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25 San Francisco, CA Trans Woman

Trans Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:11pm
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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tldr: lonely trans girl with unrealistically high standards. Looking for friends and casual sex partners who are actually comfortable with trans. Tired of getting burned and abandoned.

I don't drive and have to use public transit, so going outside San Francisco is inconvenient for me. Not interested in long distance / e-relationships (except gaming).


OkCupid finally has a legit option for trans female, which is neat. (I hope you did pay attention to that, yeah?)

Hi, my name is Alex. I'm kind of nerdy and spend a lot of time playing video games, but also have a girly side and love shopping. Why am I on this site? Because it's very hard to find a date in World of Warcraft, let alone someone to come over and have a beer with...

I prefer female company, but being a lifetime gamer has taught me to roll with the guys. Not everyone enjoys discussing the latest shoe trends; some people just want to talk about class balance, or what's wrong with world PvP. And that's cool. Any social activity beats spending another day feeling alone on a planet with over a billion people.

In general, I'd describe myself as "submissive" and "femme". I like it when other people take initiative and tell me what to do. Indecisiveness is very high on my list of pet peeves.

Lastly, I'm not fond of the built-in communication stuff of OKCupid. Send me a message, and if we seem to be hitting it off, I'd prefer moving the conversation to Skype.
What I’m doing with my life
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Being long-term unemployed and struggling with depression/anxiety on the side. You know, same old existential crisis bullshit.

I seek out casual sex and friendship because I am too afraid to even dream about looking for "love". Low self-esteem has been a lifelong companion.

I graduated from Bloc ( ), a 12 week Web development apprenticeship that teaches you how to program (Ruby/Rails). So far this hasn't led to an actual programming job, but I'm still looking...

I spend my time watching movies or anime, playing video games, and thinking about my life (planning transition). Modding is also something I enjoy; used to spend a lot of time modding and playing Super Smash Bros. Brawl (not Smash 4), and a while ago I was really into The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. Had over 100 mods going by the time I quit, heh.

Melty Blood (Actress Again Current Code) also occupies my time when I don't have my Wii, but the game I currently spend 99% of time on is World of Warcraft. I quit back during Cataclysm and skipped all of Mists of Pandaria, so it's been both exciting and frustrating coming back during Warlords of Draenor.

It's absolutely true what they say: World of Warcraft is like cocaine for gamers. It's a tough habit to kick.

Outside of gaming, I enjoy shopping, primarily for shoes. Call it a passion or call it a fetish; either way, it's something I enjoy very much.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Fashion. Specifically, I'm proud of my shoe collection. Shoes are the foundation for an outfit, and then I build my way up. I do like hunting for a nice skirt or cute top to complete an outfit, but everything really centers on the shoes.

Shopping. Hunting for deals is one of my favorite pasttimes, regardless if I have money to spend on them or not. It's the thrill of the hunt, amid the plastic jungle.

Cooking. I have been making meals for my family for many years now... maybe eight years or even more, I don't really remember. It's one of those things that you get trained in as a kid, and then one day, it's your know? While a lot of my dishes are Asian, I can also do some typical American stuff, and I fuse cuisines too (necessity is the mother of invention). I know that not everyone loves Oriental flavors.

I am pretty good at academics, especially English, even if they're boring to me. Math and science are not my favorite subjects; I'm more liberal-arts-oriented, I guess? Somewhat ironically, English is the subject I dislike above all others. It is terrible to be good at something and not like to do it...but then again, it's not a good idea to pick what to do in life based solely on what you're good at.

I write code on and off, although I'm pretty rusty now. Check out my Github if you're so inclined:

Specifically, I used to write code for Multi User Dungeons (MUDs), using the language known as LPC. These days I program using Ruby (and Rails), and I think my level of mastery is about the same as with LPC, even though I've only spent a month or two learning it. Having a quality teacher makes learning so much easier.

Video games are another big passion of mine. I have been playing ever since I was a little kid, maybe 5 or 6 years old. I still remember my Dad's old, brick-sized GameBoy, which I would play with sometimes. Nowadays, due to a lack of funds, I generally stick to the retro gaming circuit...I also play Japanese or indie stuff occasionally, such as visual novels, since it's cheaper than buying a lol game disc.

Currently, despite still being poor, I'm back in World of Warcraft. It's been good to go back to an MMO, but it really does take over one's life...I often feel like WoW is more important than "irl", and that's a sad thought.

I moved my giant games list to a gist on my Github account, since it was just too large and no one reads the entire thing anyway. (Bonus points if you do.) Need to reformat it at some point:
The first things people usually notice about me
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At first I usually come off as quiet and polite, but once I'm more comfortable with people (or drunk), I become rather politically incorrect. I try to maintain an image of "good, quiet Asian" while in public, but I can relax when I'm away from polite society or with friends (or online).

I try to respect differences of opinion, but at the same time, I'm an irreverant person who has very little faith in anything. People have told me it is surprising to meet an Asian willing to speak up with contrarian ideas, but that's just how I am...I mean what I say and say what I mean. You feel me?

My hair is pretty long (almost to my waist). Combined with my sometimes-outlandish, sometimes-outrageous outfits, I tend to stand out in a crowd. I often wear rather high heels and/or leather and/or lots of pink stuff.

