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24 San Francisco, CA Trans Woman

Trans Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:56pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
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*** Out of town until April 20 or so ***


tldr for the impatient: trans girl looking for friends (maybe with benefits), possibly exploratory dating if we really hit it off, but nothing super committed yet. Prefer women but will consider men.

I don't drive and have to use public transit, so going outside San Francisco is inconvenient for me.


OkCupid finally has a legit option for trans female, which is neat. (I hope you did pay attention to that, yeah?)

Hi, my name is Alex. I'm kind of nerdy and spend a lot of time playing video games and watching anime. It's not that I hate socializing, far from it; I just haven't had many friends to hang out with (or better yet, leave the house and go do something) for a long time.

People typically ask, "so that means you like guys, right?" Well, I do, but I also like girls. For that matter, I like girls significantly more than I like guys. But it's not that simple...basically, there are traits of both males and females that I like a lot, and I can fall for either a guy or a girl and be happy. But given a choice of two equally nice people? I'd go with the woman...

If I were to speak in cliche stereotypes, I'd be the "femme" partner in a relationship. I'm generally more passive and submissive, and I like others to take charge/make decisions and take care of me. That's not to say I can't be assertive and independent, but I prefer not to be. (That being said, I hate indecisiveness with a passion - it's incredibly frustrating to me when people can't make up their minds in a timely manner. Ain't nobody got time for that. So I try to be passive, yet cooperative...does that make sense?)

Lastly, I'm not fond of the built-in communication stuff of OkCupid. Send me a message, and if we seem to be hitting it off, I'd prefer moving the conversation to Skype.
What I’m doing with my life
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Agonizing over being unemployed once again. Trying to figure out what to do next.

I graduated from Bloc ( ), a 12 week Web development apprenticeship that teaches you how to program (Ruby/Rails). So far this hasn't led to an actual programming job, but I'm still looking...

I spend my time watching movies or anime, playing video games, and thinking about my life (planning transition). Modding is also something I enjoy; used to spend a lot of time modding and playing Super Smash Bros. Brawl (not the new one), and lately I've gotten back into The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. Currently running at 100 mods, lols.

Melty Blood (Actress Again Current Code) also occupies my time. I used to play MMOs in the past, but always eventually ran out of money to pay for subscriptions. The f2p for Star Wars: The Old Republic was terrible. World of Warcraft has expansions on top of the sub. And Guild Wars 2 eventually finally decided to do expansions as well, at which point I said, I'm outta here.

Outside of gaming, I enjoy shopping to acquiring rare/unusual clothing/accessories/shoes. It's been harder lately, since >walk into shoe store >already own 99% of styles . But who knows, there might always be some interesting pair in the next store...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Fashion. Specifically, I'm proud of my shoe collection. Shoes are the foundation for an outfit, and then I build my way up. I do like hunting for a nice skirt or cute top to complete an outfit, but everything really centers on the shoes.

Shopping. Hunting for deals is one of my favorite pasttimes, regardless if I have money to spend on them or not. It's the thrill of the hunt, amid the plastic jungle.

Cooking. I have been making meals for my family for many years now... maybe eight years or even more, I don't really remember. It's one of those things that you get trained in as a kid, and then one day, it's your know? While a lot of my dishes are Asian, I can also do some typical American stuff, and I fuse cuisines too (necessity is the mother of invention). I know that not everyone loves Oriental flavors.

I am pretty good at academics, especially English, even if they're boring to me. Math and science are not my favorite subjects; I'm more liberal-arts-oriented, I guess? Somewhat ironically, English is the subject I dislike above all others. It is terrible to be good at something and not like to do it...but then again, it's not a good idea to pick what to do in life based solely on what you're good at.

I write code on and off, although I'm pretty rusty now. Check out my Github if you're so inclined:

Specifically, I used to write code for Multi User Dungeons (MUDs), using the language known as LPC. These days I program using Ruby (and Rails), and I think my level of mastery is about the same as with LPC, even though I've only spent a month or two learning it. Having a quality teacher makes learning so much easier.

Video games are another big passion of mine. I have been playing ever since I was a little kid, maybe 5 or 6 years old. I still remember my Dad's old, brick-sized GameBoy, which I would play with sometimes. Nowadays, due to a lack of funds, I generally stick to the retro gaming circuit...I also play Japanese or indie stuff occasionally, such as visual novels, since it's cheaper than buying a lol game disc. Overall, though, being "good" at video games is a subjective thing. I have never won tournaments or been a world champion or anything. But when you play as much as I have, and as often as I do, it's hard not to attain some level of skill.

I moved my giant games list to a gist on my Github account, since it was just too large and no one reads the entire thing anyway. (Bonus points if you do.) Need to reformat it at some point:
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm either super quiet and polite, or pretty (c)rude and egregious. It depends on how much I know you and/or how drunk I am. I try to maintain an image of "good, quiet Asian" while in public, but I can relax when I'm away from polite society or with friends (or online). It's not about being an ass for the sake of trolling, per se; it's more about ignoring political correctness and other societal conventions that I find restrictive.

My hair is pretty long (almost to my waist). Combined with my sometimes-outlandish, sometimes-outrageous outfits, I'm fairly eye-catching. If I don't leave the house wearing at least one of these, it means I'm either sick or going to something that requires me to pretend I'm a guy:

-Boots (ankle, knee, or thigh high, I have 'em all)
-HIGH heels (don't own anything below 3 inches)
-Adorable sneakers
-Skinny jeans
-Leather anything (best material 2015)
-Pink things (favorite color!)

