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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 48-62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 26
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Average build
Christianity and it’s important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), LISP (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
“Right this way, sir.”
“If I could write that way, I'd be lunching at the Algonquin.”

I am a senior software engineer at the University of Chicago, specializing in mobile and personal devices. Addison-Wesley is rushing (their word) my fifth book into a second printing.

At a singles event, the icebreaker was to hand around sheets for you to tell what you were doing in this or that year. I wrote:

Thanksgiving at TGI Fridays.
In Kyoto.


I am not simple. Humor me — read the whole thing:

I am a believing Christian. I did not vote for Rod Blagojevich. I don't believe civil society is indestructible. I believe in freedom of conscience — even for Catholics, Jews, Muslims, and god-bothering rednecks. I do not believe a free society can confine the right of self-defense to a select class of The King's Men.

My first girlfriend, born Congregationalist, took the mikvah at 19. I was proud of her. I am sure that humans come of millions of years of natural selection. I'm signed up for an after-school program to get junior-high girls into STEM. I transformed the housing system at my college because it didn't give women enough respect. I believe in birthright citizenship because Dred Scott still has me livid.

I laughed in relief when my daughter came out; I'd known for years. I never turned my back on her. We exchange dating advice.

You get to disagree with me, even on things we think are important. I want a woman, not a liberal/conservative/libertarian/[a]theist Stepford wife.

I'm sure that one way or another I've alienated many of my readers. That, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Write me if you're still here.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a geek. I write. I mentor. I design. I try to help people not feel dumb. That’s my work; I am lucky that it’s my job. (Huge points up if you get the difference.)

I am beloved of my daughters. I dedicated books to my late ex-wife and my ex-mother in law. That makes me a success.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping people understand.

I've done improv; my directors thought I was worth the effort.

My dentist tells me I have the saliva of a teenager.

I can roll my tongue.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The complete absence of fashion sense. Or the complete absence of shame, which may explain the absence of fashion sense.

In 2001, we were urged to notify the authorities of anything that was out-of-place. I considered reporting two guys wearing black tie before sundown.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A) Favorite Authors: Terry Pratchett. Dorothy L. Sayers (both Lord Peter and the apologetics). Mark Twain (I have a collection of firsts). Richard Mitchell (the late Underground Grammarian).

If anyone close to you is on the autism spectrum, read NeuroTribes, just out. Every week, as I walked by, I wondered what an "orthogenic school" was. Dear Lord.

(B) Manos: The Hands of Fate (MST3K and now Rifftrax); 12 Monkeys; Magnolia; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The Marx Brothers, The Thin Man series. Most Bogart. Virtually all of Kate Hepburn.

(C) Community. Orphan Black. The Americans, The Blacklist, Person of Interest. (Just like my women — dark and confusing.) I can explain how astonishingly well-written Buffy the Vampire Slayer was. (Saying so may be an effective rule-in-rule-out criterion. And that I know the singular of criteria.)

(D) My iPhone has a lot of folk and singer-songwriter. Gilbert & Sullivan. Too much bubblegum. I stream classical, early, and alternative.

(E) I like homey things, plus Anglo Chinese, Anglo Mexican, Anglo Japanese, Anglo Middle-Eastern… you get the picture. “Delicacy” is a codeword for “nameless horror.”
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughters.
A computing/writing/communication device.
A place of work I can get to without motorized transportation.
Corrective lenses.
A place where my work is my play.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughters. My friends. How things work.

How to structure an introduction to software development as a romantic novel. I love a challenge. The third act isn't gelling.

The fact that most OKCupid profiles that surely must be satirical, aren't. Why people whose mainstream values differ from yours are supposed to be evil nowadays.

Why Swift, Objective-C (ObjC for the keyword indexes) and Ruby aren’t on the languages-spoken list. I am being ironic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading. Corresponding. Learning. Writing, when I have a gig. Okay, yes, watching some tube.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You get that I’ve chosen (my idea of) wit over accuracy. (No lies, just the better line.) Despite what I said about TV, blondes are welcome. Women who understand why I did it are especially welcome.

You are looking for your complement.

Geeks much preferred, or women who like them.