A good portion of my shoe collection is viewable here:

That will give you an idea of the sorts of crazy things I might be wearing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I'm too cheap to actually pay for books these days, so I only read if they happen to fall into my hands. Mystery, scifi, political (think George Orwell), historical, and fantasy are all genres I enjoy.

Movies: I'm not much of a moviegoer, so my stuff is all old. My top 3 favorite movies of all time would probably be Wag the Dog, Unlimited Blade Works, and Enter the Dragon. Bruce Lee says: We're looking for emotional content.

Shows: I don't watch television. Not even on Hulu or whatever. TV is just a boring activity for me. The closest I will ever get to watching it is anime...but even then I'm not a regular viewer. I just obtain the entire season(s), put the episodes on my computer, and watch at my leisure. My favorite animes are, in no particular order, Baccano!, PSYCHO-PASS, Carnival Phantasm, Sword Art Online, Code Geass, Fate Zero, Steins;Gate, Gurren Lagann, Madoka, Darker Than Black, and YGOTAS (Yu-Gi-Oh! The Abridged Series).

Eventually struggled through Cowboy Bebop and found almost nothing worth remembering. Not sure why everyone loves it. The musical score is great... but that's about the height of the show.

Finally got around to watching The Wire, and it's an A+ Quality(tm) show. Stuff is pretty cray, but it's real, yo. If all television was of the same caliber, I'd probably actually watch TV. It's the...I don't know, the intellectual caliber? I appreciate "thinking" shows.

No, I haven't watched Game of Thrones. Yes, I've read the books and kept up on the spoilers each week. Yes, I'll probably pirate it like everyone else does at some point.

Music: Video game rap (nerdcore) by Duane and BrandO. Prog/alt rock - Jethro Tull, Muse, Queen, Nightwish, Tim Minchin, Alan Parsons, Ashbury. Video game music. Occasional J-pop and nightcore. (carried away, by a moonlight shadow...blah blah blah)

I don't really follow artists or bands, though... I just listen to random stuff, and if I like it, it goes on the playlist. So I have a lot of random things I like, but they don't fall under an easy label like "this band" or "that genre". As an example, two items on my playlist are Korobushka, the Russian folk song that inspired the Tetris theme, and Scatman (Ski-Ba-Bop-Ba-Dop-Bop). Completely unrelated.

Food: Oh, where to start? I like all kinds of food, and at the same time I'm a picky eater, if that makes sense. I like Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Vietnamese, Korean, Hawaiian, American, Italian, Cajun, Southern, seafood, vegetarian... if I had to pick any one thing that I like above all else, though, it would come down to either shrimp or clams/mussels (not that many places serve mussels). I just can't get enough of those. Almost anything tastes better if it's made with seafood. I wish I could afford it more to cook with, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:

1) "Toys".
2) My favorite stuffed animal. It's a giant sunfish (Mola mola).
3) Videogames / PC games.
4) Mountain Dew / coffee. I NEED my caffeine to feel seriously awake.
5) Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels. And platform boots with 6 inch heels. And sneaker high heels. And cute/sexy sneakers. And Converse. And...(can you tell I have a shoe fetish?)
6) Skinny jeans and skirts. It is mind-blowing how bulky typical men's jeans are in comparison. I can't believe I had to suffer with them for so long.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Spin me back down the years, to the days of my youth
Draw the lacy black curtains, and shut out the whole truth
Spin me down, long ages, let them sing the song

Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels.

Music/anime. I have one or the other playing in my head almost 24/7. It's probably a mental disorder of some sort, but it gives me fantastic recall for random songs/lyrics. (I know it's important, I honestly do - but we're talking about practice, man...what're we talking about?)

Myself and the future - what I will look like when the hormonal changes are complete, how I'm going to save up enough money for my operation(s), do I really want them, what life will be like once I legally change my name and sex...

Girls. Why are women so pretty? I admire them, but I've had very few opportunities to interact with them. I wish it weren't so. There's no shortage of beautiful women in San Francisco, so I spend a lot of time admiring from afar and wondering what could come to be, but probably won't.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...doing the same stuff as other nights.

"Gee, Brain, what are we going to do tomorrow night?"

"The same thing we do every night, Pinky...try to take over the World of Warcraft."

(On a typical Friday night, I am playing World of Warcraft to take my mind off the fact that I'm playing an MMO solo to alleviate the loneliness of not having a social life.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There's plenty of things I could say here, but a lot of them fall under the "it would scare you away before you got to know me at all" category. So here's a tame one:

I have a shopping problem. It goes by various names, but the most common is probably "retail therapy". When I'm feeling down, I go out and buy something to make myself feel better, at least temporarily. Usually it's shoes. As much as I love footwear, I hate duplicates or pairs that are super similar. My collection has so much variety already, though, that there just isn't much I can add to it...

That doesn't stop me from going to the mall and drooling over the latest fashions, of course. It just means I take an hour to decide on something instead of 15 minutes.
You should message me if
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You are interested in hooking up for sex. I am particularly interested in exploring fantasies and fetishes with a "Mistress", "Master", or "sugar daddy". Good taste in shoes is a big bonus.

You are interested in hanging out to play games or have a beer. Or both at the same time. WoW/Smash Bros. players especially welcome.

You are willing to actually write a message longer than 1 sentence with proper spelling and grammar. It is quite rare.