I do wear leather jackets often; I have a black one, a red one, a pink one, and a trench coat. San Francisco is a good place for leather fetishists like me.

A good portion of my shoe collection is viewable here:

That will give you an idea of the sorts of crazy things I might be wearing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I'm too cheap to actually pay for books these days, so I only read if they happen to fall into my hands. Mystery, scifi, political (think George Orwell), historical, and fantasy are all genres I enjoy.

Movies: I'm not much of a moviegoer, so my stuff is all old. My top 3 favorite movies of all time would probably be Wag the Dog, Unlimited Blade Works, and Enter the Dragon. Bruce Lee says: We're looking for emotional content.

Shows: I don't watch television. Not even on Hulu or whatever. TV is just a boring activity for me. The closest I will ever get to watching it is anime...but even then I'm not a regular viewer. I just obtain the entire season(s), put the episodes on my computer, and watch at my leisure. My favorite animes are, in no particular order, Baccano!, PSYCHO-PASS, Carnival Phantasm, Sword Art Online, Code Geass, Fate Zero, Steins;Gate, Gurren Lagann, Madoka, Darker Than Black, and YGOTAS (Yu-Gi-Oh! The Abridged Series).

Eventually struggled through Cowboy Bebop and found almost nothing worth remembering. Not sure why everyone loves it. The musical score is great... but that's about the height of the show.

Finally got around to starting The Wire, and it's an A+ Quality(tm) show. Loving the realism (how the characters don't feel like they're "acting") and the brutally honest depictions. Stuff is pretty cray, but it's real, yo.

Music: I'm immature. I know it, and I'm not afraid to admit it. My favorite music of all time, video game rap (nerdcore), is produced by Duane and BrandO. Look them up at your own peril. Other than that, I am also a fan of Jethro Tull, Muse, Queen, Nightwish, flumpool, and Tim Minchin. I don't really follow artists or bands, though... I just listen to random stuff, and if I like it, it goes on the playlist. So I have a lot of random things I like, but they don't fall under an easy label like "this band" or "that genre". As an example, two items on my playlist are Korobushka, the Russian folk song that inspired the Tetris theme, and Scatman (Ski-Ba-Bop-Ba-Dop-Bop). Completely unrelated. I enjoy music from many different video game series, as well. (can you say, SE-PHI-ROTH?)

Food: Oh, where to start? I like all kinds of food, and at the same time I'm a picky eater, if that makes sense. I like Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Vietnamese, Korean, Hawaiian, American, Italian, Cajun, Southern, seafood, vegetarian... if I had to pick any one thing that I like above all else, though, it would come down to either shrimp or clams/mussels (not that many places serve mussels). I just can't get enough of those. Almost anything tastes better if it's made with seafood. I wish I could afford it more to cook with, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:

1) The Internet. Particularly communications like instant messaging and e-mail. Talking to people face to face is so 1900s.
2) My favorite stuffed animal. It's a giant sunfish (Mola mola).
3) Video / PC games.
4) Mountain Dew / coffee. I need my caffeine to feel seriously awake. "Listen, bud, he's got caffeine addicted blood, here comes the coding man..."
5) Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels. And platform boots with 6 inch heels. And sneaker high heels. And cute/sexy sneakers. And Converse. And...(can you tell I have a shoe fetish?)
6) Skinny jeans, skirts, and panties. (Bras are mostly cosmetic - no one likes an ironing board.) I never knew how uncomfortable men's underwear was until I tried on panties for the first time, and the same for pants. Men's jeans are so...bulky. 1% spandex defies gravity or something.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Spin me back down the years, to the days of my youth
Draw the lacy black curtains, and shut out the whole truth
Spin me down, long ages, let them sing the song

Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels.

Music/anime. I have one or the other playing in my head almost 24/7. It's probably a mental disorder of some sort, but it gives me fantastic recall for random songs/lyrics. (I know it's important, I honestly do - but we're talking about practice, man...what're we talking about?)

Myself and the future - what I will look like when the hormonal changes are complete, how I'm going to save up enough money for my operation(s), do I really want them, what life will be like once I legally change my name and sex...

Girls. Why are women so pretty? I admire them, but I've had very few opportunities to interact with them. I wish it weren't so. There's no shortage of beautiful women in San Francisco, so I spend a lot of time admiring from afar and wondering what could come to be, but probably won't.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...writing code, watching anime, playing video / PC games, taking erotic photos, drinking, and/or just messing around on the Internet.

Usually I do these things alone. It's not because I want to, but I don't have very many friends. There's nowhere to go, either, when you're I'm just stuck at home. I'm bored a lot of Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There's plenty of things I could say here, but a lot of them fall under the "it would scare you away before you got to know me at all" category. So here's a tame one:

I have a shopping problem. It goes by various names, but the most common is probably "retail therapy". When I'm feeling down, I go out and buy something to make myself feel better, at least temporarily. Usually it's shoes. As much as I love footwear, I hate duplicates or pairs that are super similar. My collection has so much variety already, though, that there just isn't much I can add to it...
You should message me if
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is_interested? ? message.send : profiles.browse

You're actually willing to write more than 1 sentence...

You have a shoe fetish/collection. Shoes are just a big part of my life, so it's an automatic positive relationship starter.

You play/read/watch/cook/etc something in my lists above. I'm more interested if it's something I'm currently doing, but I love to get nostalgic about my favorite things from the past with anyone.

You understood all the memes and references I peppered throughout this profile. Just like only a ninja can sneak up on another ninja.