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xenesthis

48 M Salem, VA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 37–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:51pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I have lived a very interesting "Hemingway" life full of adventure, incredible experiences, travel and have an amazing appetite to live life to the maximum. With a successful background in the military, airlines, public relations, the exotic pet trade, and the helping professional or human services field, there are not too many things that I haven't done or places I haven't been to yet.

I've put somethings below that would confirm that we'd not be very compatible, and some other things that I know that we would. It's honest and straightforward. What a welcome change. :) For the critics of this approach, no I'm not looking for perfection, but I do know what I'm definitely not interested in and know what I am. I'm so tired of people putting up fake profiles saying one thing and in-person, nothing matches their profile at all. Unlike others, I'm not settling. If you want your ideal significant other in life, you got to post what you want. Lots of individuals on this site post one paragraph profiles that make people waste their valuable time finding out that they are not compatible. So, let's be honest and post what you like and don't like for a change.

What I'm NOT interested in:
• You have been diagnosed with a significant mental health disorder such as being bipolar, borderline, antisocial, etc. and/or you have weekly or month appointments with a psychiatrist or psychologist.
• You take prescription drugs, street drugs or drink excessively in order to cope with life and manage life's problems.
• If you drink a six pack every night and/or you can't go out without needing an adult babysitter or taxi home, then we are not compatible.
• You're currently going through a midlife crisis and/or still dealing with one.
• You have extreme mood swings and/or if you resort to yelling, screaming and violence as your normal way of operating.
• You have a felony record.
• You smoke or tell people they you are quitting, but years later, uh, are still smoking.
• You're extremely emotionally needy.
• You're only wanting a man for financial security. You actually value a man for only being a wallet.
• You do not care about your health by being very obese or bony, don't eat half-way healthy, sleep enough or display anything externally that shows that you do NOT care for yourself. (How can you care for a man if you don't care about yourself?)
• You own big dogs. (Generally, not a good match for my cats, but also big dog owners tend to be a certain personality type that I don't match up with well. You might be the exception, so I'm open-minded here.)
• Politically and philosophically, IF your an extreme liberal in your views. (Not a good match for me, as I'm more of a moderate conservative about things.)
• You're into witchcraft, Satanism and/or any weird cult-type of religions or activities.
• You're covered in tattoos. (Uh, more than three would probably qualify here.)
• You're body is a pin cushion with many body piercings.
• You ONLY listen to country music.
• You didn't graduate from high school and/or you do not value education and have no plans to try to improve yourself about anything in life.
• Your very promiscuous and/or have many "friends with benefits" and have been living that lifestyle.
• You can not have a disagreement or argue without resulting to yelling, screaming, threatening or violence.
• You have more than two divorces. (Really, after one, when you got 2 or 3 marriages under your belt, your obviously doing something wrong and can no longer blame just the other person.)
• You're bisexual.
• You're a Facebook or social media junkie spending more than two hours a day creating and/or getting caught up with drama.
• You have to have your mother or best friends make your decisions for you constantly.

What interests me and we would be most compatible about:
• You love the outdoors, nature and wildlife and some of your non-work life resolves around activities that have to do with those type of things.
• Your an active person that works out a few times weekly and you take care of yourself. (You don't have to be extremely athletic or a health nut, but just live like you know these things are important and you take good care of yourself.)
• You eat and cook with healthy foods. (Sorry, I don't eat lots of fried, fast-food, processed, or red meat types of foods.)
• You enjoy things like mountain hiking/climbing, photography, traveling/sightseeing, gardening/landscaping, going to book stores, museums, zoos, nature centers, art galleries, watching movies, playing pool, bowling, cycling, inline skating, martial arts, skiing, swimming, walking, volleyball, working out, camping, and coffee and conversation.
• You have a well-rounded life with work, parenting (if that applies), friends, family, hobbies, church, volunteer work, sports, school, etc.
• You like reading and talking about subjects like history, art, psychology, geography, travel and some politics.
• You like/love cats. (I have two Siamese cats.)
• You have an interest and/or keep exotic animals.
• You're a moderate to right wing type of conservative or an independent type when it comes to politics and philosophy.
• You're self-motivated, set realistic goals and constantly try to better yourself and learn new things.
• You're self-sufficient, you have a job, your own car and place to live and not in major debt and about to start losing things.
• Long hair, green eyes and large breasts are a plus. Not required, but an attractive features I gravitate to.
• You are capable of carrying on stimulating conversations and know the difference between hearing and truly listening.
• You rarely use the words "maybe, if, but, try, could, or should". Your very conscious in ensuring most of your words and actions match.
• You like/love seafood.
• In a monogamous relationship, you are very sexual with your man without using that for manipulation, control or influence of the relationship.
• It would be nice if you work in the helping professions or human services field.
• I prefer a college graduate. It would be nice if your going back to school or advanced your education.
• Your fairly intelligent. (This is a big turn on for me.)
• You are proficient in being able to have disagreements and arguments by resolving differences and managing conflicts successfully in all of your relationships.
• You value a man for all the right reasons, you want a serious, monogamous relationship, and you believe it takes both a father and mother to raise a child successfully.
• You have a positive outlook on life and a daily zest to live it.

What I'm interested in: LOYALTY and HONESTY. Without those two things, our relationship can not grow or last. We have to have chemistry and be attracted to each other.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in the helping professions or human services field. I'm also attending graduate school studying for my Masters of Arts degree in Marriage & Family Therapy. When not working or studying, I like to work out, go nature hiking, swim, travel, and do some nature/wildlife photography.
I’m really good at
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Conversation, writing, speaking, computers, research, knowledge about nature, wildlife, history, geography, nutrition/fitness and creating art, organizing, sports, and romance.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Intelligence, nice shoulders and "rump". :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: seafood, Mexican, Italian, Greek, Asian foods.
Books: Many! Currently reading "Catching Fire" and "Beyond Good and Evil".
Music: '80s lover, but I listen to a wide range of music.
Shows: Cats
Movies: I like a wide range of movies especially action/adventure, military, history documentaries, some sci fi, horror, comedies and drama. Favorite movies: Gladiator, Dark Knight, Dark Knight Rises, Crimes of Passion, The Deer Hunter, Casino, The Notebook, Hunger Games, Happy Gilmore, Apocalypse Now, Legends of the Fall
You should message me if
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IF you made the time and effort to read my profile and think we could click, sure, send me a message and let's see what happens.