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59 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 28
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
“Right this way, sir.”
“If I could write that way, I'd be lunching at the Algonquin.”

I am a senior software-development engineer at the University of Chicago, having long since retired from the law.

I am honest and self-aware.

I’ve lost a hundred pounds from my peak, eaten more vegetables, taken up bicycling to work, consider two miles “walking distance.”

At a singles event a couple of days ago, the icebreaker was to hand around sheets in which you fill in what you were doing in this or that year. I wrote for 2010:

Thanksgiving at TGI Fridays.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a geek. I write (I am working 60 hour weeks combined on my fifth book and my day job). I mentor. I try to make human interfaces that don’t make people feel dumb. I see them all as ways to minister to the lost.

The work I do satisfies my sense of mission. I am beloved of my daughters. That makes me a success.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping people understand is my work, and incidentally my job.

I've done improv; I made it through two years of the Second City conservatory. I was about 70th percentile, and my directors thought I was worth the effort.

I can roll my tongue.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The complete absence of fashion sense.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A) Favorite Authors: Terry Pratchett. Dorothy L. Sayers (both Lord Peter and the apologetics). Mark Twain (I have a collection of firsts). Richard Mitchell (the late Underground Grammarian).

(B) Manos: The Hands of Fate (MST3K and now Rifftrax ; 12 Monkeys; Magnolia; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The Marx Brothers, The Thin Man series. Most Bogart. Virtually all of Kate Hepburn.

(C) Community. The Americans, The Blacklist, Person of Interest. (In other words, dark and confusing. I actually tolerated Lost, because I was in it for the atmosphere.)

(D) My iPod has a lot of Folk and singer-songwriter. They Might be Giants, and Gilbert & Sullivan. Too much bubblegum 1953-1980.

(E) I like homey things, plus most Chinese. (American Chinese. “Delicacy” is a codeword for “nameless horror.”) I know what mirepoix is.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughters.
My many computing devices.
Corrective lenses.
A place where my work is my play.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughters. My friends. Radio (WT9T that's right, ladies!!!). How things work.

The fact that most OKCupid profiles that surely must be satirical, aren't. That the writers of questions are obsessed with evolution, a subject that never comes up in business, socially, or even in intimacy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading. Corresponding. Writing, when, as now, I have a gig. Okay, yes, watching some tube.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are generous, and true, and also fierce. Geeks much preferred.