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58 M Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Jul 9
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
“Right this way, sir.”
“If I could write that way, I'd be lunching at the Algonquin.”

Very simple man, with big warm fuzzy secret heart.

Here is something Winston Churchill once wrote: "You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her."

I want to be generous and true and also fierce.

I majored in Physics. I all-but-abolished single-sex housing at my college. I am a recovering lawyer.

I'm an INTP.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a geek. I write (my fourth book is due in April 2014). I mentor. I try to make human interfaces that people can understand. I see them all as ways to minister to people when they are lost.

And that makes me a success. The work I do satisfies my sense of mission. There is very little else that ambition can earn me. Which is not what the kind of woman who wants "a successful gentleman" is looking for. Sorry.

I have adult children (one daughter in a helping profession, one in a master's program in far-Eastern studies).

I've done some international travel: London (I'm ethnically English), Edinburgh (I'm ancestrally Scottish), and Japan (visiting a daughter).

I watch football. I used to have season tickets for the Colts. I followed them even when they were miserable. It's the principle: You stick by your team even if they don't win.
I’m really good at
Helping people understand.

I've done improv; I made it through two years of the Second City conservatory. I was about 70th percentile (if you're below 95th, don't charge money), and my directors thought I was worth the effort.

I was a middling pilot. I stopped: "Middling" is not what you want to be.

I can roll my tongue.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(A) Favorite Authors: Terry Pratchett. Alton Brown. Dorothy L. Sayers (both Lord Peter and the apologetics). Laurie R. King. Mark Twain (I have a collection of firsts). Richard Mitchell (the late Underground Grammarian).

(B) Manos: The Hands of Fate (MST3K and now Rifftrax). Twentieth Century; 12 Monkeys; Magnolia; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. In the running: The Marx Brothers, The Thin Man series. Most Bogart. Virtually all of Kate Hepburn.

(C) Community. The Americans, The Blacklist, Fringe, Person of Interest. (In other words, dark and confusing. I actually tolerated Lost, because I was in it for the atmosphere.)

(D) My iPod has a lot of Barenaked Ladies, They Might be Giants, and Gilbert & Sullivan. Cheryl Wheeler. More and more Sarah Bareilles and Mary Chapin Carpenter. Folk]]. Too much bubblegum 1955-1980. [Jonathan Coulton's "Code Monkey" has been an anthem recently.

I really enjoy Bongwater (but see Drugs: Never) and Garfunkel & Oates. BUT: If your sense of humor involves a strong sense of decorum, you should not look them up.

(E) I like homey things, plus: Most Chinese. Mushrooms are very nice. I know what mirepoix is. I have trouble with anything that's lived in water, but when I planned to visit my daughter in Japan, I prepped by trying sushi. Not bad, but I don't seek it out.
The six things I could never do without
My daughters.
My many computing devices.
Corrective lenses.
A place where my work is my play.

(I demand points for keeping it down to six.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My daughters. My friends. Radio (WT9T that's right, ladies!!!). How things work.

The fact that most of the OKCupid profiles that surely must be satirical, aren't.

The fact that people who write the questions here think evolution is a big factor in qualifying a soulmate. How many times does the subject come up in your daily life? (If you need my answer, read the questions.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading. Corresponding. Writing, when I have a gig. Okay, yes, watching some tube.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 48–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are generous, and true, and also fierce. Geeks much preferred.

You think my being intelligent, educated, humorous, and urbane (as I've been told more than once) is more important to you than whether I voted for Rod Blagojevich. (Sorry, I've lost some very promising contacts on that point.)