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35 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:18am
Asian, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Portuguese (Okay), Other (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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In college, my best friend asked me my mission in life. I said, "to give life to beauty." I'd like to think I do that, especially in my writing, although keep in mind that my aesthetic is equal parts Pablo Neruda and Beavis and Butthead.

In the spitting image of Messrs. B & B, I excel at supporting others. I regularly share job (and romantic) opportunities with friends, and enthusiastically edit cover letters and grant proposals when asked. One friend, long single, married a woman to whom I purposely introduced her. I like to see people thrive and fulfill their mission in life.

My innate ability to connect with people from different cultures has opened many opportunities and defined my life. I have family – biological and honorary – all over the country and world. I have good friends who live in bamboo huts in jungle villages, drinking water from springs, and other good friends who live in comparative mansions, drinking water from bottles. Who's richer?

I've been humbled by many experiences while traveling, including:
- beholding a manta ray glide beneath me in the Indian Ocean.
- being moved to tears in Angkor Wat upon hearing music played by men who lost limbs to US landmines.
- being 'adopted' by a Zapotec woman in Oaxaca when my mother was very ill.

I open doors for other people. I revere elders. I write letters by hand. I greet strangers on the street. Was I born two centuries tardy?

I'm looking for a woman who will bring out my best and inspire me to grow. A fitness/meditation/travel partner would be awesome. My ideal relationship is abundant in respect, friendship, admiration, honesty, care, fascination, flirtation, passion, romance, hilarity, and trust. I am attracted to confidence, curiosity, compassion, critical thinking, boldness, ambition, accomplishment, directness, and sass. A love of the outdoors is essential. Extra points if you've a black belt.
What I’m doing with my life
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My day job is writing for theatre, film and tv. But I *really* want to be a receptionist.

Joking aside, I'm very fortunate to support myself by writing. It allows me to explore endless worlds -- the Texas-Mexico border, Neverland, Donald Rumsfeld's vacation home. I'm grateful for my work.

Also, taking my life and career to new heights, and depths. This is sometimes demanding. And I'm cultivating active gratitude, acceptance, and awareness. And an arsenal of dirty jokes.

Note: For those frightened by societally-induced preconceptions about writers, know that I have opted for no debt in favor of a retirement account.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
surviving malaria.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People say my smile, but they're probably staring at my derriere.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gabriel García Márquez inspired me to write my first novel. I think I'm going to title it 'One Hundred Years of Solitude.'

I loved watching Zombieland in rural Guatemala. I also love films by David Lynch, Werner Herzog, Kim-Ki Duk and Chan-wook Park. If Herzog remade Zombieland, I might have to found a religion around it.

Janelle Monae tore it up at Davies Symphony Hall last year.

My favorite shopping spot is the horse auction in Kalona, Iowa.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ceviche. Peru's is the best. Dare to debate me on that?
El mar.
The blues.
Capsaicin. The more the merrier.
Empty space.
My bathrobe. I wore it to my last day of class in grad school.
Kung fu fighting.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
languages and linguistic revitalization
indigenous cultures and sovereignty
the craft of writing
what life would be like as a plant
borders and maps
our debts to the future and the past
buying land
E.T. in drag
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
One of my closest friends voted for Dubya – twice.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you can help me improve my salsa moves. Or would be game to take a class with me.
você fala português.
you embrace honesty and authenticity in communication, even when it's hard.
you like to imagine. And smile.
you love yourself.