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38 F Ottawa, Ontario, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:55am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Might want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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"The “ideal woman”, who wakes up looking like an underwear model, who is satisfied with her role as housewife and helpmeet but remains passionate enough to hold a man’s interest, who looks “bangable” but never actually bangs, because that would make her a slut, is almost entirely fictional. She exists mainly as a standard against which every real women can be held and found wanting." - The New Statesman

Made it this far? Good. I'm a femme feminist. I wear things on my head. I dress for me. I'll tell you when you're out of line. I hold no truck with rudeness. I have very high self-esteem. With that comes high standards.

I am not humourless. I'm kind of dorky about things like fashion & records & music & comedy & plays. I love the things that I love fiercely & passionately. All of my feelings are big.

While not the sporting type, I'm willing to try anything a few times to see if I like it. I'm into hiking (really, can't we just call it "going for a walk"?), and I really like riding my bike. I love to go to the ballpark.

I am currently looking for people who can handle the fact that I am my own primary partner. It sounds like a jerk thing to say, but at this stage in my life, my work & my life plans are my #1 priority. Not that I don't want people along for the ride, but if it comes down to hard choices I am always going to choose me.

I've decided I'm not going to send the first message anymore. If you think I'm cute or interesting the best way to get my attention is with a sincere message. (Random one-liners or sexual come-ons get immediately deleted. However, sincere messages, even if I'm not interested, will always get a polite response.)
What I’m doing with my life
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I work for myself to pay the bills, I play with my friends to lighten the mood, & I make things with my hands to make me happy. I go to more theatre than is strictly necessary, & I like a lot of down time.

As a catalytic entrepreneur, I can't seem to stop starting businesses. If you are a creative professional, I might want to work with you, so drop a note!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being cute, riding my bike, cooking for two, long conversations that spin off in every direction, organizing stuff.

I am learning to be a better writer—I have just published an eBook, and it's getting some good reviews! My blog is gaining popularity. Things are happening.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I seem like the kind of girl you want to talk to. By which I mean random strangers tend to tell me their life stories. Apparently I have one of those faces people trust.

Luckily I like hearing their stories. Let's call it research.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am currently reading Made To Stick by Chip and Dan Heath, which is helping me think about ideas differently, & some Napoleon Hill for research. I can't remember the last time I've been to the movies since I spend all my money on attending live theatre. I've been watching Scrubs, I'm obsessed with Songza playlists at the moment, & it seems like I can't eat enough clementines.

I listen to music all day at work, which is pretty awesome. Currently in pretty heavy rotation are Low, CocoRosie, Destroyer, Caribou, and Colin Meloy. Hawksley Workman is my emotional kryptonite. My tastes have been swinging unabashedly pop lately, but since I haven't been tuned into the pop scene for two decades I couldn't tell you who I like; I am, however, fully capable of singing along to certain songs at the top of my lungs. If I had to pick favourites, though, they would include The Mountain Goats, Jonathan Richman, Aesop Rock, & Black Mountain.

Favourite authors are Margaret Atwood & Douglas Coupland. I'm happiest when I'm reading more than one book. I like too many movies to list but I especially like Yellow Submarine and Casablanca.

I like food. I was a vegan for four years but I'm not anymore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. So cliche, but my laptop—I'm self-employed, so I literally couldn't do without it.
2. Sleep—I value my sleep very highly, & when it's compromised I get very, very grumps.
3. Podcasts—I'm a personal development junkie, & podcasts are great to listen while I'm in transit.
4. Books—A voracious reader from a very young age. If you don't read we probably don't have anything in common.
5. Theatre—Live theatre is one of my favourite things. I can't get enough.
6. Comedy—Stand-up comedy is my favourite form of mindless entertainment.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How clothes are put together & how I could make it myself. Whether or not I like this record. How to do more with my work. What's for dinner.

Lately I have been spending more time thinking about various organisational techniques for making my life easier. Also taking up a lot of brain space at the moment are happiness & the pursuit of it, trying hard to project a truthful side of myself as a public face, & keeping my schedule organised.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Totally lame, but probably working. My businesses takes up a lot of my time. Friday nights are for working. Saturday nights, however, are for fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I live most of my life very publicly online—it's not hard to find if you're clever. Anything private doesn't make it to the internet.
You should message me if
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You like to go on dates. You like girls who are enthusiastic. You like girls who are sparkly. You like girls who are moderately tattooed with plans for more. You are respectful & not in the least cavalier. You respect my space (sometimes I need a lot of it). You can be cool with people who are dorkily earnest & deeply sincere.

If you think you might like me. I might like you!