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xvii_vili

23 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 12
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Student
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
I don't really have time in my life right now for dating or anything. Spending all of my time looking for a job (still) and just barely scraping together rent from odd under-the-table work. Feel free to message me anyway, though; I might respond if I find you interesting.

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Hi, it's Vince with Slap Chop, you're gonna be in a great mood all day........ sorry, let me try that again. I tend to have that on infinite repeat, ever since I figured out how to loop audio while working on mods for Super Smash Bros. Brawl: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCZ13jm7wQI

Hi, my name is Alex. If you want to skip the boring personality parts and get right to quick introductions, I'm kind of nerdy and spend a lot of time playing video games and watching anime. It's not that I hate socializing, far from it; I just haven't had many friends to hang out with (or better yet, leave the house and go do something) for a long time. It's slightly better now, but I could always use more company.

Anyway, blame OkCupid for not having a "T" category. I prefer to consider myself female; I'm MtF transgender, but currently am too poor to resume taking hormones. And forget about surgery - it's hard enough making rent each month...

People typically ask, "so that means you like guys, right?" Well, I do, but I also like girls. For that matter, I like girls significantly more than I like guys. But it's not that simple...basically, there are traits of both males and females that I like a lot, and I can fall for either a guy or a girl and be happy. But given a choice of two equally nice people? I'd go with the woman...

If I were to speak in cliche stereotypes, I'd be the "femme" partner in a relationship. I'm generally more passive and submissive, and I like others to take charge/make decisions and take care of me. That's not to say I can't be assertive and independent, but I prefer not to be. (That being said, I hate indecisiveness with a passion - it's incredibly frustrating to me when people can't make up their minds in a timely manner. Ain't nobody got time for that. So I try to be passive, yet cooperative...does that make sense?)

I generally don't spend time on this site unless I've got a new message to read or a great photo to upload - so send one! I'm looking for all kinds of people, since I'm lonely in all regards.

Right now I'm indefinitely living with my parents, so I'm not physically in SF most of the time...there are family issues going on, and I really need to get a job before I can support myself independently and move back. But I can still visit SF for a day or two if I have someone to hang out with, or whatever.
What I’m doing with my life
I have an obscure and fairly useless Associate of Arts Degree from College of San Mateo. "Database Microcomputer and Spreadsheet" or...something? I don't even know. As Vince would say, "You can't open this up - it's useless, forget about it!"

Right now, I'm just trying to get a job and support myself while I try to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life (other than finishing transitioning). I graduated from Bloc ( http://www.bloc.io ), a 12 week Web development apprenticeship that teaches you how to program. With this knowledge, I'll have a much better chance at scoring a Real Job(tm) than just mucking around bagging groceries at Safeway or whatever. (That was the plan, anyway - so far no job has been forthcoming.)

Other than that, I used to attend San Francisco State University, but I dropped out in November 2012 because it was boring. My original reason for going to college was always to get away from my parents, anyway. It was never about getting an education or finding a good job... those were secondary concerns. In the end, I simply couldn't make myself care about things I did not enjoy (e.g. actually going to dull classes).

I currently spend my free time watching movies and/or anime, drinking (if someone else provides, too poor to buy for myself), modding and playing Super Smash Bros. Brawl, and acquiring rare/unusual clothing/accessories/shoes. Alternatively, I play Melty Blood (fighting game) or Ys series (action-adventure) if I don't have access to my Wii. I had been playing Deus Ex: Human Revolution, but didn't feel like replaying it once I finished the game one time...it's a good game and all, but my playthrough was exhaustive and uncovered all the secrets/achievements/etc, so I want to give it some time before I play again.

I ended up leaving Star Wars: The Old Republic, since it just wasn't doing it for me anymore. Picked up Guild Wars 2 again, because it's more suitable as a "single player MMO". Not having any subscription is also a nice perk. The game has definitely evolved a lot since I put it down a year ago... I still think on the whole it's mediocre, but it's got some nice ideas anyway. (And PAINTERLY graphics!)
I’m really good at
Fashion. Call me vain, but I like my outfits, and anyone that doesn't has a problem. (I belong to Elitists Anonymous.)

Shopping. Hunting for deals is one of my favorite pasttimes, regardless if I have money to spend on them or not. It's the thrill of the hunt, amid the plastic jungle.

