I am semi-retired and will tell you about my work when we talk. For
now I will say only that my part-time self-employment is a labor of
love. As for the rest of my time, I fill it with writing fiction
(I'm serious about it), gardening (mostly roses), outdoor life
(walking in the beautiful Northcoast, hiking, biking, occasional
backpacking and skiing), yoga, and enjoying my kids, grandkids, and
wonderful friendship groups, not to mention enjoying my time alone.
I am an "ambivert - a blend of extrovert and introvert in roughly
equal parts. That's it for now, save for saying that I need to be
What I’m doing with my life
I have a passionate part-time vocation and an even more passionate
avocation. For work I am a self-employed mediator. I work with
couples seeking to divorce amicably, particularly when it involves
children, and I provide this service under contract with Indian
tribes. I love it, but I love my avocation even more: writing
fiction. For me stories get right to - and closer to - the heart of
any matter than discourse. I'll take a good novel over good
nonfiction most of the time. There are other good things happening
for me: my kids and grandkids who bless my life by being here; my
friendships, the natural world; my co-housing community, my roses.
I could go on.
I’m really good at
Writing fiction. (I have published several short stories and have
written a novel that deserves a home. My work, which involves
helping people in difficult situations. Growing roses. Making a
nice home. Being devoted to my family and friends. Being a good
The first things people usually notice about me
My friendliness and the way I show interest in other people. I
would rather hear about you than tell you about me, but I will do
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Best recently read book: Winter's Bone; best movies: A River Runs
Through It and To Kill A Mockingbird, two of my favorite books that
the movie versions captured with near perfection; music: broad
tastes with particular love of simple tunes with lyrics that
approach poetry (rare and difficult); food: I eat simply and
healthily at home, think my tastes are broad, and have an easier
time saying what I don't like.
The six things I could never do without
My kids and grandkids
A small town with lots of beautiful nature around it
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to spend less time thinking and more time doing.
How to get my hands around experience in the way I do: with
narrative (story) rather than discourse and exposition (analyzing
things) - It's a different way of thinking that suits me better.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the recent past, my Friday nights have been quiet. It's the one
time I permit myself to watch news and special interest shows on
public television. I have enjoyed this but would rather spend some
of this time with a lovely companion who would want to go out for
fine entertainment, travel, play, or enjoy each other quietly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am open about most things, which will become apparent to you when
you meet me. Because the sensitive work I do in a small town means
that some people might recognize me here, I would rather be
discreet and not answer that publicly. There are quite private
things I will tell you about when trust grows or even before. I do
take risks when it feels right. So you will hear about the valleys
as well as the peaks.
You should message me if
If what I've said appeals to you. If you are a happy, positive
person who wants to have authentic intimacy, who wants to get there
carefully, who wants to have joyous and serious friendship as the
basis for all the possibilities that follow. If you think of
yourself as dynamic, peaceful and attractive with a bright light
shining from within you. If you love being alive.
"Anywhere" really means Northern California and Southern Oregon.