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My self-summary Propose an edit

Woo-hoo,,,, I can date again:)

Hi, I'm a polyamorous male with long hair, tattoos, a goatee and a Buddha belly that makes a great pillow. For simplicities sake, I identify as bi but I really like the term Queer, aside from being all-encompassing it also just sounds cool, no really, just let it role off the tongue, Qqquueeerrrrrrrr. There, doesn't that sound like an expensive French cheese? MMmmm I'll have a Queer omelet please:)

I'm Pagan and love camping and being out in nature but don't do that nearly as much as I would like. NOTE on the religion thing: yes I'm Pagan, but I get along just as well with Agnostics, Buddhists, Humanists, Unitarians, the more liberal Jews and Christians as well as non-evangelical Atheists, heck, the last guy I dated was a Muslim (not a very religious one though:). Also, I have a very high regard for things like Evolution (yes Evolution is capitalized damn it), critical thinking and the scientific method, and so often have more in common with Agnostics and Atheists then with the more fluffy type of New Agers. That being said, my spirituality is very important to me and is a big part of my life. On the one hand Paganism for me is as much an ideological/cultural/psychological thing as anything else,on the other hand, yes I do really believe in this stuff and I do really enjoy a good ritual, and yeah, I'm as much an occult geek as a sci-fi geek, and can spend hours discussing the relative merits of Golden Dawn vs. Wiccan style quarter/elemental correspondences, but I also bathe regularly, can hold down a job, change a diaper, take care of my garden and I don't assume that Mercury retrograde is the cause of everything that goes wrong in the universe (just some things). To quote JMS: "Brother Michael, faith and reason are like the two shoes you wear on your journey. You get a lot farther with both than just one"

I'm a huge history/mythology/folklore geek, and a bookworm. I also love Science Fiction (a Poly Heinlein fan, how unique), especially B5. I love martial arts but haven't practiced in a few years. Politically I'm VERY left. I think of myself as a feminist, and get along best with other lefty, tree hugging, liberal, blue state, sex positive,commie, pinko scum. I also have a bit of a mischievous and rebellious nature and tend to have a problem with authority figures. I guess New York attitude with San Francisco politics is a good way to describe me:)

I live with my female primary partner, (her profile is crista42). While the two of us would like to eventually find a third partner, we also date individually and I'm open to anything from a potential long term partner (including ongoing long term committed secondaries) or casual fun, or friends with benefits or just friends

A NOTE on the above part: We have a beautiful baby boy, and while I am now dating again, I'm starting off slow due to the time eaten up by the little dude. I am also very interested in making new friends (We're new to the area), preferably other Poly, liberal, kinky, queer, low drama,freak like beings, and if that leads to more then friends down the road, that's cool too. And we're both very interested in meeting other alternative parents for friendship, community, mutual support, and play-dates for the kids. (you know you're a parent when the word play-date has a whole new meaning :):):)

I guess I'm a typical Poly person in that I've always felt like this is the life style for me but didn't hear of the word polyamory until the late '90s. I've been with my primary partner for over seven years now, and we've lived together for four. (we were Poly before we met and were introduced by each others lovers, it's a fun story)

Ok, what else can I say about myself, I'm a Pisces, and tend to be shy around new people, however once I get comfortable with someone I get very outgoing.

Some of my most intense spiritual experiences have involved being alone in the woods sitting by a tree.

I've now been told by two completely unrelated people (and had it confirmed by a third) that I remind them of the character of "Stuart" from "Dykes to Watch Out for", I'm still trying to figure out if that's a good thing or a bad thing??????????????????????, but I'm starting to realize that either way, it's at least partly a true thing. OY!!! (though I think I'm a lot kinkier then Stuart:)

I love the Urban life and am equally comfortable in a rural setting but strongly believe that suburbs are the root of much evil and anyone that actually prefers suburban culture(or rather, lack thereof) when given a choice should be deported to Coventry (no not the British city of that name, I wouldn't saddle the Brits with American suburbanites, that would just be cruel. ),

I've been told my sense of humor is demented, perverse, highly cynical and often inappropriate. I'd like to think I'm also kind, loving, affectionate, loyal and funny, as well as goofy (and sometimes Sneezy and Grumpy and Lazy and Doc:). I can also be very, very, very kinky(you're gonna have to ask if you want specifics) but don't have to be. I enjoy being lazy on Sunday mornings. I like chess and some board games ("RISK" brings out my competitive side like you wouldn't believe. Must be something about that world domination thing) Oh, and I can't spell to save my life.

As for sports, I have no problem with people that like to actually play sports, and have been known to enjoy a game of volleyball or racquetball now and again, but watching organized sports on a regular bases has always struck me as a bit silly (and generally a turn off, unless mediated by lots of positive other character traits). Organized team sports (especially in this country) are a modern form of "bread and circuses" designed and perpetuated by the corporate-military-industrial complex to distract the plebeian masses from issues that really mater like health care, the outsourcing of our manufacturing base, deliberate deterioration of the separation of church and state, and the full blown conservative assault on the democratic process. (OK, occasionally watching a soccer game can be fun, but I got to be in the right mood, and I don't follow any particular team), (OK, I admit, I just wanted an excuse to say corporate-military-industrial complex :) who doesn't?) And like I said, I have nothing against actually playing sports (or non sport active things like hiking and camping which are among my favorite activities) or even enjoying watching sports on occasion or having a favored team, just the "fanatic" watching of such.