Cooking. I have been making meals for my family for many years now... maybe eight years or even more, I don't really remember. It's one of those things that you get trained in as a kid, and then one day, it's your responsibility...you know? While a lot of my dishes are Asian, I can also do some typical American stuff, and I fuse cuisines too (necessity is the mother of invention). I know that not everyone loves Oriental flavors.

I am pretty good at academics, especially English, even if they're boring to me. Math and science are not my favorite subjects; I'm more liberal-arts-oriented, I guess? Somewhat ironically, English is the subject I dislike above all others. It is terrible to be good at something and not like to do it...but then again, it's not a good idea to pick what to do in life based solely on what you're good at. "If you do that, you're just a machine - a phenomenon." (Anyone who says you can't learn life lessons from anime should watch Fate/Zero.) Not enjoying life is the quickest way to cut it short.

I write code on and off, and I think I'm decent at it. Check out my Github if you're so inclined: https://github.com/cfong57

Specifically, I used to write code for Multi User Dungeons (MUDs), using the language known as LPC. These days I program using Ruby (and Rails), and I think my level of mastery is about the same as with LPC, even though I've only spent a month or two learning it. Having a quality teacher makes learning so much easier.

Video games are another big passion of mine. I have been playing ever since I was a little kid, maybe 5 or 6 years old. I still remember my Dad's old, brick-sized GameBoy, which I would play with sometimes. Nowadays, due to a lack of funds, I generally stick to the retro gaming circuit...I also play Japanese or indie stuff occasionally, such as visual novels, since it's cheaper than buying a lol game disc. Overall, though, being "good" at video games is a subjective thing. I have never won tournaments or been a world champion or anything. But when you play as much as I have, and as often as I do, it's hard not to attain some level of skill.

I moved my giant games list to a gist on my Github account, since it was just too large and no one reads the entire thing anyway. (Bonus points if you do.) Need to reformat it at some point: https://gist.github.com/cfong57/6483202
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm either super quiet and polite, or pretty (c)rude and egregious. It depends on how much I know you and/or how drunk I am. I try to maintain an image of "good, quiet Asian" while in public, but I can relax when I'm away from polite society or with friends (or online). It's not about being an ass for the sake of trolling, per se; it's more about ignoring political correctness and other societal conventions that I find restrictive.

My hair is fairly long, but not yet back to waist-level. Combined with my sometimes-outlandish, sometimes-outrageous outfits, I'm fairly eye-catching. If I don't leave the house wearing at least one of these, it means I'm either sick or going to something that requires me to pretend I'm a guy:

-Boots (ankle, knee, or thigh high, I have 'em all)
-HIGH heels (don't own anything below 3 inches)
-Adorable sneakers
-Boots and adorable sneakers with HIGH heels
-Skirts
-Skinny jeans
-Pantyhose/stockings/tights
-Leather anything (best material of all time - of all time!)
-Pink things (favorite color!)

Panties and bras are a given, but if you can see my lingerie, I'm probably unconscious in a ditch somewhere. Call an ambulance instead of looking me up on OkCupid.

I do wear leather jackets often; I have a black one, a red one, a pink one, and a trench coat. San Francisco is a good place for leather fetishists like me.

A good portion of my shoe collection is viewable here: http://puush.me/XVIIVili/Gallery
That will give you an idea of the sorts of crazy things I might be wearing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Honestly, I don't read anymore. "I don't have time" - even visual novels, which are easier to read, I feel are too much effort. I did used to read a lot in the past, though...fantasy, history, mystery, comedy, etc.

Movies: I'm not much of a moviegoer, so my stuff is all old. My top 3 favorite movies of all time would probably be Wag the Dog, Unlimited Blade Works, and Enter the Dragon. Bruce Lee says: We're looking for emotional content.

Shows: I don't watch television. Not even on Hulu or whatever. TV is just a boring activity for me. The closest I will ever get to watching it is anime...but even then I'm not a regular viewer. I just obtain the entire season(s), put the episodes on my computer, and watch at my leisure. My favorite animes are, in no particular order, Baccano!, PSYCHO-PASS, Carnival Phantasm, Sword Art Online, Code Geass, Fate Zero, Steins;Gate, Gurren Lagann, Madoka, Darker Than Black, and YGOTAS (Yu-Gi-Oh! The Abridged Series).

I'm trying to struggle through Cowboy Bebop, but honestly I don't think it's very good. Not sure why everyone else seems to love it.

