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kurward_derby

59 Chicago, IL Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:14pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), LISP (Okay), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
“Right this way, sir.”
“If I could write that way, I'd be lunching at the Algonquin.”

I am a senior software engineer at the University of Chicago, specializing in mobile and personal devices. Addison-Wesley is about to publish my fifth book on the subject.

I am honest and self-aware. I am a sapiosexual and would be delighted to meet the same. Or a kind woman who’s willing to explore how we could complement each other.

I’ve lost a hundred pounds from my peak, eaten more vegetables, taken up bicycling to work. (Or at least I try to walk one way. [If I could walk that way…])

At a singles event, the icebreaker was to hand around sheets for you to tell what you were doing in this or that year. I wrote:

2010
Thanksgiving at TGI Fridays
In Kyoto.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a geek. I write. I mentor. I design. I try to help people not feel dumb. That’s my work; I am lucky that it’s my job. (Huge points up if you get the difference.)

I am beloved of my daughters. I can be kind to my ex-mother in law. That makes me a success.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping people understand.

I've done improv; my directors thought I was worth the effort.

My dentist tells me I have the saliva of a teenager.

I can roll my tongue.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The complete absence of fashion sense. Or the complete absence of shame, which might explain the absence of fashion sense.

In 2001, we were urged to notify the authorities of anything that was out-of-place. I considered reporting two guys wearing black tie before sundown.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A) Favorite Authors: Terry Pratchett. Dorothy L. Sayers (both Lord Peter and the apologetics). Mark Twain (I have a collection of firsts). Richard Mitchell (the late Underground Grammarian).

(B) Manos: The Hands of Fate (MST3K and now Rifftrax); 12 Monkeys; Magnolia; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The Marx Brothers, The Thin Man series. Most Bogart. Virtually all of Kate Hepburn.

(C) Community. The Americans, The Blacklist, Person of Interest. (Just like my women — dark and confusing.)

(D) My iPod has a lot of folk and singer-songwriter. Gilbert & Sullivan. Too much bubblegum. I stream classical, Early, and alternative.

(E) I like homey things, plus Anglo Chinese, Anglo Mexican, Anglo Japanese, Anglo Middle-Eastern… you get the picture. “Delicacy” is a codeword for “nameless horror.”

I know what mirepoix is.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughters.
A computing/writing/communication device.
A place of work I can get to without motorized transportation.
Corrective lenses.
A place where my work is my play.
Caffeine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughters. My friends. Radio (WT9T — that's right, ladies!!!). How things work.

Why Swift, Objective-C (ObjC for the keyword indexes) and Ruby aren’t on the languages-spoken list.

The fact that most OKCupid profiles that surely must be satirical, aren't. That the writers of questions are obsessed with evolution, a subject that never comes up in business, socially, or even in family planning.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading. Corresponding. Learning. Writing, when I have a gig. Okay, yes, watching some tube.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You get that I’ve chosen (my idea of) wit over accuracy. (No lies, just the better line.) Despite what I said about TV, blondes are welcome. Women who understand why I did it are especially welcome.

You are looking for your complement.

Geeks much preferred.