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xanthusleo

46 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:57am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm nerdy/geeky enough to be dangerous to your street cred (if you really, really care about such things, that is).

I think I'm pretty hip in the sense of "one who has his eyes open", though. I count amongst my friends some people who (IMHO) are outrageously cool and lovely and plugged-in, so your rep is probably safe.

In other news...
I take it as a sacred mandate to all humans that they must NEVER stop learning.
I spent half of my 20s in NE Asia. I studied butoh in Kyoto.
I believe that life is short and must be lived fiercely, joyously, and gloriously.
I dig adverbs.

I am star, fish, and coffee
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am partway through the first year of a five-year plan to have it all. I am reconstituting myself as a working artist and designer with heavy technical credentials and an uncompromising commitment to the deep future.

I'm also looking into the Peace Corps in Asia or the Pacific Islands. I have a thing about Palau.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Using my hands, making things, using my mind, learning, communicating, talking dirty in Japanese, putting energy into the world.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
From canvassing female friends I came up with:

"air of gravitas"
"mmmhmm... eyes"
"I would have to say your eyes. It was the first thing I noticed... That and your butt... lol!!"
"...cool... smokin' hot"

There you have it.
Sexy Rasputin -voluminous beard + buns of steel = me, apparently.
Either that or I have gentle female friends.

Actually, is gravitas a good thing?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Ok, ok. Here goes...

Books (a woefully incomplete list)
The Fall Revolution sequence - Ken Macleod
Childhood's End - Arthur C. Clarke
Cosm - Gregory Benford
Manifold Trilogy - Stephen Baxter
The Dune series - Frank Herbert
1984 - George Orwell
How to Talk Dirty and Influence People - Lenny Bruce
The Annotated Alice - Lewis Carroll (Introduction/ Notes by Martin Gardner)
Darwin's Dangerous Idea - Daniel Dennett
My Secret Garden - Nancy Friday
East of Eden - John Steinbeck
Leaves of Grass - Walt Whitman

Music!
the 6ths, Antony and the Johnsons, Aphex Twin, Autechre, Bad Brains, Bad Religion, Masaki Batoh, the Beatles, Booker T. & the MG's, Bowie, the Buzzcocks, Can, Nick Cave, Circle Jerks, the Clash, Cluster & Eno, CocoRosie, DEVO, the Fall, Fever Ray, Fischerspooner, Ghost, Gong, the Jam, Habib Koité, Kraftwerk, Ladytron, MC Solaar, Mission of Burma, Muslimgauze, Gary Numan, OOIOO, Amanda Palmer, Pixies, Prince, Rammstein, Rasputina, Sigur Rós, Susumu Yokota, X, et cetaceans

Food:
izakaya, kissaten, ramenya, Mexican, Texas BBQ, Shopsins
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- An iPod all full up with media like a tick about to burst
- A ratty tattered paperback
- An organic soup of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen and trace elements
- My uniform of jeans and a black t-shirt
- My laptop
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the Fermi Paradox, deep time, sex, art, technology, evolution, strategy, radical hard SF, punk rock, strange music of various kinds, Mexican food, Japanese food, Japan, womenfolk, ways-of-being-in-the-world, the creative act, colors, sounds, shapes, textures, and humans.

That's good for a start.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Loitering downtown with artists, scoundrels, poets, ne'er-do-wells, and beautiful humans of all stripes. Maybe eating a cheeseburger.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I miss my mom and my dad.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I don't know. If the spirit takes you? If you like smart cool men? If you are a very smart cool woman? Or for no reason at all, really, it's ok, be my guest.