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42 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 20
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I love food, love smells, love unique & significant experiences. I don't feel things lightly. People generally perceive me as strong and independent, which are both good and true, but I love having my soft side brought out by another. I'm a sensualist at heart... good physical connection is one of life's sweetest pleasures.

I got lucky with family - artist-photographer dad and traveling-anthropologist mom. We tend to talk about social-change issues, environmental justice & living simply, peak oil, bike-activism, the intersection of science and spirit, origins of the universe, photography, the roots of language, good satire, etc. We're tight.

I adore my sweet Mission neighborhood, but need the woods, hills, and ocean to keep me breathing properly. The mountains were a big part of my childhood, so going there feels like going home.
It also appears we're a well-traveled lot on OKC, so I won't go into my years of living abroad. Stories of hitching in Morocco and hiking in Patagonia happily traded for your own, however.

The truth is, I love people. I love their stories and histories, and never tire of studying the human mind and heart. I'm drawn to places where pretense drops away and people are obliged to be in the present moment - whether it's raw, frightening, joyful, or profoundly peaceful. Maybe you've experienced it in meditation, or on a rock face, or at a birth or death...heck maybe it's just your standard MO which would be pretty amazing.

Throwing a massive, sweaty dance-party is also something of a vocation - it is one of my absolute FAVORITE things to see people meeting and connecting! And sharing food. And dancing their asses off. Magic happens when people get physical together!
What I’m doing with my life
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Evolving. PhD-related writing & studying. Resting. Fits of passion. Resting again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Impersonations and imitating accents (sometimes involuntarily). Singing harmony. Baking - I was a pastry chef for a long time (kind of still am, at heart...)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My beard, unfortunately.
Nahh...I'm kidding. It's actually my hunchback.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: Derrick Jensen, Chalmers Johnson, Jill Bolte Taylor, Eduardo Galeano, Joanna Macy, Richard Feynman, David Sedaris, Jerry Mander, Naomi Klein, Dickens (Charles, not Gilbert), Thomas Berry. I read mostly nonfiction - especially biographies.
But I LOVE quality children's books. The kind with pictures. I will read them aloud to you.

Movies: Sling Blade was one of my favorites - so unfailingly sweet and poignant. Raising Arizona. Harold and Maude. Her. Tommy Boy. Spirited Away. Half Nelson. This is Spinal Tap. Star Wars (it goes without saying). The Station Agent. Animals Are Beautiful People. 9 to 5. The Crying Game. The Lives of Others....

Music: oh this is hard...Playlist from yesterday included Black Sabbath, Kanye, Zero 7, Maktub (Reggie Watts' old band, check 'em out if you haven't), Chance the Rapper, Metallica, Phoenix, i am jen, Nick Drake, Empire of the Sun, Macklemore, New Order, Colin Hay, K'naan, Ice Cube, The Goats, Hall & Oates, Air, Imogene Heap, Sean Hayes, Black Eyed Peas, Jose Gonzales, and the Shins. Among others.
And this lovely thing-

Food? "Bring it!" to almost everything...better if it's organic, humanely cultivated and lovingly made. Good pastry is at the top of the list.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a sense of smell (really important)
open-hearted communication
the mountains
my bike
dessert (that's the sweet kind, not the place with hot sand)
meth (wtf did she just say..?)
laughing 'till my stomach hurts
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Environmental Justice. Archetypal themes. Privilege, race, & gender. What we're doing it all came to be, and what we need to be doing to take care of it presently. Pastry recipes. How digital media is changing us as a species. Dreams, from a more or less Jungian perspective.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating and drinking, laughing and thinking, talking and resting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Oh lots of stuff.... I'm not thrilled with my vanities and insecurities, but I keep them out in the open for those with a sincere interest.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 32–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You've settled into yourself, warts and all.
You connect with your heart, but have a sharp mind.
You're engaged in finding what's true for you.
You need to be physically active to stay happy.

You're not content to live on the surface of things, and would frankly rather pound a nail into your forehead than be stuck in an eye-glazing conversation all evening.

Now take this with a grain of salt...because I'm basically serious, but you gotta have a sense of humor about this stuff: You've weathered some hard times, lost faith, cursed God, found God again (or some other kind of meaning in the cosmos), and are moving forward with curiosity. I guess what I mean is, there's more to you than the oft-encountered "Bay Area bright n' shiny."