there is also a bunch of stuff I don't necessarily seek out on my own but which i tend to enjoy if I'm with someone that's into it, including Anime, live music, RPGs, live theater, renaissance fairs, or Hentai among other things.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

�Come Pinky we must prepare for tomorrow night�

�Why what are we doing tomorrow night Brain?�

�Same thing we do every night Pinky, TRY TO TAKE OVER THE WORLD�

getting into some volunteer work locally. Planning on going back to school soon in a year or two (as soon as is practical with the kid, as I am the stay at home parent for a few years) I'm always happier when I'm learning something new, that way, instead of a job I hate that pays next to nothing, I can have a job I love that pays next to nothing:):):)

reading, changing diapers, reading, changing diapers, eating, reading, sleeping, reading,.... cooking from scratch, and learning to bake.

being a stay at home dad and learning to bake.

Oh, and spending large amounts of time bitching about how Barnes and Nobles and Starbucks have pushed all the used bookstores and independent coffee bars out of New York City, damn corporate bastards. Yet another reason I moved to SF

And I recently started to listen to a lot of NPR

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Procrastinating, listening, pontificating, snuggling, cuddling, being able to justify anything, planning my eventual rise to Supreme Overlord of the Universe, being a good friend, cooking for multiple people, reorganizing your book shelves according to my "master book organizational theory", OHhh and I love a good friendly debate/argument. (I'm told I'm good at some .... Ahemm.... other things too, but we can leave that for another time)

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

the braided beard, or perhaps the Utilikilt. Nowadays it's probably the fact that I have a baby strapped to my chest.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Books/authors: Oh boy, too many but here goes. I mostly read a lot of non-fiction including ethnography's, anthropology, popularized books on science and math (not that I'm good at math, I just find it fascinating) Egyptology, alternate histories, mythology, folklore, Ancient History, anything on the history of the enlightenment period or 18th and 19th century secret/fraternal societies, cool alternative liberal stuff like omnivores dilemma or guns, germs and steel, or three cups of tea or anything with random useless facts. but I do read a lot of fiction also; Grew up on: Asimov especially the Foundation books, Heinlein especially Stranger in a Strange Land but much of his other work too, Arthur C Clark, George Orwell, Milan Kundera, Orson Scott Card, Frank Herbert,,, More recently have gotten into: Octavia E Butler especially her Earthseed books, actually Octavia Butler is now one of my favorite authors of all time, Kim Stanley Robinson's Mars Trilogy, Emma Bull, Charles De Lint, Rite of Passage by Alexei Panshin, H.G. Wells, Ursula K. Le Guin, David Brin, Eric Flint though military sci-fi isn't really my thing but Flint is just a very good writer, and many many more but can't think of them right now. Ohh, and some Erotica occasionally:)

Movies/TV: LOTR, French Twist, Saving Grace, Princess Bride, Splender, Monty Python any interesting documentaries like Devil's Playground, born in brothels or Trembling before G-D, any good sci-fi.(OK, I'll be honest, almost any sci-fi:) South Park, Simpsons, Babylon 5. Horror, historical action, and good comedy. Oh, and any Star trek except enterprise, let's just pretend that spin off never happened shall we. In fact, I'm not even going to capitalize it.

Music: Pretty much anything except country. Used to be a big Metal Head in high school, now really like world music.

Food: I'm mostly omnivorous, love chocolate, Ethiopian, Thai, Chinese, Indian, and the Eastern European peasant food I was raised on (Mmmm fried everything, yum), most meat (don't worry, I get along very well with vegetarians, I cook for one all the time) actually, the only food I really can't stand is eggplant (eggplant is the work of the devil, no, really, it's all part of a conspiracy to take over our souls by making our insides slimy, I kid you not)

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

Actually I'm pretty adaptable, so the only things that I could NEVER live with out are: Oxygen, H2O, nutritional sustenance, and the proper air pressure to keep my body from either imploding or exploding.

However, here's what I would "prefer" to not live without:

My son, my partner, caffeine, books, good sex, hugs, laughter, my Utilikilt cause it shows off my hairy legs, trees, sugar, my wok, my slow cooker, bacon, learning new things, netflix,,,,,, OK, I know that's more then six (did I mention I like breaking the rules?)

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

Alternative political structures, especially some of the ideas in Kim Stanley Robinson's "Mars Trilogy" (what would you call that, Privatized Socialism?). I especially like the idea of a drafted legislature. Sex (the more deviant the better:). How to get more people to leave the suburbs and go urban. How to encourage space exploration and the different ways to best implement my plans for world domination. Oh and one of my current obsessions is Monolithic Domes these things are so cool, I want one. OK I admit it, I also think about my hair:):):)

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

I did a lot of going out when I was younger, now I tend to stay home more often then not and watch DVDs or read or snuggle, but I do like to go out occasionally.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

I want to be the meat in a Patrick Stewart and Whoopie Goldberg sandwich,

You should message me if Propose an edit

-You know great places to go hiking in the Bay Area that one can get to by public transit and want to show them to me

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-You are a fellow alternative parent and want to set up play dates for our wee beasties, or otherwise network, hang out, ext.

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-You've read this far and chuckled at least once

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-You're interested in getting to know me better

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-You know what the word compersion means

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-You've realized that you want to become one of my minions and want to help me take over the world

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-You've realized that you want me to be one of your minions and help you take over the world

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-You just feel like it.

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