(A friend recently convinced me to watch The Wire, and it's pretty good... but lol, hour long episodes...)

Music: I'm immature. I know it, and I'm not afraid to admit it. My favorite music of all time, video game rap (nerdcore), is produced by Duane and BrandO. Look them up at your own peril. Other than that, I am also a fan of Jethro Tull, Queen, Nightwish, flumpool, and Tim Minchin. I don't really follow artists or bands, though... I just listen to random stuff, and if I like it, it goes on the playlist. So I have a lot of random things I like, but they don't fall under an easy label like "this band" or "that genre". As an example, two items on my playlist are Korobushka, the Russian folk song that inspired the Tetris theme, and Scatman (Ski-Ba-Bop-Ba-Dop-Bop). Completely unrelated. I enjoy music from many different video game series, as well. (can you say, SE-PHI-ROTH?)

Food: Oh, where to start? I like all kinds of food, and at the same time I'm a picky eater, if that makes sense. I like Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Vietnamese, Korean, Hawaiian, American, Italian, Cajun, Southern, seafood, vegetarian... if I had to pick any one thing that I like above all else, though, it would come down to either shrimp or clams/mussels (not that many places serve mussels). I just can't get enough of those. Almost anything tastes better if it's made with seafood. I wish I could afford it more often...fun to cook with, too.
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

1) The Internet. Particularly communications like instant messaging and e-mail. Talking to people face to face is so 1900s.
2) My favorite stuffed animal. It's a giant sunfish (Mola mola).
3) Video / PC games.
4) Mountain Dew / coffee / alcohol. They mess up my digestive system, but I drink them anyway. "Listen, bud, he's got caffeine addicted blood, here comes the coding man..."
5) Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels. And platform boots with 6 inch heels. And sneaker high heels. And cute/sexy sneakers. And Converse. And...(can you tell I have a shoe fetish?)
6) Skinny jeans, skirts, and panties. (Bras are mostly cosmetic - no one likes an ironing board.) I never knew how uncomfortable men's underwear was until I tried on panties for the first time, and the same for pants. Men's jeans are so...bulky. 1% spandex defies gravity or something.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Zankei ni shosu. Don't even worry about paying the ferryman as you cross over into Hell. ~Nanaya

Shoes. Especially boots. And high heels. And boots with high heels.

Leather/latex catsuits and titanium wedding rings. BLACK titanium, though. It's an important distinction.

Music/anime. I have one or the other playing in my head almost 24/7. It's probably a mental disorder of some sort, but it gives me fantastic recall for random songs/lyrics. (I know it's important, I honestly do - but we're talking about practice, man...what're we talking about?)

Myself and the future - what I will look like when the hormonal changes are complete, how I'm going to save up enough money for my operation(s), do I really want them, what life will be like once I legally change my name and sex...

Girls. Why are women so pretty? I admire them, but I've had very few opportunities to interact with them. I wish it weren't so. There's no shortage of beautiful women in San Francisco, so I spend a lot of time admiring from afar and wondering what could come to be, but probably won't.
On a typical Friday night I am
...writing code, watching anime, playing video / PC games, taking erotic photos, drinking, and/or just messing around on the Internet.

Usually I do these things alone. It's not because I want to, but I don't have very many friends. There's nowhere to go, either, when you're poor...so I'm just stuck at home. I'm bored a lot of Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There's plenty of things I could say here, but a lot of them fall under the "it would scare you away before you got to know me at all" category. So here's a tame one:

I have a shopping problem. It goes by various names, but the most common is probably "retail therapy". When I'm feeling down, I go out and buy something to make myself feel better, at least temporarily. Usually it's shoes. As much as I love footwear, I hate duplicates or pairs that are super similar. My collection has so much variety already, though, that there just isn't much I can add to it...
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
is_interested? ? message.send : profiles.browse

You have a shoe fetish/collection. I'd be especially interested if you wear between sizes 7 and 10, because then we could maybe trade pairs, or at least try on each other's stuff.

You play/read/watch/cook/etc something in my lists above. I'm more interested if it's something I'm currently doing, but I love to get nostalgic about my favorite things from the past with anyone.

You think I'm cute or hot or sexy or etc, like and such as. I'm a sucker for compliments. But please try to make it original. I've heard enough cheesy one-line come-ons to last a lifetime.

You understood all the memes and references I peppered throughout this profile. Just like only a ninja can sneak up on another ninja.