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45 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 37–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 10
Straight, Sapiosexual
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm enthusiastic. I don't do things halfway. I have a zest for life that I hope is infectious. I love to travel and have trouble picturing myself with someone who doesn't. But I'm very comfortable heading off on my own as well. I love to try new things and abhor a rut-- new restaurants, new countries, new neighborhoods, new activities.

I see the funny in the darkness. Perhaps a little twisty, I can laugh at the macabre. Indeed, sometimes that's the only way to get through.

I grew up in the South, but I got to NY as fast as I could (I had a poster of the skyline on my wall in high school). I've been here 14 years, and I'm still madly in love with the city. The Chrysler Building still takes my breath away when the sun hits it just right.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
By day, I'm an advertising executive in interactive strategy. On the weekends, I write when I can make the time (I'm sporadically working on a play). Creativity is important to me-- it fuels me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I absolutely love to cook. And people tell me I'm good at it. (Haven't poisoned anyone yet.) I like to think I've overcome my Southern heritage, but there's a hostess gene in me that I didn't escape. I over serve for every occasion.

I'm also really good at learning new things ( I guess that means I'm good at letting myself be bad at something first). The 2 things I'm currently terrible at are speaking Spanish and surfing. On the plus side, my scuba diving seems to be improving (my first dive master threatened to put me in remedial air class).
The first things people usually notice about me
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Strangers call me "Red" a lot, so I'm guessing it's the hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Poisonwood Bible, Pride and Prejudice, A Home at the End of the World, The Hours, A Room of One's Own, To the Lighthouse, Jane Eyre, Orlando, Motherless Brooklyn, Fortress of Solitude, All The King's Men, End of the Affair, A Good Man Is Hard to Find, Power and the Glory, Motorcycle Diaries (especially while traveling through Peru), Assassination Vacation, Unbearable Lightness of Being (but not really other Kundera), High Fidelity, Fever Pitch (for a month I thought I was an Arsenal fan), Love in the Time of Cholera, Interpreter of Maladies-- this list gets lengthened constantly as there's always a book in my bag for long subway rides. And it's an unfair question since I studied literature.

I'm a theater junkie-- will see anything. There's magic in a live production. Especially love Stoppard, Wasserstein, Williams, Henley, Margulies, Chekhov, Shakespeare, Miller, Kushner, Kander & Ebb, Sondheim, Larson.

Musicwise, my tastes are eclectic (and I'm often a little embarrassed when someone plays my music on random-- you never know what will show up). Love Elvis Costello, U2, Pixies, Pogues, anyone singing Leonard Cohen (Except Leonard Cohen), Jenny Lewis, The Killers, Muse, old REM, Better than Ezra (I'm a southern girl at heart), Marcia Ball, Concrete Blonde, the Cure, the Smiths, Jane's Addiction, Liz Phair.

I particularly love Mexican (authentic Mex, Texmex, and all-time fave New Mexican, but not so much California burritos the size of my head stuffed with rice), also New Orleans crawfish etoufee and gumbo followed by a whiskey bread pudding, eggs benedict with ripe Jersey tomatoes, Low Country shrimp and grits, a really rare steak, pâté, cheese of all kinds, extra crispy shoestring fries, Two Boots pizza, Joe's Shanghai soup dumplings, and a perfectly ripe peach.

I admit that I don't see movies nearly as often as I would like. But some favorites include Moonstruck, Fargo, Moonrise Kingdom, Juno, Kill Bill (1&2), Philadelphia Story, Secretary, Intermission, His Girl Friday, Rent, The Brothers McMullen, In Bruges, Annie Hall, A Walk on the Moon, Raising Arizona, Pulp Fiction, Barcelona, Hannah and Her Sisters, Crimes of the Heart, Volver, Across the Universe, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, All About My Mother, Moulin Rouge, Almost Famous, Chasing Amy, and Adam's Rib. I will also see (and mostly enjoy) any mediocre surf movie (that should probably go in the "most private" section if this profile).

And Sports Night was the best written TV show ever. Then Six Feet Under and The Wire. Update: I have just discovered Homeland and House of Cards- brilliant!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
*iPhone (there's an app for everything)
*Books (I have a huge stack of to-be-read books)
*Wursthof chef's knife (for cooking, of course, not homicide)
*Really strong sunscreen (because I love the beach, but it doesn't love me back)
*My passport
Anything else, I can live without or buy when I get there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The island of ocean trash, my next vacation, the cure for insomnia...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully doing something spontaneous and fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a weakness for trashy mysteries, but I try to read them only when I travel. Before I could delete them from my Nook, I used to mail them to my stepmother when I finished.
You should message me if
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You have an adventurous spirit and can make me laugh.

You are assertive, and you know what you want. You are passionate and creative enough to keep me surprised and delighted.

And extra points if you are willing to fly off for a weekend on a moment's notice.