me out and about (and not obviously on a date, haha), *please* do introduce yourself and say that you saw me here. You'll have much more luck that way at this point in time. Also, as you're reading my maze of a profile (if you can make it through, hahaha), keep in mind that I do know that I'm full of contradictions :)
And now, on to the main course:
I originally moved from the mountains of Western NC to go to UNC, and have transitioned into a Carrboro/Chapel Hill (and sometimes Durham) townie. I've been going through a seemingly never-ending transitional phase as I figure out what *doesn't* make me happy and search for what *does* make me happy. I've eliminated a few things, but it seems like the pool of choices is ever deeper. For a while, I was content to just relax and have fun, but now I'm feeling that urge to do something more... and I'm trying to learn to be comfortable with uncertainty.
Often, I feel like this.
I've got a great love of music, art, intellectual pursuits, and not-so-intellectual pursuits. I appreciate language and try to use it well. I'm open-minded and insist upon the same in others. I've got a fine tuned sense of irony/sarcasm.
Likes: Fake mustaches. Random silliness. Breeziness. Glow-in-the-dark stars and planets on ceilings. Flowers. Trees. 70 degree sunny days. Sincerity. Argyle. Kneesocks. Argyle kneesocks. Glow bowling. Cool nights when it feels like the wind is caressing your skin as it then moves on through the trees, rustling the leaves.
Dislikes: Mushrooms. Automatic flushing toilets. Humidity. Horrible spelling. Cocky bastards. Condescension. Drama and those who cause and/or wallow in it. People who use the word "should" too much when referring to my life.
I am awkward, sarcastic, and a master of karate and friendship for everyone.