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38 Durham, NC Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 13
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 2" (1.57m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Christianity and laughing about it
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I always hate writing these things. They ought to teach how to compose these things in school (well, maybe they do now - the internet was still in diapers when I graduated). It's almost like a cover letter for social networks. And I've always found cover letters to be... inane. I'd much rather see a nice resume with just the facts, lol. So, in that vein:

I'm a history nut. I'm particularly fond of Ancient Egypt. I gobble up all I can on 15th century Italy. I'm fascinated by Regency England. The transition from old Victorian to modern life in the 1910s intrigues me.

I'm a sci-fi geek. I can quote the Star Wars trilogy from beginning to end. My ring tone is the TARDIS. I've yet to see something by Joss I don't love. But I also love fantasy. Who doesn't enjoy Tolkien or Dresden?

I've got an unhealthy obsession with Hello Kitty. I think cats are adorable demigods.

I'm a political junkie. I'm a proud bleeding heart liberal, from a long line of politically active Democrats (just ran across some listings from the 1910s/20s about my great-grandfather serving the DNC in his precinct). I (and I blush to admit it) registered Republican at 18 as a form of rebellion. I did quickly see the error of my ways, but not before getting Newt's signature on "Contact with America." We all have our youthful indiscretions, though. I try to use my 16-20 year old self as a bridge to the other side... Admittedly not had much success with that.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working in education. Living the domestic life. Wondering what happened and when did I become a responsible thirtysomething adult?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a girly girl (pink is my favorite color)
Putting things in order (touch OCD)
Generally being a nerd.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
According to my friends, my smile.

Also, my hair, I have long blond hair that catches a lot of attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books: The Amelia Peabody series by Elizabeth Peters, Good Omens, everything Jane Austen wrore, same withThomas Hardy, Emily of New Moon trilogy, Hunger Games trilogy, the Dresden Files, Pillars of the Earth/World Without End, and the Kushiel's Legacy series.

Favorite movies would be the Star Wars trilogy (the ORIGINAL, but I'm holding out hope for JJ Abrams - lenseflare not withstanding), most of the Jane Austen screen adaptations, The Mummy, A Knight's Tale, The Fifth Element, Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog, The Avengers, Hunger Games, The Aristocats, and The Princess Bride.

My TV watching is very scattered - we don't have cable anymore (why don't they let you purchase only the half dozen channels you'd watch??) But ones I'll find some way to watch are Doctor Who, Downton Abbey, Sherlock, or Mad Men (but I'm behind on that). (see above about cable, I just want BBC, AMC and PBS)

My music tastes range from Alternative, Techno, Classic Rock, Folk, & Classic music. My favorite artists are Nirvana, U2, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, The Decemberists, Arctic Monkeys, Menomena, Bjork, Dead Sara, Listz, Gershwin, Bach, & Beethoven (but he makes me peevish*).

Foods - anything chocolate! If you give me a white chocolate raspberry truffle I'll follow you anywhere ;) On a more nutritious note, I love pan-Asian cuisine - pho ga, paneer makhani, vegetarian sushi, and pad see eww being among my favorites.

* If you get this reference *yay* if you don't, go stream "A Room with a View." (the Helena Bonham-Carter one).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) my nook 2) chocolate 3) my kitties 4) bathtubs 5) having my hair played with, & 6) my awesome fiancé.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

Obscure historical facts, people, places.

What exactly my cat(s) is(are) trying to do.

How to convince someone to take me on an all-expenses-paid cruise down the Nile...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying coffee with friends, relaxing on the couch with a good book, going away for the weekend... it varies - widely.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've gotten more and more reserved over the years... so... hmm... maybe just how hard it is for me to truly let someone "in". I'm an extrovert with a bit of social anxiety. I love hanging out with folks and enjoy company, but I'm apt to be shy around new people.
You should message me if
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You're interested in something I wrote. Seriously, it's not a hard question.

Oh, and you must have an opinion on The Oxford Comma.