Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


50 M Tucson, AZ

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:02pm
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
I'd describe myself as thoughtful, sincere, passionate, and affectionate. I enjoy independent films, the theater, visual arts, ethnic food, weekend trips, chess, poetry, and classical music. (At one time I played the trumpet professionally.) I've lived in Canada, California, and Georgia, and now teach at the University of Arizona. Living a meaningful, authentic, and spiritual life is important to me, and I hope to share my life with someone for whom it is important too.

I'd like to meet someone who is genuine, intelligent, open-minded, eclectic, spiritual (yet down to earth), cultured (but not pretentious), life-loving, warm, affectionate, and sensual. I'm drawn to people with aspirations, who are passionate about something.

I think what's primary is that we like who each other is as a person, and who we are when we are with that person. From that basis of enjoying each other's presence, everything else flows ....

I am open-minded, gentle, and goofy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying to discover computer algorithms that make a difference in computational biology and ultimately improve human health, teach my students new ways of thinking, use my talents to create something of beauty in the world, and practice the art of living.
I’m really good at
I'm sometimes able to see the simple in the complex.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall, and tend to look serious until I flash my goofy smile, which hopefully is disarming and helps people realize I'm friendlier and less serious than they might expect. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some favorite books include: Wabi-Sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets and Philosophers, Leonard Koren; Siddhartha, Herman Hesse; The Art of Loving, Eric Fromm; The Captain's Verses, Pablo Neruda; Zen and the Art of Archery, Eugen Herrigel; The Dying Earth, Jack Vance; Dune, Frank Herbert.

Movies I really like (in no particular order): Blade Runner; Jacob's Ladder; The Bicycle Thief; Me, You, and Everyone We Know; New York: I Love You; Betty Blue; The Imaginarium of Dr. Parnassus; Magnolia; The Sacrifice; Blue Velvet; Solaris; Sin City; The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo; The Fountain.

I couldn't live without music. In classical music, I love: Brahms symphonies; Leos Janacek, String Quartet "Intimate Letters"; Alban Berg, Violin Concerto "For the Memory of an Angel"; Beethoven, Violin Concerto; Henri Tomasi, Trumpet Concerto; Arnold Schoenberg, "Transfigured Night"; Richard Strauss, "Metamorphosen" and "Last Songs". In contemporary music, I enjoy: Dead Can Dance, "Into the Labyrinth"; Chet Baker, "Let's Get Lost"; Decoder Ring, "Somersault"; Peter Gabriel, "So"; Beatles, "White Album".

Generally I go for ethnic food in tasty hole-in-the-walls, like: Thai (Karuna's), Indian (Shere Punjab), and Mexican (Paco's). Some not-so-hole-in-the-walls I really like are Govinda's (especially their Sunday brunch), the B-Line on Fourth Avenue, and the Cup in Hotel Congress. I have a weakness for good bread and hearty, fruity pastries.
The six things I could never do without
I would wither without beauty, kindness, affection, inspiration, meaningful spiritual practice, and feeling I am contributing to society.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I sometimes ponder what the underlying nature of the world is beyond any observer. I wonder if any technology we are now creating will ever be of as much value, or as much appreciated a hundred years from now, as a Brahms symphony. I'm curious whether one can really become a better person, or if essentially all one can do is to more fully be what one already is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday night (if I'm by myself) I like to enjoy a nice meal, be restful, and reflect on the week, maybe sipping a steamer later at Ike's and writing in a journal.

It would be a pleasure (if we were together in a committed relationship) to close the week by reading a good book to each other, talking, going to bed early (not able to keep our hands and mouths to ourselves), and sleeping really well .... Saturday morning we wake up refreshed and excited about what we're going to do that day and enjoy together that night!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm no more sure of myself than anyone else (and can live comfortably within that uncertainty).
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Send me a note if you'd like to meet and see how we blend.