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45 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:40am
6′ 6″ (1.98m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
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Curiouser and curiouser. My favorite people are the ones with big brains and a sharp wit. The former is good for thinking. The latter might be for real knowledge or a good laugh or both at once.

I like to push myself some, sometimes, with some things. Inevitably, part of my effort succeeds and part does not. I think there’s a lot to be said for effort (intellectual, emotional, physical). There’s also a lot to be said for sometimes not trying at all, not lifting a single finger and just letting the world carry you along with it . Life seems always a mixture of action and receptiveness.

I like to take everything in: Saintly thoughts, the sharp edges in life, all those many shadows, completely inappropriate jokes. I need that mix.
What I’m doing with my life
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For work, I invent actual physical things. I know, crazy, no apps whatsoever. These days those physical things are for cardiac surgery and yes it’s wonderful and humbling and just plain awe inspiring to see a doctor put something you designed into grandpa’s beating heart and watch it work (usually, hopefully). I’m lucky and I know it. I’ve been building things since I was a kid and I expect to be building things for the rest of my life.

I do a lot of hiking and backpacking. I tend to seek out pretty remote spots, either with friends or solo. Some of the best days of my life have been spent far from any road and, sometimes, far from even any trail.

From time to time, I build art projects in my shop. Right now, I’m working on hardware that drags a ½ ton granite boulder very slowly across my space. It scrapes and grinds and pops against the concrete floor. It's pleasantly improbable and reminds me of standing in front of a glacier.

I have very strong opinions about art but mostly keep them to myself. When a work really strikes home, it moves me like almost nothing else can. It matters.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Building just about any damn thing
Getting the seats on the plane with the most legroom.
Thinking, then acting on it
Not believing everything I think
Knowing when the moon is full and the tides are low
Confusing predators
Reaching things on high shelves, particularly at supermarkets when a little old lady needs something. Yes, this actually happens. Yes, it’s fun.
The first things people usually notice about me
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"Jeezus you're tall. What did your mother feed you?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Films: Andrei Tarkovsky (Stalker and Andrei Rublev in particular). Most things by John Cassavetes. Airplane (“I am serious... and don't call me Shirley.”). Almodovar. Herzog (esp. Fitzcarraldo). Paul Thomas Anderson(“Inherent Vice” was great). Don Hertzfeldt’s animation. Wim Wenders with Paris,Texas (the scenes with Harry Dean Stanton and Natasha Kinski talking through the one-way glass are just stop-you-in-your-tracks beautiful ). Road Runner cartoons and all that hairbrained Acme gadgetry that the coyote orders.

Music: Tom Waits. Anthony and the Johnsons. Thievery Corporation. Nick Cave singing “Wonderful Life”. Sundial, "Magic Potion". Jeanne Balibar singing "A Rose is a Rose". Piano composition by Ludvico Einaudi. Black Keys. Skye. Guilty pleasures would have to be 80s music like Depeche Mode and the Pet Shop boys. Comedy: Mitch Hedberg, Richard Pryor

Books: Anything by Denis Johnson (esp. “Tree of Smoke” from a few years back). Margaret Atwood. Robinson Jeffers’ poems. Jorge Luis Borges. Sedaris. Julian Barnes. Samuel Beckett.

Food: Gimme sushi, please. Anything hot. Ah, but no cilantro. I have that gene and it tastes just awful to me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wilderness and a bit of silence now and again
Friends again
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Recently: Kindness (to others, to yourself, to both at the same time). Such a simple word that’s actually pretty tricky and fascinating.
You should message me if
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*In whatever you do, you're often curious to a fault.
*You want to know why I’m trying to drag that boulder around.
*You have a boulder you are looking to unload for the right price.

I seem to get along particularly well with transplants from the east coast and from Europe. I’m a native Californian but often get mistaken for a New Yorker or even a European. Go figure.


To sum it all up: Ingmar Bergman made a movie near the end of his life (Saraband) in which a priest says the following:

“A good relationship has two elements: good friendship and an unshakeable eroticism".

I might add “a certain playfulness” and then that’s about what I’m looking for. And you?