I enjoy my life quite well, but I'm looking for a woman to share it with. With my alternative lifestyle, that's a bit of a challenge. I'm a crossdresser. Why do I do it? Simply put, I have a feminine side that needs to be expressed. It's part of who I am. And I love it!

Why am I mentioning this up front? Because some women have a problem with this lifestyle, and it can make or break a relationship.

No, I'm not gay -- not that there's anything wrong with that. Anybody who thinks otherwise is paying too much attention to stereotypes. (Check out my Journal for more on this.)

Most of my feminine wardrobe (size 16) consists of everyday casual dresses (nothing provocative -- well, not very). When I come home from work, I throw on a casual dress or a set of feminine sweats to help me unwind. I like to crossdress and go out occasionally in the evening on weekends. When I'm not in a dress, I look like any average guy. (We crossdressers are everywhere. Your co-worker or neighbor may be one.)

I'm usually quiet. I tend to be an introvert. While I enjoy the company of a small group of people from time to time, I like having my own space. According to the Myers-Briggs test, I have an ISTJ personality, and the Myers-Briggs description of ISTJ people is almost a perfect description of me. I'm very independent-minded and do my own thing, and tend not to be too worried about what people think about me. (Read my Journal about this too.) So, I have never felt troubled by my desire to crossdress or thought there was something wrong with me. I'm analytical, thoughtful, and have a calm temperment. I'm also gentle, down-to-earth, very open-minded, and loyal.

To sum it up, I'm an introvert, independent-minded, atheist crossdresser. Pretty unique, don't you think?

My alternative lifestyle aside, I lead a rather settled, laid-back life. My other main activities are movies, reading, and shopping. These are what I do during most of my leisure time. On a typical weeknight, I'll be either on my computer, reading, or watching TV. On the weekend, I'm usually out seeing a movie or shopping. I also enjoy museums, travel and sightseeing. However, I'm not a sports fan.

Every year for the past several years, I've gone on a far-off sightseeing trip, either overseas or out west. The focus may either be history or nature's wonders. I've traveled all over the U.S., including Alaska. I've been to France, Italy, Austria, Hungary, Czech Republic, England, Mexico, Switzerland and Egypt. I have many places to go on my travel "bucket list", including China, Africa, India, Peru and Australia, just to name a few.

My employment provides me with a great salary and benefits. I work as a law librarian, which goes well with my geeky side. I'm financially secure. The hours are about 9-5, and I'm not a workaholic.

I'm usually able to find something to do, be it reading, shopping, going to a movie, or sightseeing. It might be planned some time in advance, or it might be a last-minute, spur-of-the-moment choice. Living in the city helps. I enjoy DC. There's plenty to do and it's easy to get around.

I like the occasional visit to the country, but country life is not for me.

I don't mean to brag, but I'm guessing the first thing people notice about me is my youthful appearance. Even though I'm in my late 40s, most people think I look like I'm in my early 30s -- and that's without makeup. Maybe it's the fact I still have most of my hair, no gray hair, and a boyish face. At a party a few years ago, some 70s music was playing and someone thought I was too young to remember the 70s. Also, I stay fit but without being a gym fanatic.

So, don't let my age bother you.

(a) Books: History. I've read "Guns, Germs and Steel," "Day of Empire," "Heaven on Earth: The Rise and Fall of Socialism," "God is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything" (Christopher Hitchens), "50 Reasons People Give For Believing in a God", and "The March of Folly."

(b) Movies: True Lies, Contact, To Wong Foo, Better Than Chocolate, Some Like It Hot, Imagine Me And You

(c) Rock. Can't stop dancing to that 70s and 80s music.

(d) Television: The Simpsons, Person of Interest, Castle, NCIS, Mythbusters, Vegas (love the 1960s vintage dresses the ladies wear), Turner Classic Movies.

Most of my movies and TV shows are comedy, action, spy thrillers, political thrillers, or science fiction. I'm also a Trekkie.

Being in touch with my feminine side. I love vintage dresses and sweaters as well as sleepwear with ruffles.

I also think life without history books and computers would be a bit boring.

Watching TV or reading. When I go out for the evening, it's usually on a Saturday night.

After divulging my crossdressing, what's left for there to be private about? Well, I took the OK Cupid "The What Kind of Girl are You" Test, just for kicks. It concluded I am a "Wonderful Girl." Now, isn't that special? (LOL) I also took the Lolita Fashion test. Check out my results.

You're a very open-minded, non-religious woman interested in a long-term relationship with a guy in touch with his feminine side. (Since I'm an atheist, I don't think a relationship with a religious woman would work out.) Now ladies, there are certain advantages to having a crossdresser for a boyfriend. I'm certainly not one of those guys obsessed with being Mr. Macho. I'll never complain about you taking too much time with makeup, hair or getting dressed. I'll always enjoy shopping. We can sit at home and watch movies in our comfy robes. Last but certainly not least, you'll have the joy and fun of dressing me up.

P.S. No men please. You're just wasting your time.