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xeric_heathen

33 Tucson, AZ Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 26
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Kuka sinä olet?
Kuka minä olen?

Well, i'm a nerd living in the desert. I work for a local aerospace company, helping develop lithium battery products for airplanes. I like my job and my work, but it's not my life. I've been in Tucson since late 2009, and i love it here. It feels more like home than any other city I've lived in.

A collection of semi-formed, random bits that make up me:

I live in a strange house on a hill near Sabino canyon. The views are amazing (sunrise and sunset) but the house itself is kind of strange and decrepit. It does have built-in bookshelves, which makes up for a lot. I've been filling them with books. I love books - i love used bookstores, libraries, and reading. I've been known to buy books purely for the smell of old binding.

I believe in humanity, feminism, gender equality, the overall empowerment of women in the third world as the best way to bring them out of poverty, kindness to our neighbors, giving to the poor, helping strangers, and doing more than I "need to" for those less fortunate. I think the only way any of us get through this is by helping each other. Luckily, my work leaves me in a good position to do that.

When I was an undergrad, I worked for the Jet Propulsion Labs, where I was lucky enough to work on the Phoenix Mars Lander. I made some recommendations for design changes, and they were accepted. I say hi whenever I see Mars in the night sky.

I tend more towards the introverted side of things, so i like mostly quiet nights in and a few nights out with friends. I'm at a point where i'd like to find my last relationship, but i know that takes time to find and build. I tend to be relatively reserved at first, even guarded. I like to get a little more comfortable with new situations and new people before really opening up. I'm trying to do better with that. I do believe that, in a relationship, openness and honesty are essential for success.

I love exploring Tucson and the rest of Arizona. I like the periphery of the city - the desert and the mountains, the canyons and the cacti. I also like the city itself, just not great crowds of people. I'd like to explore many other parts of the world as well - northern Europe and part of southeast Asia, in particular. I'm looking for a partner to share that journey with.

I greatly value kindness (as opposed to niceness), conscientiousness, and intelligence - of all varieties. I aspire to Neil DeGrasse Tyson's "meaning of life" - to know more today than i did yesterday, and to try to lessen the suffering of others. I hope to be always learning and always helping.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working full time as an electrical engineer. I enjoy hiking, exploring, finding and photographing local wildlife (everything from tiny bugs to our large mammals), and creating things at home. I've started learning leather-working and other crafting skills, partly due to my interest in steampunk stuff.

planning a trip in 2016 to Scotland and Svalbard, with stopovers in Iceland and mainland Norway.

i occasionally get the chance to do educational demonstrations about local reptiles and "bugs" (including spiders, scorpions, centipedes and as many other creepy things as i can). I really love getting the chance to educate people on the importance of all the parts of our local environment.

i'm also pretty active with the local atheist community, and am an organizer for one of the hiking clubs. I'm trying to get out to different parts of Arizona this year. I am very firm in my atheism, but I don't take it too seriously. I prefer the term "heathen" with all its connotations. File it under mischief.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm not sure i'm *really* good at anything, but i am pretty good at a lot of things - fixing things around the house, creating new things with electronics (and to a lesser degree with leather, wood, and metal), making people laugh, and general mischief.

I'm also pretty good at finding and photographing our local wildlife. I've had great encounters with mountain lions, many rattlesnakes, tons of scorpions, and more.

I can make a great camp fire, and I can turn the flames blue and green.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm mostly pretty quiet and more observant than obvious, but when people do notice me, its often because i've got a snake or bug in my hands and am trying to find someone to show it to. or because i'm on fire.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books are: For Love of Insects, by Thomas Eisner; Born on a Blue Day, by Daniel Tammet; Romance of the Three Kingdoms, by Luo Guanzhong; Pale Blue Dot, by Carl Sagan; and Lord of the Rings, by JRR Tolkien.

I don't spend as much time with movies and tv, but i do enjoy Game of Thrones, Star Trek (mostly TNG), Archer, the new Cosmos series, Mock the Week and Peaky Blinders.

I love music. I have almost 40k songs in my music library...i used to have a long list of artists i like, but that was kinda cumbersome. I like classical, new wave, old industrial, about half of the 90s grunge stuff, and lots of other stuff. i like music that is interesting or challenging in some way, not the pop drivel manufactured by focus groups. Recently i've been listening to : Tom Waits, Red Lorry Yellow Lorry, Pet Shop Boys, Johnny Cash, Sisters of Mercy, Sigur Ros, Julie Fowlis, Fad Gadget, Alestorm, various Nick Cave projects, and Propeller.

i don't have a very good relationship with food. i'm pretty picky, though not nearly as bad as i was when growing up. i'm mostly vegetarian, though i eat fish sometimes when i'm out. i love spicy tofu pad thai, and i really like scotch. I absolutely do not expect it to be my partner's job to cook for me. It's nice if you like doing that, though, and i do appreciate when someone cooks for me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my music, my friends, my gerber multitool, my trusty pilot precise V5 (or a BIC #2 mechanical), nature, and a puzzle to solve.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how things work...how people work. people are a great mystery to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in sabino canyon, leading a group of people on a stroll to try to find animals. I've been known to miss this on occasion, but by the end of the week, i pretty much need to get out into nature. This is done through the Tucson Hiking Meetup Group. It's open to everyone. Feel free to join if you like; I promise to not assume anything if i recognize you! This is probably one of the better ways to get to know me. These introductions are formulaic and somewhat forced and awkward.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Filling out this profile makes me feel a bit like a Bird of Paradise, hoping that i'm fluttering my feathers in just the right way to attract someone.

Anyway...I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum. More on the higher functioning end of things. I've worked as a tutor for twenty years, and i'm good at it, so i'm pretty good with communication and empathy and all that. Sometimes "normal" people just confuse the hell out of me, so i work to be as straightforward as i can be.
You should message me if
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if i seem interesting; if you have a question about snakes or bugs; if you'd like to get dinner some time; if you want to.

I can't abide cigarette smoke, so if you do smoke, it ain't going to happen.